why do dads that pay child support always tell the mom that they are paying their car payment or house payment

Question

would you guys like an itemized statement of purchases? id be glad to provide one....then you all could see how very little your "BIG CHILD SUPPORT" really helps.

big d my child was asleep ....dont you feel like an *** now.

Answer 1

my buddy was working about 60 hours a week to come home to find his wife cheating on him. They got divorced, and he got involved in drugs, lost his good job, and still has to pay her almost $1,000 a month for one child. On top of that, her family is loaded, she has no job, and recently took a vacation to the caribbean without their child.

That child support might not seem like a lot to you, but to some guys, it's A LOT to handle. You seemed to be taking a crack at ALL guys, but there are just as many floozies out there just after that child support check as there are dead beat dads

sorry, after reading the comments on here, i've changed my mind. NOT JUST EVERY SINGLE DIVORCED FATHER, EVERY SINGLE MAN IN THE WORLD IS AN ******!

Answer 2

Because they think that it is still there money. If they were the ones that were collecting child support they wouldn't say a darn thing about it. Even if it did go towards house payments or the car..that still is used for the child's use. It gives the kid a roof over their head and a way to get to doctor's appointments, schools, ect. It cracks me up when someone will say that they are paying to much in child support, when in fact it usually doesn't come close to what is actually costs to support that child.

Answer 3

There is a lot of bitterness and pain that goes into break ups and divorces. Unfortunately for those that are immature then try to claim they are still the bread winner or person in power by the support they pay. Make sure you don't discuss child support in front of the kids. Let them know that their father pays to help support them as that is his duty and a parent.
Then don't let it get to you. If you feel you are not getting adequate child support then look into that. It varies by State but it is usually around 17% of gross earnings for one child and 25% for two and 30% for three, Plus medical insurance and half of childcare expenses. So, the payment should be helpful to you. Are you living within your means and budget? I am a single mom of three now - so I know about child support and making it work and I do agree that even the pecentages don't cover half of the actual costs in raising a child - but unfortunately - that is the way it is. At one point my daughter's father would be angry when he found out we went out to dinner once a month - saying we shouldn't spend his money that way. I spoke right up - first telling him that child support is NOT his money - it is money for the child (rent, heat, food, clothes and everything else they need to be happy) and second that prior to our break up we usually ate out (or got pizza) at least once or twice a month - so I budget and plan and the kids earn the reward of going out to eat once a month - that I am maintaining the standard of living the children are used to. And that it is none of his business how often we eat out or what we do - as long as I have the bills paid and the kids are cared for. But again, for some men it is a defense to feeling like a failure and for wanting to be the one in control - it can be hard to have outside agencies (family court and child support enforcement) involved in what is a personal matter. But, brush it off and don't let them bother you with their petty attitudes.

Answer 4

child support is based on the incomes of both the parents by the courts in most cases.

and these days, the money is taken out of their paychecks. if you don't have this arrangement, then maybe you need to go visit your child support department and change some things?

sometimes child support doesn't go that far, but it is for the kids not us.

i had to get a better job when i was divorced... so i know what you mean.

Answer 5

Probably because they want to feel like they made a big contribution and without their "support" where would you be and make you feel like they have so much control over your finances, etc. Like you said, if they only knew how much diapers and baby food is and how quickly children grow out of clothes, not to mention child care, doctors visits, prescriptions, and normal life situations (like if they want to participate in a sport or dance class) and how about school trips and school supplies and school clothes. How about birthday gifts for all the nice friends they have and get invited to their parties, and how about Christmas gifts for these kids? They haven't got a clue! Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 6

My child support pays my car loan, her dad can think whatever, i really don't care, but as far as im concerned I need my car for tranportation for my daughter and I, as long as mothers arn't using it for drugs and alcohol it doesn;'t matter how you use it. It's funny how dad's can ***** about certain things but in reality they dont understand the hard work it takes to raise a child, they always look pass that, single mothers/fathers have 2 full times jobs, work and taking care of children/child,

Answer 7

Dads who make these types of comments are bitter about having to pay the child support and make comments like this to feel better about their whining. How can they whine if they agree that providing financial support for their children is appropriate and right? Thankfully, not all men make comments like this and continue to fulfill their responsibilites and commitment to their children. After all, it's not the children's fault their parents couldn't get it together so they could remain one family unit, right? These Dads are mature.

Answer 8

hey babe, it seems that you is the one that has the guilty consience and is trying to justify the expenditure. As for me, I couldn't care less if the mom was paying off car, house or even a high powered new fangled vibrator. Once its left my pocket, I have no control over it. Yeah, I know, all us men are A Holes, how can we ever forget, you keep reminding us all the time.

Answer 9

I do know some moms that don't spend their child support checks on their children, they buy themselves clothes, get their nails done, go out with friends. It's really sad. I can't stand women that spread their legs for a welfare or child support check, they make me sick.

Answer 10

This is a Perfect and Sensible question. The intelligent dads who do that are So Kewl.
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