how do you deel with a crisis?

Question

How do you deel with something bad that is happening to someone in your family that you love of course and is one of your closest grandparents when you dont feel like everyone else does. like it hasnt hit you that it is happening like something like this cant happen to this person i guess because you love them to much. he had a heart attack and isnt doing well everyone around me is crying but i'm not. but that doesnt mean i dont care because i do! whats going on?

oh yeah hes my great grandpa
im 14
and he lives like 2 hours away im up here for a week

Answer 1

For many people it is hard to cry. I know I loved my father dearly, rest his soul. When he passed away I could not cry. But a few years later, as I miss him very much while I was thinking about him at night lying in bed all of the sudden the tears came gushing down.

Every one reacts differently in emotional situations. So don't put yourself on a guilt trip. You have nothing to feel guilty about.

Answer 2

We are all born with unique personalities and identities. We'd be like robots wandering around this earth if we were all alike. Therefore, we all deal with crisis in our own unique ways. You should not feel bad about not being able to cry. The important thing at this point and time, due to the age of your great-grandfather, is to spend the quality time you can with him and tell him you love him. Life is too short, make sure you tell him all you need to while he is with you. Also, thank him for all he contributed to your life. My grandfathers were always the most respected and important role models I had. They are both gone now, and I miss them tremendously. I wish you strength and luck during this sad time.

Answer 3

You handle a crisis (and this isn't one) by not thinking about it as a crisis. While everyone else in your family is standing around wailing and sobbing away, you have the presence of mind to want to help him.
Your actions show more concern for his welfare than theirs does.
Do what you can for him (visit often; read to him; help him with his meals, whatever; and let the others wallow in pity. You may make the difference in whether he survives.

Answer 4

This happened to me with my uncle. I loved him so much but I couldn't cry when he was sick and dying. I later on realize I was angry for him leaving me and also I was in denial of the situation. You have made the right start to talk about it. Just expressing your emotions can help your along this painful process. Don't worry everyone deals with pain differently.

Answer 5

I was the same way in a crisis...Was told I do not know how to handle a crisis...We want to do something and be alert enough to deal with what is going on.

Answer 6

Hi...

i'm sorry about your grandfather's illness, and i hope he will recover.

people cry when a person is sick and when they feel he might die, because they are worried about their own loss, to be quite honest. and of course, they don't want to see your grandfather suffer.

the best thing you can do is to be supportive... visit your grandfather when you can, and let him know you love him and care.

beyond that, his life and illness is out of your hands... i know you care.

sending hugs and hope.

Answer 7

Dunno