Am 27, he's 30. We've been dating for quite a while now. At the beginning of the year he told me he'll marry me by July. Now we are approaching mid month he isn't saying anything. Even if i ask what his plans are, he jus says i should be patient. He doesn't talk about marriage anymore ever since i started sleeping with him. He'll tell me about the house he's building, how far he's gone with it and stuff like that but wont say anything about us. Should i be worried
2007-07-11 02:48:05 · 32 answers · asked by Sammy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
uhh cuz its sposed to b a surprise why wuld u wanna spoil it??
2007-07-11 02:50:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing how long a while is, I wouldn't rush things. Why spoil a relationship with a marriage if it's too soon? If he feels ready to marry, he will do it. Forcing him into the issue will not help, it could cause him to feel overwhelmed.
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 6 years, have a 4 y/o daughter, and I have been wearing his ring for almost 3 years. Not married yet, though. I am almost 27 and he's 34. We are happy the way it is, although I would love to be married, I know that a lot of times when you rush into a marriage, the marriage doesn't last.
Make sure it's for real, and that he's not just stringing you along for the bedroom duties. Be patient, if he loves you and you love him, it will happen when you least expect it.
Good things come to those who wait, right?
2007-07-11 03:00:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 03:52:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes building a house? its probably for you two to live in when you;re married. He probably dosnt talk about it cause he wants to get things lined out first before taking on the responsibility of marrige. Dont worry. As he says be patient. I might not happen in July this month, but if you love him whats the rush?
2007-07-11 03:26:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend of nearly 3 years would often hint about proposing, saying he's waiting for the right time, blah blah blah, then change the subject, and was VERY reluctant to discuss marriage. That was, until he proposed a few weeks ago, and I was so taken by surprise, as I had it in my head that it wasn't going to happen. Hopefully, your other half is waiting till you least suspect it, and will surprise you with the wedding of your dreams!!! Will keep my fingers crossed for you!!!
2007-07-11 02:59:06 · answer #5 · answered by ........ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How important is this to you? Marriage is a huge step. One should take all the time one needs to be sure. If you are happy as things are, then be patient. If you are not happy then maybe this isn't the right guy after all.
2007-07-11 02:50:50 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your goal is to marry this man, then yes, I'd be worried.
I think it's time for you to set a mental "deadline" and let him know you won't wait forever. Then mean what you say, and move on.
You don't mention if this house is supposed to be for the both of you? I wouldn't move in with him without a marriage proposal and a firm date.
2007-07-11 02:52:49 · answer #7 · answered by Catherine A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds possibly like he is wanting to surprise you. Just do like he says and be patient. If nothing happens by next month, then you should get worried since he gave you his word that it would happen by this month.
2007-07-11 02:52:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should relax, and let things happen, he is waiting to suprise you, and the more you pressure him, the more he is going to put it off asking you to marry him.
If you have faith in your relationship, have faith in him, trust him, love him and know that you are the only one for him.
I have plenty of friends that have pressured their men into marriage, the men broke it off because they do not like to be pressured, they want to do it on their own time and they will.
The more you pressure him, the more you will pull him away, and you do not want that.
Be patient, and he will come around, men like to do this on their own time and in their own way.
If you really, really love him, then wait, and do not pressure him!!
You have a good thing going here, please do not ruin it!
2007-07-11 02:58:14 · answer #9 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but i cant stress this any more..don't push him because all you will do is push him away..no man/boy wants to pushed into something by a female..must be something to do with ther genetics lol i dont know but seriously as soon as you lay off the wedding talk it will give hima chance to think about it in his own mind without hearing your wants and your opinions..also if you are talking about marriage you obviosuly picture yourself spending forever with this man so whats the rush? forevers a long time..have you considered its your insecuritys about yourself and your relationship that are fueling your craving to get that ring?..calm down i doubt hes going anywhere..goodluck!
2007-07-11 02:54:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say there could be many different reasons only you can really answer this question as your the one that knows him personally!. It wouldn't be right for any of us to say for example "leave him he's no good" or " he'll surprise you" etc you know him best.
2007-07-11 02:54:00 · answer #11 · answered by on-point 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋