Have you ever been in a controlling relationship? How did you leave your partner?

Answer 1

Just put one foot in front of the other and soon you'll be walking out the door.

Answer 2

I haven't, but my mom was. My pops was abusive, manipulating, and controlling. The key to leaving is to make your plan, and then just do it. Collect all your most important belongings (documents, medication, that sort of thing) and put them in one place. Change your bank account. Find a place to stay. Then just go. It is rough at first, but with some hard work and a little luck you can make it through, and you'll be better off in the long run. My mom wasted a good 10 years or more of her life waiting for my dad to change or improve, but eventually wading around in the water doesn't help. You just have to gather yourself together, make a plan, and just do it. Then stop answering his calls, call the cops if he comes to your house, and cut off contact. If you have children or are married, call an attorney immediately for further advice.

Good luck!

Answer 3

I waited until she was at work then hired a moving van and moved all MY stuff out of the house. I parked the locked van in storage and stayed at an old friends house whom he would never even think of looking. I left him a note on the kitchen table saying I don't want to be in the relationship any more and have moved on. Sorry things did not work out! Goodbye.

Answer 4

I have not been in one myself, but my mother has and he was controlling because he was an alcoholic.

A really bad one!!

He used her, he abused her, literally, he made her life totally miserable, it took her about ten years to smarten up and leave him, and when she did she slept in a car, because she had no place to go, then she stayed with a friend, then she worked until she had enough money to leave the state that she was living in and now she is living up here in the same town with me, my husband, my daughter, my grandmother, and all of my cousins!!! We are all together, and we are all happy!!!! It is so nice to have family living in the same city!!!

My mom is not remarried, but loves spending time with my daughter, my grandmother, me and the whole rest of her family, including her sister and her brother!!!!

Do like my mom did, just leave!!!!

Answer 5

I was in an abusive marriage. It was hard but one day while he was at work I called a friend of mine over and we loaded up the cars as fast as we could and I left. I would not take his phone calls and I immediatily went to a domestic violence counselor. It was hard cause he always made me feel gulity but with the support of my family, friends and counselor I had the strength to say gone this time. And not he is somebody's else's problem.. Good luck and if u need to talk e-mail me

Answer 6

Not really, I have dated people who have attempted to be controlling , but I cut this off. I remember him telling that controling me will not ensure my loyality or stability for a potential relationship. I am my own person. Controling doesn't mean that you have their best interest at hand, and it makes you a bit crazy. Not for me.

Answer 7

I finally had enough and had to leave..... it is not an easy thing to do, but you have to!! It will not get any better.. I was in one for 9 years. It may have been somewhat easier for me because I didn't stay in the same area... I moved across the country, and never had any contact with him since. It was the best thing I could do for myself!! Good luck to you!!

Answer 8

yes i have.
and you will eventually get so sick and tired of it that it will be easy for you to leave.
but if you wait until that point, your heart could be scarred.
if your being controlled by anyone it is not a good situation.
that person doesn't allow you to just be yourself. and some people that are controllong eventually end up being mentally and physically abusive. so get out before it comes down to that. good luck :)

Answer 9

No. But I've worked at a shelter and heard plenty of stories. The sooner you do it, the easier it is from what I've heard. And don't negotiate just end the relationship.

Answer 10

I just left. No warning or anything. I was at work and on my lunch break I went and bought a bus ticket and caught the bus. All I had were the clothes on my back. I left everything behind.