My brother is 8 and he also cries i am ok tho with them divorcing but not ok with it too at the same time but i really mad please please help me bc i know u ppl can help
2007-07-11 02:04:23 · 11 answers · asked by Jenna s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Its not your fault. that is what you have to know first . Some times people fall out of love . mom and dad are going to do what ever you need to make this easy for you and your brother talk to them and tell them how you feel . Hang in there .
2007-07-11 02:11:09 · answer #1 · answered by silver01222000 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey I Went Through The Exact Same Thing My Parents Divorced A year Ago When I Was 12 And Everything Is Great Now No More Fighting No More Arguments You Definitely Get Stronger Through This Stuff Look At It This Way You Still Get To See Both Of Them Right ? You Get Double The Presents At Birthdays And Christmas.You Also have to Be Strong For Your Brother Hes Only 8 He May Not Even Understand Whats Going On I Know It May be The Hardest Time to Be Strong But Do it For You Little Brother He Needs YOU The Most Right Now Also Talk To A Family Friend Or A Grandparent I Don't What I Would Have Done Without My Grandparents I Hope Things Get Better For You Best Wishes
2007-07-11 09:22:57 · answer #2 · answered by Paitin C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi hon.
i found a couple of websites for teens, and the first one has a good article about coping with parents' divorce.. the second has a small article, but i've included it, because there seems to be a lot of other, helpful information.
i'm sorry you family seems to be falling apart and that you're in pain. please remember it's NOT your fault -- sometimes divorce is the best solution when two people can no longer live together, and they've lost the love they once had between them.
Your parents continue to love YOU and your brother...
I hope these websites help, and also, you might check in the library or a book store for books on parents and coping with divorce.
sending hugs....! xo
2007-07-11 09:49:16 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 boys' and they went through the same thing no matter how bad things are between your parents they both still love you very much and although they won't admit it they love each other very much too, they just don't get along. You gotta remember there is nothing wrong with you both of your parents are good people but right now they are doing stupid things. It is easy for a kid to feel like there is something wrong with them when going through a divorce. After all you are a part of your mother and a part of your father, and if they don't get along then it makes you feel like someone is wrong and is either parent is wrong then deep inside you you feel that there is something wrong with you as well. You also feel very scared up until now you knew you had mom and dad to come home to and that they would always be there to protect you. They will still be there to protect you, in fact you will probably wind up with a closer and stronger relationship with each one. I just hope that your parents don't start trying to blame one another for the divorce, neither one is responsible for the divorce they just don't get along and need to take care of you guys now. If they try to put one another down in front of you tell them to stop and that by putting the other parent down they are insulting you because you are a part of them both. I wish you all the Love and luck in the world and I promise things will get better. Pray to God for strength it may not come soon but it will come when you most need it. Peace
2007-07-11 09:20:30 · answer #4 · answered by Big Deall 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
im 14, and my parents are divorced.
its difficult for the whole family.
you are making big changes...
your lifestyle will change.
its hard, but if your parents are no longer in love, you cant help that.
you will still be a family, just different surcomstances.
but i would recommend some theropy if its making you and your brother really upset.
it will do some good to talk out your feelings to someone in the professional world.
this is hard. i know.
my brother was 13 when my parents got divorced, and i was 9.
its hard on teenagers/kids.
but this is probabley ultimatly best for your family in the long run.
try to be more open to the new life style.
i wish you the best.
and i hope things get better for you and your brother.
2007-07-11 10:47:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Time heals all wounds. It doesn't seem like it now but in time things will get better. Remember it's them divorcing each other. They're not divorcing you. I'm sure they both love you and your brother very much. It may be for the best. One positive thing to look at is this: For birthdays and Christmas you'll get presents from both mom & dad.
2007-07-11 09:11:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all, IT IS NOT YOURS OR YOUR BROTHER'S FAULT, OK! They are adults and they are making a decision between them. This has nothing to do with you guys. Sometimes adults make decisions that hurt children. I am so sorry that this is what you are going through, but PLEASE, do not blame yourselves for something they have decided to do. You couldn't have done anything differently, you couldn't have acted better...nothing. This is a decision between both of them.
They love you both very much and they will be doing everything they can to make that change a bit easier. It isn't easy at all, it hurts and it will hurt for a long time. Be open with your parents, let them know how you feel. Don't shut them out and don't let them push you into making a decision you aren't ready for. My daughter handled it the best when we would ask her who she wanted to live with. She said, 'I don't know, I love you both so much.' and she left it at that. I hope it helps.
2007-07-11 09:22:39 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know it is a sad time for you and your bro. Your mom and dad love you both very much, they just don't love each other anymore, and it will be much easier on you not to see them fussing and fighting. It will get better as time goes on, maybe you can learn a lesson from this, when you get married make sure its the real thing so the same doesn't happen to your kids, Good luck and remember God loves you.
2007-07-11 09:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by emma 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Aww, hunni...I'm sorry to hear about you parents. First off, you have to understand its not you or your brother fault any of this is happening to you. My advice to you would be, just be strong. Everything will be okay. Some changes will take place and it will be hard but you still have your mom and dad who love you very much. Talk to them about how you feel. I promise it will make you feel a little better. Your brother needs you too, so befriend him. Take care!
2007-07-11 09:15:41 · answer #9 · answered by JB 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2007-07-11 09:31:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋