i have a sister who is 15 years older my parents are both dead. I am the youngest of 6 kids. I have thought for years she is more my mother then mom ever was has always been there for me until recently all she wants to do is cause trouble. I am in my 2nd marriage the 1st one lasted 3 years the family all treated him like sh** so we divorced. I admit this marriage has been rocky but we have been together 26 years I have been told by many how many times he has fu**** around on me I have never caught him in the act and refuse to go by what others tell me. Maybe I am stupid but anyway. I chose to stay in my marriage for my own dumb reasons. But now I am being told by my sister that my man has been in her Pants, And 2 of my other sisters also, tryed to go to bed with my Mother, Had my niece,and has fathered at least 4 kids by other women. I am so tired of the turmoil in the family I have changed my number and she still gets it. We moved she got our new address. It is always something.
2007-07-11 01:51:44 · 3 answers · asked by bjwill72961 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Honey, the trouble in your marriage isn't your sister, it's your man. You have to DO something about THAT. If you have various family members coming and telling you that he is doing all this stuff and you believe him over them, REMEMBER THIS. They were there LONG before he ever was. They love you. They DON'T want to see you hurt. They want what is best for you. If you keep listening to his pretty lies you are the one who is going to get hurt. That is what they are trying to avoid. It sounds to me like you have a good support network if you decide to leave him. Enough family members know about his activities outside your marriage bed and they would be willing to help you get started in a new life. You CAN do it on your own. You do NOT need this man in your life.
2007-07-11 02:12:11 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi....
the first thing i see is a lot of confusion inside of YOU about your self-worth.
it also looks like you and your husband have some homework to do on the relationship. (unless you want to live like this and turn a blind eye to his cheating, if that is really what he is doing?).
it's not healthy for you to allow others to affect your emotions, either. you need to let your sister know she is intruding when i comes to your marriage. every marriage has its fair share of problems and issues, and it's up to the couple to work things out.
for me, i wouldn't stick with this man, but you have to make the ultimate decision.
perhaps you could consider some therapy? talking to someone is a good way to sort things out, and to figure out what we really want and need in our lives....
i hope things work out for you.
2007-07-11 09:55:03 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry but i cannot support you on this as once a cheater always a cheater and if has cheated on you i fail to see the reason how anybody would want to sleep with a man whose body has been shared around ........... eeekkkssssssss
2007-07-11 08:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by aunt_webby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋