Sexually abused children?

Question

Does anyone think that it is possible for a child to act normally in child parent relationship that is being abused. My boyfriend was molested as a child and i think it was by his father. Some of the things that he said in the past kind of had me curious. MY gut instinct, as a woman, tells me something is not right between him and his daughter that he is raising by himself. Here is the complicated part, the kid act like she loves her father and acts like a normal kid, but my instinct wont let this one go. Can a child act in this manner and at the same time be introduced emotional and/or sexual abuse

Answer 1

Yes. Possible. Very sorry.
Childs in early ages especially with fear of loosing the last parent can act normal under abuse.

Answer 2

Before answering your other questions i did not know this. This just kind of complicates things. DO NOT - I repeat - DO NOT MAKE ASSUMPTIONS that just becuase he was molested that it its happening to her. This is kind of iffy because alot of times the abused could be the abuser, but there are many parents that are very leery on that becuase its alot of emotional and sexual damage that is something that will be an issue for the rest of one's life. Does she act the way she does because she is spoiled or her father buys her things so she wont say anything? This is something that you do not know. You mentioned that you have her once in a while. Take a shot and ask her if her father is touching her in a way that makes her uncomfortable. If she hesitates and gets upset, then you need to call Children and Youth or children's services and ask them for more information on sexually abused children.

If you call either one of those places, just say that you are curious on how to spot different behaviors. Do not give them your name or number becuz they will start to pry into places you are not sure of and that is not something you want to just say becuase its your "gut feeling" Is it your instinct? Ask questions to professionals first. Because you dont want to make assumptions and you'll be wrong. Find out more by asking questions WIT A PROFESSIONAL.

Answer 3

My older sister was raped at the age of 4.
She acts and functions completely normal.
Except for the fact of being a little more promiscuous than most teens. I've noticed that in a lot of sexually abused children. Some become either avoidant and meek. Others being very sexually active at young ages. I think its because they either feel that they don't want it to happen again so they try not to bug anybody or give off that they are asking for it. For the promiscuous ones, I think its that they feel that its already been taken from them, so who cares! They just give it to everybody and anybody. Dont get me wrong, most do go on to live normal lives and leaving past where it belongs. Nobody actually knows for certain who has been sexually abused by looking at someone.

This is my opinion.
I'm a 15 yr old girl from the GTA.

Answer 4

normal? no. you'll be able to notice things. a child will go through some stages after being molested. depression starts.
depending on how young the child is, this may be the only "form" of love they know of. and not know that it is not normal. it is something that will effect them for years to come.
could he possibly be doing this to his daughter? maybe , maybe not. it has been known to happen with adults that have been molested, molest youngt ones. then there are times when molested adults never have an urge to do the same. please dn't jump to conclusions, an accusation can ruin a man's life. be cautious

Answer 5

I even have discovered with the aid of examine that maximum those that abuse, have been abused themselves. and that they on no account have been given therapy or counseling. so they became unwell. And with this ailment, they bypass directly to others what they discovered from their abuser. i don't think of it has something to do with Celibacy. clergymen decide for to be holy and proceed to be One with God and God in basic terms. it quite is their selection. They decide for to circulate away the life of a guy of the international, to become a guy of the Church. people can get lonely, yet you will possibly assume that a priest might locate excitement in having dinner with acquaintances, greater advantageous than sexually abusing a infant. not all clergymen are undesirable. we can not take a seat and choose all of them because of the fact they don't look to be all this way. basically now and back, i think of, something got here approximately to them of their lives that makes them stray from the the basically right option direction. Its a ailment.

Answer 6

Almost all abusers were abused themselves, but not all who have been abused will become abusers. Trust me on this.

Don't jump to any conclusions, just keep your eyes open. And don't make any accusations without hard facts. Sexual abuse of a child is one of those crimes that a person is guilty until they can prove their innocence. You don't want to accuse an innocent man.

Answer 7

Yes, because the child is so dependent on the parent. Notice things like dark circles under eyes, jealousy of you, reluctance to talk about her relationship with father, constantly trying to please father, over or under weight, too touchy feely with father. Watch father for signs of manipulation.

If you truly feel the need, contact Social Services, Dept. of Child Welfare anonymously. You may be saving her from a life of misery.

Answer 8

what do u mean?? that your bf will sexually abuse her?? if so ihe wont i dont think coz if it happened to him and he knows how bad it is he wont do it to her!! a child can act normally even when she duz find out what happened to her dad! i was sexually abused when i was a kid too it duznt effect me that much in my life now the only thing taht effect me is if i go near a pedofile (he hs a prob with his head) he lived next door to us and some things that peope say that the person said to me when they IT said things to me u understand??

Answer 9

you need to stop your thinking right now, you are stiring up a very big issue without any facts. sounds like you have no idea what size problem you could create and once again you have no facts. That is not something you play guessing game with.