Ok, heres the situation.
I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months, Im am 17, he is 22. For the first 6 months we never argued, but now we seem to argue quite a lot. I fall out with him mainly when he has too much to drink, or when he has opinions which I don't agree with. On a night out, I am afraid he will get too drunk, but he would never do anything to hurt me.
We have seen a lot less of each other recently, as he has a new job, where he works shifts, and I have had my A-level exams to do, which had to tkae priority, and he understood that.
But now, we are still arguing quite a lot, and im not sure what to do about the relationship. In 2 months I am leaving to go to university, would this put even more strain on the relationship?
He loves me more than anything, and says he will do anything to help and support me. But I am not in love with him anymore. I have been very honest about this. Should i stay and work at the relationship? Or make a new start?
Help me please.
2007-07-10 21:59:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
really wanna know?
2007-07-10 22:25:43 · answer #1 · answered by Danny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweets, you have all ready answered your own question. You have stated that you don't love him. Then its' time to move on. Make a new start. You are going to school this fall to start the rest of your life. Go in open headed, open hearted and without in bad bagage. I am not sure why you are doubting yourself and want to stay and work at the relationship. There has be love to want to work at relationship. If you aren't in love any more....it isn't going to come back right away. Once the two of you are apart and you have started school and time has passed you might find your way back to each other. You never know what the future brings.
I wish you luck at school and with your future. Take care!
2007-07-10 22:08:18 · answer #2 · answered by pinkribbons&walking4boobies 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are getting ready to embark on the first step in adulthood. Give yourself the opportunity to enjoy your experience at the university. Best to leave him behind, if you do not have the same feelings for him. This is your best chance to make a clean break with no hard feelings. Just tell him that you think school is going to be too difficult for you to handle, and try to work on a relationship at the same time. Tell him that you need to focus on your studies for the next few years. Tell him that if he is interested, you can try to make things work after you finish school, but for now you need to break off the relationship.
2007-07-10 22:08:34 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You are not married so you do not need to work at this relationship. Look, you are 17 and going to college for the first time. You have your whole life ahead of you and, trust me, you do not want to be tied down to some guy. Especially, one you fight with and is a 22 year old drunk. College is a time to discover who you are and your likes and dislikes. If you have a man going into college, your education, fun and friends will suffer. College is much better when you are single.
2007-07-10 22:12:04 · answer #4 · answered by SLA 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if u dont fix things with ur boyfriend you will always run away from the argument even if u meet the next guy u will do the same. Running away wont solve the problem. Arguments are part of the relationship. Communication is the best solution
2007-07-10 22:05:47 · answer #5 · answered by Fikilem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to stay with someone you dont love..also if you started arguing alot after just 6 months it wasnt meant to be....I have been married to my husband for 14 years and we RARELY argue. Find someone that you actually get along with.
2007-07-10 22:35:18 · answer #6 · answered by momma T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. It would be difficult for you to handle a difficult relationship and at the same time studying.
Seeing less of each other is good.. both of you will slowly get used to not having each other as a companion.
2007-07-10 22:04:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't love him then don't be with him...it's the best for the both of you. Don't beat a dead horse. By staying with him in a one sided relationship you're tearing yourself up by worrying about it all the time, by not ending it now he's gonna think everything is allright and when it does eventually end he's gonna be more heartbroken then than he does now.
2007-07-10 22:03:15 · answer #8 · answered by altorn_achm 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Straight up, stop wasting your time on someone you're not in love with. I recently went through something similar, it's pointless! Staying with the person makes you dislike them even more.
Definitely move on, it's as simple as that.
2007-07-10 22:37:31 · answer #9 · answered by letmepickadamnname 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should quick get out of that relationship. You have way more going on than your man can offer to you so start over. You will eventually find someone who is worthy of your love.
2007-07-10 22:04:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if u rnt in love with him anymore then u should break up and move on
no point in staying in a relationship and making un called for adjustments
2007-07-10 22:04:02 · answer #11 · answered by dan brown 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋