For Adults 21+ (How long have you been single?)?

Question

I just wanted to get an idea of how long some of you (adults) have been single.

I've been single for almost a year now. I guess its mostly a solitude thing. I was with my ex for 3 years. People always ask if I get lonely, but I really don't think about it until someone asks. Most of my friends are married or engaged so I guess I'm feeling a bit left out. I don't put a lot of stock in the instiution of marriage, but I guess I do want a healthy committed relationship.

How many of you are single? Why and how long? I'd like some honest answers from adults. It's strange because I haven't come across a lot of single women lately. Is it easier for a woman to deal with solitude?

Thanks for the quick responses.
I forgot to add I'm in my mid 20's and truly hate clubs and bars now. As I've gotten older my tastes in everything seems to have changed.

But don't some of you just tired of the same routine of talking about yourself and explaining your likes and dislikes, what your goals are, hobbies, and etc. I don't think I could make it through all that again.

Answer 1

Single for 33 years!

I don't enjoy being single. I know that I have so much to offer to another person that it makes me sad to think it is going to waste. Women just don't seem to "get me".

I don't mind asking/telling women about my likes/dislikes, etc because when you are first getting to know someone that is a wonderful time! Everything is new, you can't wait to talk to the person so you can find out something you didn't know.

That being said, I am better built for a relationship than dating. I would like to be secure in knowing that the woman I am with accepts me and we can just concentrate on making each other happy!

Answer 2

I've been single all of my life-- and I mean single. I've never felt that I was cut out for relationships. Maybe I'm too picky. Anyway, I think it's just as hard for women to deal with lonliness. Especially since society has taught people to be protective and concerned over women more; therefore people ask about whether or not women are lonely and if they're okay all the time. Personally, I just throw myself into school, work, or some other project so I can always say I'm just too busy for a relationship.

Answer 3

I've been single almost two years. I've been changing jobs, and face uncertain employment as a matter of course. The result has left me reluctant to be enmeshed in a serious emotional relationship. Instead I focus on my career and engage in physical relationships when they are beneficial to both parties.

The capability is there to go into an emotional relationship, and I am attractive with a decent job. I have always had a tendency to avoid long term committed relationships however, and I am comfortable being alone. I have many friends, and possible GFs abound, but I will take it easy and make a decent choice when I feel the time is right.

In my experience, women are more social creatures than men are, but commensurately, they also get hurt more deeply from failed relationships. This helps to protect them from emotional pain in the short term, but it also makes them more bitter as they get older, and hence more "desperate" as they see their window of opportunity receeding.

Single women that you would possibly be interested in, do not usually hang out in bars all the time. You can usually meet them through friends, taking classes (yes women actually take continuing education classes at the local comm college to meet men sometimes), in bookstores, in the local gym, or even in your local grocery store. If all else fails, simply pursue your interests and hope a woman that meets your standards falls into your life. Not too likely, but it's possible, and at least you share one interest.

Answer 4

I'll be 24 in 2 weeks and I've been single since February- so 5 months? Before that I was single for almost 2 years. I date around sometimes, but I just haven't found anyone that I've really considered relationship material. I don't know that if it's harder or easier for guys or girls but I'm going through the same thing- all my friends are getting married, starting families, and I'm just kind of out there alone.

Answer 5

I was single my whole life and miserable I could not find anyone willing to commit and it was horrible. So I found someone more miserable and desperate than I was and we got married. Now it's really just shared misery. I think I liked the solitude a little more than married life. If I was to do it over again I would go on e-harmony or some place that could make a match on my personality for me because I defiantly am no good at dating or picking out someone for myself.

Answer 6

I'm 22 and I'm single. Why - well, basically because I'm in college right now and having a girlfriend is out of the question for me(my religion, Islam, forbids that kind of casual pre-marital relationship).

I really don't know if it's easy for anyone to deal with solitude. I guess you get used to it, but you know, it's better I think to have somebody with you that you trust and love, if that's possible. I'm still not ready yet to get married, so now I'm in the single mode, although I oftentimes wish I was married and sipping some passion-fruit juice on a beach somewhere, just playing in the sand and talking with my wife. Yeah, well, I guess i gotta get back to reality right now. So yeah that's my situation. I wish you the best of luck in your life. Good night yall.

Answer 7

About two years and i am 24. Well personally if you cannot get good company your own company is normally the best there is. Going for a relationship for the sake of near comformity is unlikely to benefit either individual. If i cannot get the sort of interaction I know i can give I dont see much point in wasting my time in a place i am unlikely to be happy. I think everyone gets lonely sometimes but if you are working on fulfilling your own ambitions and goals in the meantime the phase passes

Answer 8

Hi Pharm, I have be single for 2 years but i am having a long distant affair with someone who i have know for many years. I am flying in September to see if we can become a couple. If not that's life and i will still be single. I am like you i don't ever want to marry again,but i would like a loving relationship and companionship.
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Answer 9

I have been single since the begining of march this year and I always find it fun for a while but then it gets old really quick because you are single again and bored with flirting with everybody. I think the hardest part of being single is not having someone at home with me at night when its time to go to sleep.

Answer 10

im 21 and for the first time in my adult lif i am single but ive only been so for 3 or 4 months yeah i get lonley but i have good friends and crazy nights out to suffice im done playing games and looking for the real thing and ive been to afaird to be single until now i plan on staying this way for a long while unless someone EXTRAORDINARY comes along hope that helps