i had a very big engagement party that cost me alot, now am starting to prepare for my wedding, but my fiance is the one whos paying, so i dont want him to do an expensive party, and my mum wants a big party.
what should i do? i need suggestions in how i can make my mum happy and same time dont spend much.
i thought we could do the ceremonies and then go out with close friends somewher to have dinner and then we can travel to our honeymoon.but my mum doesnt want this.
any suggestions?
2007-07-10 20:19:45 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i also thought that we could use the money on a better honeymoon, but she doesnt like the idea.
2007-07-10 20:33:20 · update #1
i honestly wish i could do a huge wedding and go to a honeymoon, but need to chose i guess
2007-07-11 01:35:40 · update #2
The day is about you and your fiance. Not about what your mom wants.
Both you and your fiance need to make the decisions.
2007-07-11 00:58:55 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
weddings can be such a trying time, relatives, especially MOTB's have so many expectations. You dont say how hubby to be feels about a big wedding, having had a big engagement party, i'm sure he'll still expect the wedding to be a big affair too. speak to hubby to be 1st, and explain how you are feeling, see what he thinks, then speak to your mother, i'm sure in here there is a comprimise that can be reached. You give your reason for a smaller wedding as being he is paying, not that you dont want a big wedding, if you want a big affair, get mum involved, with many hands you can still have a day to remember on a smaller budget, good luck to you
2007-07-11 03:29:40 · answer #2 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your mother's wedding or her reception.
It's your marriage and your life. And the bride's parents are supposed to pay for the wedding.
Tell your mother you'll be more than happy to have a big reception after the wedding if she wants to foot the bill.
That ought to shut her up.
2007-07-11 03:56:20 · answer #3 · answered by elder_goth_gal 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is it your wedding or your moms? You should do things the way you want them. Your mom had her turn and now its yours. Very politely tell her that you appreciate all of her suggestions but you know what you want. Tell her that you love her and ask her to please respect your wishes on one of the most important days of your life....She will probably comply....after all she's your mother and she loves you.
2007-07-11 05:47:15 · answer #4 · answered by momma T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell your mom what you can afford, and if she complains then ask her if she is willing to help you out so you can have the wedding she wants. it's your wedding, why should you try to have the wedding your mom wants? especially if she's not willing to help pay for it? it's your wedding, do it your way.
2007-07-11 11:32:02 · answer #5 · answered by not margaret 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell your mom you can't afford anymore than what you are going to do and you are doing the most you can. Be honest.
2007-07-11 03:27:35 · answer #6 · answered by caligirl916 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋