i've been with him for 3 months, he told me that he has a kid, but now the girlfriend came with the kid, now they spend all day together, the worst thing is that he is going back with her, i miss him a lot what should i do?
2007-07-10 20:13:24 · 15 answers · asked by DAp 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to let him go and be a dad. If he still wants to be with the mother of his child - he will be and you need to let him. That's the right thing for you to do. If he just wants to be with his child and this is the only way right now... then he'll find his way back to you. You know the old saying - If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, it's yours. If not, it never was. It may sound corny - but it's true.
2007-07-10 20:22:56 · answer #1 · answered by ♪♪BandMom♪♪ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to hear you got caught up in such a love triangle as this. And there is no quick fix for this problem. At the end of the day, although you love him its the child that needs him more than either of you woman. The child should come first. He needs to make another go of it for the sake of his child more than anything. As for you, its a case of moving on. Which I know will not be easy for you. Time is a healer, please be sure of that. The pain will lesson. Make sure that you stop all contact with this man and let him be a good father to his child, and show his child that he can make a go of it with his/her mother. Keep friends and family close to you right now and find in them someone you can share your heart with, to help you move on. His child deserves the best he can give.. and that includes a being part of a family..Let him go.. I wish you the best of luck hun.. I really do..
2007-07-11 03:21:37 · answer #2 · answered by Twinkle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is going to be part of his life until the kid is 18 there will always be a connection between them. I would find some one else who is not married or has children because I would want to be number 1 in their lives.
2007-07-11 03:17:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all...WAKE UP!!! If he has a girlfriend, but he has been with you for 3 months, then he is a liar and a cheater. He will do the same to you.and what makes you think that you would deserve to be second on his list?? (not including his child ,of course his child comes first.) Are you really willing to be the "other woman"?
you deserve more than that.
2007-07-11 03:19:22 · answer #4 · answered by Christine A 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move on.. I know its easier said than done, but you wont hurt as much in the long run ,And u dont deserve to come second in any circumstances.. If he feeling u that much he will maintain his fatherly duties.. And be able to keep you around instead of the baby momma ..Sorry to be so blunt .. but its the truth.
2007-07-11 03:18:37 · answer #5 · answered by happy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run.
Run as fast as you can. He has used you and will continue to do so if you allow it. And you haven't been fair to yourself, him or his girlfriend & child.
And think for a minute about how you would feel if you were the girlfriend with his child and he was seeing someone else. I'm guessing you wouldn't like it very much.
Find someone who's really available and stay away from this guy.
2007-07-11 03:17:56 · answer #6 · answered by elder_goth_gal 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont you think that you are spoiling your life by running behind a married man and if he is going back to his wife then there is nothing worng as they have a kid
2007-07-11 03:18:42 · answer #7 · answered by little wonder 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're into sharing the man in your life, go on seeing him.
2007-07-11 03:32:33 · answer #8 · answered by jenesuispasunnombre 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to my world girl! Believe me I know what you are going through, i can say walk away but i know that's not going to easy! Try it, it might work for you, it failed for me!
2007-07-11 03:25:14 · answer #9 · answered by tott 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should break up their happy family and ruin that kids life.
After all,who cares about THEM as long as you're getting what YOU want?..
2007-07-11 03:17:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋