My son who was the pet of his Daddy till recently suddenly seems to get distracted from him.He does not get along with him well. They both fight with every other subject. I am unable to convince both of them. How do I build a better relation between them as my son has entered into his teens.
2007-07-10 19:54:27 · 10 answers · asked by rathu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's hard for you to do this--it's up to your hubby and son to make a better relationship. Usually at this age, parents and their same-sexed children have a little competition thing going on. Sometimes all it takes is a bit of tolerance and understanding.
2007-07-10 19:58:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son is a teenager now and doesn't want to be daddies little boy anymore. He naturally want to be more independent and stand on his own two feet.
The last thing he needs is his mother interfering!
Give him some space to grow, but keep the boundaries very clear.
Fathers and sons have to adjust to the different stages of development and it can be hard for dads to let go when they have been close to their son, guiding him along the way. Now he has still to be there, but he has to think before he speaks and to take a set back and let his son start on his journey to being a young man.
But it is normal so don't get upset about it, support them both and be prepared to be a referee and not take sides.
2007-07-10 20:43:37 · answer #2 · answered by malcolm g 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I turned 13 me and my mother fought every time I turned around. I think it is all part of being a teenager and I'm sure it will all change as your son gets older. I started getting along with my mother again when I around 16.
2007-07-13 11:22:46 · answer #3 · answered by Leann A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the teenage years. Thank goodness they don't last forever. Your son is exerting his independence. You husband is trying not to give up control of him yet. This will be a tug of war for a few years, until your son finally becomes a man. Don't stress over it. Just try to keep as much peace as possible, and keep the communication lines open between you and your son. As long as he continues to know that both you and your husband love him, he will make a few mistakes trying to break away, but he will be fine.
2007-07-10 20:00:52 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its better to let them work this out on your own and not get involved. I am 13 and I have had my moments where I dont get along with my father either.Trust me if you get involved your son may start picking a bone with you too. Most likely there relationship will not staay on bad terms forever. Try just waiting it out.
2007-07-10 20:00:02 · answer #5 · answered by llama4240 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok normal teenage anx
just keep out of it
let them blow a fuse as they have to learn from each other what their new roles in life are
your son is just acting up as he's feeling emotional because of a surge of hormones and being tetchy and his dad is still trying to control him
they have to sort out the boundaries to their new relationship as do all teens
2007-07-14 07:44:49 · answer #6 · answered by ~*tigger*~ ** 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's just the stage he's going through. Teens have a lot of stress, and usually they want to be out with their friends having fun. Maybe you need to let him have his space, remember it's just a stage every teenager goes through.
2007-07-10 19:59:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cant do it, your husband has to try. you probably shouldnt take it personal since teens or preteens like to do their own thing. they think they know everything. he probably much rather hang with his peers now. just give him the rules of your house and let him be a teenager. he ll probably settle down dont worry. but i wouldnt to much worry anyhow cuz thats just what they do wit hormones and everything else changing wit them. just make sure you guide them cuz this the age they start trying STUPID crap. i know that sounds contradicting, im just saying not to worry family wise but yet guide him for the streets if that make sense.
2007-07-10 20:06:24 · answer #8 · answered by warrior*in*the*making 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't do anything, it's nothing to do with you. you've explained the pro's and con's of things now leave it up to them. you've involved yourself in this and if they're doing it for attention then it's working because they've got you fussing in between them, if they've got a personality clash then what makes you think you can do anything about it, mind your own business and leave them to it.
2007-07-10 23:31:21 · answer #9 · answered by cherrypinkplum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let them work it out.
it is their problem and they need to work it out.
trust me ,they will.
2007-07-10 19:59:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋