I met this guy online and we hit it off immediately. We have a lot in common and would chat for hours. We talked for about a month before meeting in person. Our first date (first meeting) we immediately noticed we had chemistry. We actually had to stop because I thought we were moving too fast. The next date we stayed at his place and watched a movie and it was like a repeat of the first date.
My question spawns because I tried to ask him about what he wants in a relationship and all he would tell me is that he thinks they should be fun and he doesn't have room for drama in his life. I really like this guy. So, how long should I wait before bringing up actually becoming bf/gf and exclusive so that it doesn't see like I'm pushing him into something too fast?
2007-07-10 19:50:42 · 14 answers · asked by ~gAsTaTeSwEeTiE~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-07-10 19:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by visualize cool name here 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Hm...
my fiance and I also met on the net and we're still in a LDR (long distance relationship.) We talked for a month or so before we made it exclusive. We would talk about how we meant to each other, how we always wanted someone like one another, etc. Based on all that talk and how we spoke to each other, I felt comfortable enough to ask him about a commitment.
There is no true and set time to be able to ask...theres no rule about it. It's just when you're comfy with that person.
If you 2 truly have hit it off, and you feel great with him, ask him what he wants in/out of a relationship and if you're the type of person he wants. If he says yes, ask about a commitment. If he says no, take it slow and try again later. =)
2007-07-10 20:00:04 · answer #2 · answered by da_nikkster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon hate to tell you this but you already have your answer. Though you may have great physical chemistry with the guy and all. But he is looking for probably just a sexual sort of relationship here. I mean I may be reading it wrong, but for some guys fun is usually about being physical and the drama is really getting serious with one another. I also hope he isn't trying to be leading you along with the "chemistry" to have you rushing things. Because he could just be about the sex and if you get serious with him and try to "trap" him into something more serious he may freak out and start pulling away. I mean with guys they love to tease and be all sexy just as well as women. Even say all the right things we want to hear. But when it comes down to it they usually want the sex before anything else much more serious. So you could possibly be heading down a road of hurt if you try to get him into a more exclusive relationship and find out after the sex he doesn't like you so much once he has had you. But if you don't mind just being physical go for it. But don't think he will happy being exclusive after just 2 dates when you nearly gave it up and had as much fun as he did.
2007-07-10 19:57:48 · answer #3 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if that is all that he can say he wants...i would wait till i got more out of him then that..it seems that maybe he dont know exaclty what he wants ..only what he dont want like the drama and stuff..so i would slowly be persistant on finding out alot more about him then what you know right now before you talk about being exclusive..cause once your exclusive it makes it so much easier to fall in love and then end up with some one that is not right for you cause you did not make sure that he has your best interests at heart and is best for you...so be carefull and realy dont put a time limit on it..dont be in a hurry or you might regret it later..i sure did...
2007-07-10 19:54:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is too soon to ask that yet. Just be sure that you get an answer before you have sex with him. If he says that he does not want to make a commitment then, just tell him that you don't need all of the sexual "drama" in your life (if you know what I mean)!! Don't let him just use you for sex. If he cares about you, then he will want you to be exclusive with him.
2007-07-10 19:56:27 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take it easy. Don't go too fast. The adrenalin rush may just turn into a hormone rush. Maybe a few months to a year.
Be exclusive for life; don't just see what happens.
2007-07-10 19:58:45 · answer #6 · answered by Wilson C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you should agree to be exclusive daters from the day you first started dating, but then again I see no point in dating someone if you can't see yourself marrying them in the future.
2007-07-10 19:53:38 · answer #7 · answered by alli7201 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd give it a good year. Anything less and your setting yourself up for heartbreak and pain without having enough information to base this important of a decision on.
Most relationships don't last longer than six months anyway.
Good Luck
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2007-07-10 19:56:49 · answer #8 · answered by Fade To Black 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't really sound like he is ready. But if thats what you want then bring it up. But you are probably best just letting it be for the time being. You will know when it feels "right"
2007-07-10 20:00:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You will just know, he will eventually tell you if hes really into but if he doesnt he could just be shy and not ask so make sure to know if he likes you and stuff.
Anyways just go with the flow if it comes then it come and if it doesnt, it doesnt.
2007-07-10 19:54:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
About the time you first hit the bedsheets. You don't want him hitting some skank on the side, lord knows what disaese she has
2007-07-10 19:52:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋