Muslim Men, What do you think about polygyni?

Question

Any plans? =)

Polygyni = Polygamy by men

Answer 1

Thank you for being so presumptious about us, multi-curious but I would never think about something of the sort. I am in love with my partner and such a step is unthinkable, let alone doable for me. My personal views are simple: I look at society as made up of people, not men and women. My wife and myself are individuals, who love each other.
The Quran specifically deters Muslims from multiple marriages because they would never be able to do justice between their wives.

Answer 2

Polygamy in islamic teaching means a muslim manhaving more than one wife with the maximum 4 wives.It is allowed by Allah the only one God as stated in the holy Qur'an.But Allah spoke also its qualification that a muslim man can get married more than one wife if he (1)has enough income for their living cost(2)can treat his wives fairly .Bu in the holy Qur'an Allah stated also that it is impossible for man to be fair to all of his wives because love feeling is difficult to be measured.So polygamy is only an emergency door for muslim man if can afford it and can treat his wives fairly as possible.Polygamy is not only the right to get married of muslim man for more than one wife but also it is very heavy obligation..In Indonesia where muslims are almost 90% of its citizen,polygamy can be conducted if it is permitted by the first wife especially when she has long illness and she can not give a child birth and he can afford more than one wife and he can serve all his wives fairly..So it is better if we muslim men only have one wife along our lives.One wife is enough and she will not finished until her death.Muslim man should respect,honour and love her as single wife tenderly
and be loyal to her..Whatever it is allowed,polygamy will hurt one's wife because no wife want to be made polygamy.

Answer 3

polygyny= men having more than one wife

Answer 4

Yes. Why? Do you know any candidate? =)

Polygyny is Allah's preference. Allah t.w.t. said: "Marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one." (Al-Nisa' 3)

Have you ever wondered how come 2,3 or 4 comes before 1? And how come most of the sahabah had more than 1 wife?

Anyway, I'm not marrying a second wife yet. I have certain priorities to fulfill before that, but if there are some single sisters interested, they can contact my wife;)

My Christian grand uncle married 2 but he isn't just to them. And many Muslim men also marry out of lust and later they can't be just. Sometimes even only wife gets cheated or mistreated by her husband, so what's the point of being greedy, sisters?
I prefer to wed of my daughter to be the 4th wife of a pious man than the only wife of a jahil or a fasiq.

I used to believe in monogamy but later I changed my view when I saw that this Ummah is going astray, and although my knowledge is little I hope to help sisters and their families. I also found out polygyny is Allah's preference. Of course any woman that I marry needs to cover up and submit herself to allah s.w.t. If she's interested in my looks and money only I won't hesitste to talaq her. But if it's Islam that she wants, she's fit to be my wife inshaAllah.

Answer 5

The urge is there to have more than 1 wife.But there also reasons not to have more than you can handle.If you think it's ok, your wife would accept of it,you can afford it, you have time to for it.In ISLAM it is only permissible not a green light.There are conditions.

Answer 6

Depends on person actually. For me, there are men who like to have many lovers in their marriage while other just love to have a lover (wife) in their marriage for once in a life time. So, God approves His creation, human wishes...... :)

Answer 7

Jesus never discouraged marriage contrary to the statement that Jesus way was wrestling with his abstinence. Did he wrestle with it? I believe no one can satisfactorily answer that and as Jesus in the bible is not recorded ever giving indication that it was difficult for him. Jesus was a hybrid between God and men there for he was not the genetic norm. E.G. Jesus had a virgin birth or Marry was impregnated by God himself not as we do physicaly but as only God can do as he creates matter (water to wine = mater transmutation). As Jesus was Gods own son.

Here is some words from Jesus himself:
Mathew 19:3 (new testament)
The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?
Mat 19:4
And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made [them] at the beginning made them male and female,
Mat 19:5
And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
Mat 19:6
Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
Mat 19:7
They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
Mat 19:8
He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
Mat 19:9
And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except [it be] for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
Mat 19:10
His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with [his] wife, it is not good to marry.
Mat 19:11
But he said unto them, All [men] cannot receive this saying, save [they] to whom it is given.
Mat 19:12
For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from [their] mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive [it], let him receive [it].

Answer 8

Polygamy means a system of marriage whereby one person has more than one spouse. Polygamy can be of two types. One is polygyny where a man marries more than one woman, and the other is polyandry, where a woman marries more than one man. In Islam, limited polygyny is permitted; whereas polyandry is completely prohibited.

The Qur’an is the only religious book, on the face of this earth, that contains the phrase ‘marry only one’. There is no other religious book that instructs men to have only one wife. In none of the other religious scriptures, whether it be the Vedas, the Ramayan, the Mahabharat, the Geeta, the Talmud or the Bible does one find a restriction on the number of wives. According to these scriptures one can marry as many as one wishes. It was only later, that the Hindu priests and the Christian Church restricted the number of wives to one.

In earlier times, Christian men were permitted as many wives as they wished, since the Bible puts no restriction on the number of wives. It was only a few centuries ago that the Church restricted the number of wives to one.

Polygyny is permitted in Judaism. According to Talmudic law, Abraham had three wives, and Solomon had hundreds of wives. The practice of polygyny continued till Rabbi Gershom ben Yehudah (95% C.E to 1030 C.E) issued an edict against it. The Jewish Sephardic communities living in Muslim countries continued the practice till as late as 1950, until an Act of the Chief Rabbinate of Israel extended the ban on marrying more than one wife.

As I mentioned earlier, Qur’an is the only religious book on the face of the earth that says ‘marry only one’. The context of this phrase is the following verse from Surah Nisa of the Glorious Qur’an:

"Marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one." [Al-Qur’an 4:3]

Therefore polygyny is not a rule but an exception. Many people are under the misconception that it is compulsory for a Muslim man to have more than one wife.

Average life span of females is more than that of males:
By nature males and females are born in approximately the same ratio. A female child has more immunity than a male child. A female child can fight the germs and diseases better than the male child. For this reason, during the pediatric age itself there are more deaths among males as compared to the females. During wars, there are more men killed as compared to women. More men die due to accidents and diseases than women. The average life span of females is more than that of males, and at any given time one finds more widows in the world than widowers.

In the USA, women outnumber men by 7.8 million. New York alone has one million more females as compared to the number of males, and of the male population of New York one-third are gays i.e sodomites. The U.S.A as a whole has more than twenty-five million gays. This means that these people do not wish to marry women. Great Britain has four million more females as compared to males. Germany has five million more females as compared to males. Russia has nine million more females than males. God alone knows how many million more females there are in the whole world as compared to males.

Even if every man got married to one woman, there would still be more than thirty million females in U.S.A who would not be able to get husbands (considering that America has twenty five million gays). There would be more than four million females in Great Britain, 5 million females in Germany and nine million females in Russia alone who would not be able to find a husband.
Suppose my sister happens to be one of the unmarried women living in USA, or suppose your sister happens to be one of the unmarried women in USA. The only two options remaining for her are that she either marries a man who already has a wife or becomes public property. There is no other option. All those who are modest will opt for the first.
In Western society, it is common for a man to have mistresses and/or multiple extra-marital affairs, in which case, the woman leads a disgraceful, unprotected life. The same society, however, cannot accept a man having more than one wife, in which women retain their honourable, dignified position in society and lead a protected life.
Thus the only two options before a woman who cannot find a husband is to marry a married man or to become public property. Islam prefers giving women the honourable position by permitting the first option and disallowing the second.
There are several other reasons, why Islam has permitted limited polygyny, but it is mainly to protect the modesty of women.

Answer 9

There are many prophets told us by Qoran or Bible have more than one wife.

So, it's back to us what marriage is and what point of view we use(?), ie. feminism, human right, spiritualism, etc.

For me, marriage is the way to know our self, and then God. "Man 'arafa nafsahu, faqad 'arafa rabbahu": thee who know his souls, know his God.

In "Fihi ma Fihi" (Discourse 20), Jallaluddin Rumi says:

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...Night and day you are at war, attempting to reform the character of the opposite sex, to cleanse their impurity and to correct their faults. It is better to cleanse yourself through them than trying to cleanse them through yourself. Reform yourself by means of them. Go to them and accept whatever they may say, even if from your viewpoint their words sound absurd or unfair.

It was on account of this truth that Mohammed said, “There is no monkhood in Islam.” The way of monks is solitude, dwelling in mountains, men not living with women, and giving up the world. God showed the Prophet a straight and hidden way. What is that way? Marriage, so that we can endure the trials of living with the opposite sex, to listen to their demands, for them to ride roughshod over us, and so in this way to refine our own character.

By enduring and putting up with the tyranny of your spouse it is as though you rub off your own impurity on them. Your character becomes good through forbearance; their character becomes bad through domineering and aggression. Once you have realized this, make yourself clean. Know that they are like a garment; in them you can cleanse your own impurities and become clean yourself.

Rid yourself of pride, envy and jealousy, until you experience pleasure in struggling and enduring. Through their demands discover spiritual joy. After that, you will endure such struggles, and you will not run from oppression, since you will see the advantages they bring to you.

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The way of the Prophet is this: It is necessary to endure pain to help rid ourselves of selfishness, jealousy and pride. To experience the pain of our spouses’ extravagant desires, the pain of unfair burdens, and a hundred thousand other pains beyond all bounds, so the spiritual path can become clear. The way of Jesus was wrestling with solitude and not gratifying lust. The way of Mohammed is to endure the oppression and agonies inflicted by men and women upon each other. If you cannot go by the Mohammedan way, at least go by the way of Jesus, so you will not remain completely outside the spiritual path...
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Do I have a plan?
I don't have a plan for polygyni; but I won't deny polygyni as prophet and religious path.

Answer 10

That's polygamy dear.