what to do?

Question

Just a question, My son's friend got kicked out of home last night by his mum,he is only 14
Now i said he could stay the night
I have no phone number to call the parent so i drove down to his home to let them know he was ok and safe
No one answered the door there was some one home - I waited a few minutes to see if any one was going to answer the door but no one did
I have now got to go to work to day but will try again before i go to let the mother know her son is with us and safe.
What would you do ?

Up date, I have informed the school that the child is with us and left it up to them to see the parent

I did try seeing the parents again this morning but no answer

I did the right thing in my eyes and made sure he went to school this morning and tomorrow
informed whom I had to regarding his welfare and well-being
we live in the uk so social services have been informed to that he is staying with us till they can talk to the family to help sort things out

Answer 1

You have done all you can do. Have no further personal contact with the parent. Let the social services handle this. You just keep the child safe and in school.

Answer 2

Perhaps you could get the authorities handle this. You are a very compassionate person and you are trying the best you can to help this boy. There is something not clear there. Perhaps he ran away for some reason. It's strange that a mother would not care or worry when her son only 14 years old is not home and she would not answer the door. I think I would ask the boy to go with me to his home, or to go to the police and get that taken care of. The boy might just be taking advantage of you, but on the other hand, there was certainly a good reason why he was kicked out of home.

Thank you for being such a caring person.
GBY

Answer 3

For your own protection, call child services, these people could flip the script and say that their son is with you against their wishes and you could be charged with all types of stupid offenses. Child services could arrange for him to stay with you, who knows, but don't walk blind. I know as a Mother you feel comfortable with what you did, I would have done the same, but come on now, the boy is only 14, how responsible could the parents be, they haven't even looked for him. Oh and do you know why he was kicked out, you know that children always act differently around other people, including other people's Mothers, so don't let your guard down with regard to his halo. God Bless.

Answer 4

According to the laws in America, no children can be kicked out until they are 16. I'm not sure what the laws say where you live.

The first thing you should do is go to the authorities. Next you should mail a letter to this boy's house to let his family know how to contact him.

Next, you should talk everything over with your family. If your family decides that they want to let him stay there for a while, you'll need to have taken this problem through official channels. If your decision is not to let him stay there, you'll need to know where he should go from your home. I know you just want to help, but you need to know that this boy has issues. If nothing else, he's suffering from abandonment.

Also, if you don't go to the authorities, this boy's family could say that you lured him to your house and kept him there without their knowledge or consent. If you don't go to the authorities, you won't have any proof that they're lying.

Answer 5

If the parents of this young boy are in fact ignoring you, and have made no attempts to contact their son, than you should call child protection and get them involved. Sounds like the parents are not handling it the way they should. What parent throws their child out? Either they need help or the rights taken away as parents.

Answer 6

I have more questions (about your relationship with your son, about the friend, etc.), but I agree with what you have done to date. You have erred on the side of compassion. Leaving a note for the boy's parents makes sense. Can he provide you with their phone number...? As the situation unfolds, I suspect that each step will become clear. This could ultimately be a good lesson for your son... Whatever happens, I respect you for taking immediate steps to make sure this boy is looked after.

Answer 7

What you can do is keep him there like you are until social services figure out what to do with him. You can also report what happen to the police so they can get in touch with the parents and it's not to get his parents in trouble but what kind of mother throws her child out at the age of 14 she should get in trouble because what if he didn't show up to your house and something happen to him. I just want to say to you i really think your a stand up person for doing what your doing because most people wouldn't do that you son should be proud to have a mother like you and that 14 year old boy should be proud to have a friend who has a stand up mother like you.GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

Leave a note on the parent's door with a phone number for them to call you.

Answer 9

Ive been in the same situation as you on several occasions. Its all very difficult but you have certainly done all the right things the only other thing you could do is get the police to go round to talk to them for you. hope it all works out ok for you. good luck

Answer 10

As long as you notified somebody that he is safe and sound.

I would leave a note for his parents and stick it to the door, or if you can slide it under the door to inside. If they have answering machine on, also leave a voice message.