What to do?! Loving long distance or cute homewrecker!?

Question

Alex is my boyfriend, we met once and can only talk thru internet and rarely on phone, and we havnt been able to contact much lately. but i love him anyway and he loves me. then my friend Amanda asked me out(im BI)I said yes, i was tired then realised i cant cheat on alex, and she told me that i should dump him or just cheat anyway cuz long distance is stupid. Alex really cares about me and we hav survived fights, amanda is close by, never does well in relationships, from wat i seen. Amanda says i can date both cuz im BI and thats ok, and if he says no i should dump him.(i dont like that idea she said at all!) I like her alot, but alex...i dunno. its complicated to state my feelings but wen im with him..i feel different ya know? but u see i really like em both and i really wanna at least giv it a try with amanda, but this all feels so wrong cheating and all. i dunno wat to do. im running out of characters to type with (yahoo limits you) so ill end here. please help me!!!!

Answer 1

Obviously Amanda is jealous. She doesn't want Alex to take you away from her. She would be happy to break up your relationship with Alex. And that's what she is trying to do.

I don't think Alex would be happy about your dating with Amanda either. And he too would probably try to break up your relationship with Amanda, if he finds out about it.

All this means is that you must choose either Alex or Amanda and let go of the other forever. Once you choose, then your problem will be solved.

Answer 2

well.. thats still cheating. just go with your feelings and who you really like the most. even if it's long distance it can still work out and might not be long distance anymore.

Answer 3

i suggest go with your feelings -- bi or not its still cheating --- just because its long distance now does not mean that it always will be --- best wishes