What should I do? I need help a.s.a.p plz?

Question

well i met my ex-girlfriend 4 years ago in a chatroom and eversince we started talking we both clicked. The day we met for the first time i asked her out while playing mini-golf and i kissed her. We went out for 3 months but i was facing some issues while we were going out. I was depressed because before we went out i was doing drugs and I stopped because i fell in love with her. I wented us to be happy so i did that not thinking i was going to become depressed. During the last 3 weeks we went out i became really aggressive and i became mad for anything if she spent time with her friends. so she left me 3 years 9months ago. I still was stupid to put her through a lot of stress after we broke up. I nearly killed myself for her. Eversince that day i been trying to get back with her. I love the girl with all my heart i believe she is the one. So i planned something out for next sat i was oging to pick her up early in the morning and i was going to take her out to get some breakfast then

i was going to take her to a concert because i purchased two tickets for the concert. Aferwards, I was going to take her out to the cheesecake factory and to top off the night we were going to go to D&B and have fun. I told her 2 weeks ago not to make any plans for july 21st . so i asked her today if were going to hang out for sure and she told me she cant because she is hosting some make up event for her brother's friend. I haven't seen her in 3 years and i wanted it all to be a surprised and i wanted to prove to her that day that i changed and that am a different person now. I wanted to tell her how i still feel about her. I swear i love her and i feel like she is the one. I still believe i can win her. Last year i had a chance because she told me but i didnt believe her. i really wanted this to go down on the 21st i had it plan out for weeks. I want to know if you think i should try talkin her into going with me and if i should give up on her,forever. or how i can win her back ?

Answer 1

Muahahhahahhaha!!!! Sorry its just I understand these things so well, frist off buddy you havn't changed, nope you've gone from one addiction to another. Yep its the way it works, see I'm not going to be fooled by your romantic notions or advances, cute but not true love, not even love really as much as ego play. But ether way buddy just by the way you talked about this its like you don't even know her. Yea you might of knew of her, but for you to come on here, and say it like your ready to give up shows me so. Sorry its true, if you knew her you wouldn't even be here, you would of already done the right thing. The best thing for her, your indescion in other words specks volumes about what your really doing. Your looking for happiness and you've got it in your head that she can give it to you. Which makes no sense since apparently you already failed with that once, remember the depression over drugs, sorry buddy but if you really love'd her, connected to her, and were able to use her love to feel good about you, you would of got past that depression. Just seems like most people, you see a way towards a goal and you just know this might be the best way to accomplish it. FOOL! You can't use her to find happiness, find happiness, then look for her to join you. The world is more complicated then TV shows if you don't believe go ahead try and get her to go with you. Shoot you might even get her, but inbetween all that romance, if you don't actually make a attempt to understand her, yourself, your world, this life, then I gaurentee you this is going to end hard for both of you. Hopfully she wised up thou and realize that all you have as a purpose for this relationship is some romantic notions, and hopes. Just realize this unless you can see her as a person with a name and not just another lady you could of had a chance with so long ago, you might have a chance. But face it, you went to drugs because you weren't happy being you( i know because I'm a druggie, go figure), then you hoped she could give it to you, and that failed, you went back, now you feel you can get past it, but at the sametime you still havn't figured out why you weren't happy in the frist place, with the drugs are her, if you don't buddy, welcome to the cycle of abuse, knowledge is power, start with you and maybe, just maybe, you can end with her. Just know her, and if you did right, you'll know the answer, which you already should of......