===i have vaginal cyst. i would pass that down to half of my chldren... i know how much i hate them and i know how i cry thinking about them i wouldnt want my child to go through that.
===i have glo-coma (sounds like that) well i dont have it yet but all the women in my family do.
===depression runs in my family. i have it horibally bad and my mom has it. its scary and if i some how get it agian or somthing while i have a child i dont know and i dont want my child to cut them selves like i did.
===on my dad's side of the family...every one cant finsih a marriage. and they are all rude. i dont wan tto turn into my father and be liek that towards my child i hate my father. and i dont want my child to hate me.
===fat people run in my family. im fat and i hate it it makes me cry. im trying to loose it but one of my many illnesses make it hard.
+++but i want to experiance birth
should i pass this on to a child?
2007-07-10 18:16:02 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I can't say for you one way or the other....and I realize that you said you want to experience birth, but would it be possible for you to adopt a child and be in the birthing room when it happens?
there's a chance that none or some of that will be passed down to a child and there's not a way for someone else to decide for you, I just wanted to possibly offer you another option to help make you more comfortable with your big decision
2007-07-10 18:31:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. Isn't it kind of immoral and selfish risking forcing a person into a life that is going to be full of suffering? Then again, it's possible that your child may not have the same problems you do, but it's possible she might. Talk about a very serious game of chance! Simply having a depressed mother can be very damaging to a child. I know because I had two depressed parents of course for many people depression is only temporary. You must remember also that children are not extensions of yourself, but their own people.
It's very selfish to have a child simply because you want to experience birth. I think if you really loved your potential child, you would supress your desire to give birth until you can get help for your depression and find out just what the odds are.
Personally, I couldn't live with the guilt of giving birth. When I found myself pregnant, I had an abortion not for myself, but because it was the right thing for to do.
2007-07-10 18:41:18 · answer #2 · answered by qwertatious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know about cysts because I have them. They arent fun. They could complicate your pregnancy. Be sure you are following with your OB/GYN very closely. I can encourage you this way - its not necessarily hereditary. I have them but my mother didnt. I am the only one of the 4 girls in my family to have them. Through medication my cysts are under control and I am able to live pain free.
Glaucoma is managable if caught and treated early enough. My mother is at risk which puts all 3 of my sisters and I at risk. Does that stop us? Nope. We have accepted that 3 out of 4 are visually impared and we dont mind, we just adapt and over come this limitation.
Bi-Polar or manic/depressive runs in my moms family. All of my sisters and I have it to varying degrees. Again, this is a disease that is managable with medications and a good psychologist. Suicidal tendancies are common in teenagers, that doesnt mean that your children will try to hurt themselves.
Marriage is work. Both sides have to be willing to put the time and effort physically, emotionally, mentally, and even spiritually to make it work. Rude behavior indicates they werent taught manners. That is something easily corrected in your offspring. Teaching simple things like saying please, thank you and excuse me are a beginning and discipline for misbehavior will help correct improper behavior. As far as your fathers behavior - you are aware of it, you know what he did to make you hate him. Attempt to avoid those behaviors provided they dont jeapordize your ability to parent.
Weight issues and obesity are something that many people in America face. Thankfully we have the internet and there are healthy, low fat/low sodium ways to make most of our favorite foods. I am overweight and am doing what I can to correct that. If it runs in the family you may want to get your thyroid checked. We learned this year that my mother has a thyroid deficiency and thus is over weight. Its not a miracle cure but getting on a thyroid hormon replacement therapy may help you loose that weight.
Chrildren are a blessing and a curse, a double edged sword that both heals and harms. Childbirth is an amazing experience. I would sit down with your doctors, get an idea of how plausable it is for you to have children physically and if it possibly and you and your significant other are agreeable you should do it. Good luck!!
2007-07-10 18:33:56 · answer #3 · answered by Beth W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You make some good points as to the seriousness of your health and family issues. This would be an excellent time to sit down with a professional counselor to sort it all out.
By the way, what does your husband think? A stable marriage and a stable home with emotionally mature parents makes for good parenting and a lifelong marriage.
If your extended family is really of such a negative input, consider moving to another area, getting involved with church or community with positive input for your children.
Adoption really is an excellent option.
2007-07-10 18:31:38 · answer #4 · answered by Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi Fluffy! LOVE the lovable little penguin. I (the human in the back of this cat) don't have little ones nor do i decide for infants. that's a mutual settlement between my husband and that i using genetic malformities on his area and specific situation on my area that could ward off us from having infants. i don't be apologetic approximately it. I even have pets particularly (it quite is why i admire the penguin) and that they are basically like human infants, yet you do not might desire to deliver them to college or problem approximately drug or alcohol dependancy. different issues proceed to be a similar. Potty training, way training (which some people do not even get), obediance training (back some people are devoid of). you will possibly be able to desire to take them to the wellbeing care expert whilst they get unwell. you will possibly be able to desire to freshen up after them. you will possibly be able to desire to observe them so they are actually not getting into stuff they might desire to not. you will possibly be able to desire to guard them from predators or different vicious people or animals. you will possibly be able to desire to play with them and raise them nicely. you will possibly be able to desire to feed them wisely and beware in the event that they get fat. make advantageous they get sufficient excersize... the mummy instinct in me says I might desire to have pets so I even have something to nurture. advantageous, walking stick bugs do not decide for THAT plenty nurturing, yet they are quite cool! I choose you the basically right of success along with your destiny human infants.
2016-09-29 12:06:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no don't have any, adopt one if you really need to experience the parent thing.
2007-07-13 13:11:46 · answer #6 · answered by beachy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not adopt?
2007-07-10 18:37:50 · answer #7 · answered by cammie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋