My father passed away when I was 6 and I do not have anyone to walk me down the aisle. Many people have suggested having my mother walk me down the aisle but I want her to be able to experience seeing me walk down the aisle rather then walking with me.
BUT....I am honestly kind of scared to walk by myself...I just keep thinking "What it I fall". I know it is silly, but it is just a fear I have. What do you think about having my groom walk with me, or maybe him meeting me half way and walking my to the alter? I just wanted to get your thoughts...
2007-07-10 18:13:59 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I have a brother that is 11 years older then me and growing up I had always thought that he would be the one that walked me but he is very unpredictable. He has also done some things lately that I do not agree with. We are honestly not very close.
2007-07-10 18:25:08 · update #1
I'm getting married in a month so I totally feel for you. There is so much stress is planning a wedding and you shouldn't have to worry about walking down the aisle. If you are going to be walking by yourself make sure you get comfortable and low shoes...that way you won't feel like you might fall.
I'm asian and catholic so traditionally during a wedding the groom and his groomsmen comes to the bride's home and to meet his wife and her family. They play games like bribing the bridesmaids with money and gifts until they let them through the door. The families give the couple their blessings and from there everyone heads to the church and the bride and groom walks down the aisle together. It is very sweet!
If your groom agrees in the idea of walking with you I think it could be a very different and memorable experience. Who cares what anyone thinks? To most people it will be wedding they attended but to you it will last a lifetime.
Good Luck and I wish you a wonderful wedding day!
2007-07-10 20:45:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so I can totally understand the fear of falling on your face, but the odds are very slight that that would actually happen. I think it's great that you want your mom to have the experience of seeing you walk down the aisle. Dont you think your fiance would want that too, though? It's a symbolic thing that you walk to him alone (or with your father) and then walk out together afterward. I wouldn't choose to walk down the aisle with him.
If you're really scared to walk down the aisle by yourself, consider getting another male that you're close to to do it. Or walk down the aisle with your flower girl or a bridesmaid. There really arent any rules. You can choose anyone you feel close to and would like to have by your side during this special moment. (Just make sure your mom wont feel slighted that you chose someone else instead of her!)
If you choose to do it on your own, I am confident that you wont fall. Practice it a couple of times in your heels. Make sure your dress is hemmed to the right length and make sure there isn't anything in your way that you might trip over. Being well-prepared and avoiding any possible trip-ups will help you be calm before you go for the walk.
Best wishes!
2007-07-11 08:50:29 · answer #2 · answered by corinne1029 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your brother is not an option. What about a grandfather or uncle? My friend had her uncle walk her down the aisle as her dad isn't in the picture and her grandfathers both passed away.
I also really like the idea of your mom meeting you halfway. Then she'll get to see you come down the aisle but also have the honour of walking you to your groom.
2007-07-11 07:51:07 · answer #3 · answered by tink 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could have the maid of honor walk you down the aisle. She is probably your best friend, and who better to lean on at this time. That way your mom and husband both get the chance to see you walk down the aisle. A grandfather could, if able to as well. Best wishes!
2007-07-11 15:05:05 · answer #4 · answered by LoveWithNoBoundaries 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't like the idea of your mother walking you down the aisle. But you can ask your mother if she would honestly rather walk you down the aisle or see you walk down the aisle. When I got married 20 years ago, both my parents walked me down the aisle. And when my cousin got married, his mother walked him down the aisle (or he escorted his mother to her seat): both of those.
If you walk down the aisle by yourself, I think you'll be just fine. I've never seen a bride trip down the aisle. Just make sure your heels aren't too high, your dress isn't caught in your heel, and the aisle has nothing for you to trip over.
2007-07-11 02:49:43 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have a male friend that is really close to you if you do than ask him if he would do the honor of walking you down the aisle. if not than i see no harm in having a grooms man or even you father in law of walking down the aisle. my father couldn't walk me down the aisle so i asked my step father if he would and he said yes. so see sweetie there are lots of other people who would be glad to walk with you.
2007-07-11 04:10:35 · answer #6 · answered by happy in love 7407 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww, you're not alone. There are many brides that do not have fathers at their wedding for many reasons. Do you have a godfather? grandfather? an uncle? They all could walk you down the aisle. How about a brother, or a little boy cousin? That would be cute as well.
2007-07-11 01:21:14 · answer #7 · answered by PaLi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my thoughts are YOU CAN DO IT! do not be scared. i walked down, without my glasses (and i do not own contacts) but i did it! i walked half way and my groom came and got me. it was a bit scary with all those eyes on me, but you put on a smile and you do it. :)
you will not fall, it will be okay i promise. just make sure your dressed is very hemmed so you do not step on it.
i think it is really sweet you want you mom to watch you walk down the aisle. :)
2007-07-11 01:18:17 · answer #8 · answered by Christina V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar position. My father had passed away two years before my wedding. I did ask my mom, but she didn't want to do it -- for the reason you explained, actually. I have an older brother, but didn't want him to do it. As you, I did not want to walk alone.
So my husband and I walked in together, and it was wonderful! We had the attendants walk in as couples before us, and that was great for the bridesmaids too so they didn't have to feel self-conscious about walking in alone.
People appreciated seeing something different - and it was really special to walk in together -- because we were in this thing together!
Good luck!
By the way, there was still the father/daughter dance to deal with. I had my older brother do it with me, while my husband danced with my mom. If I were to do it over again, I would have just excluded that 'dance' - and gone right from the bride and groom's first dance, to the bridal party dancing, to the family dancing, etc.
2007-07-11 09:15:45 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really aren't any "set rules". I think you'd be find to have your fiance meet you maybe say 1/4 of the way to escort you to the alter.
We're in the midst of planning our wedding and it's a 2nd for both of us. My father had already given me away at the first one 13yrs ago...but for this one---since I'm a bit older than the 1st time and I also have a daughter of my own....I didn't feel as though I was really "his" to give away anymore....so I'm having my daughter walk me down the isle. I feel as though HER blessing is very important for this wedding and to have her walk me down the isle shows that she welcomes what is to become her new family.
Talk it over w/your fiance and whatever the 2 of you agree upon will be your best decision.
Congratulations!
2007-07-11 06:54:33 · answer #10 · answered by secret_oktober_girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋