Okay, I'm a guy. I can get sensitive. Within the past week, my girlfriend of eight months broke up with me. She told me that just recently she's lost feelings for me. She also says that she thinks she likes some other kid. What is confusing is, she hooked up with somebody last summer and she hated him. She said she regretted it and she would never talk to him again. Now, the guy she has a date arranged with is the guy's best friend, and she and him are talking again. I stayed home from work Monay sobbing it all out, and ended up having to sit in the back room yesterday just because I couldnt keep a tear out of my eye. I'm up for a good half an hour each night so far thinking about everything we did, and how fast it went away. I really don't know what to do, and need some suggestions. I'm not that stereotypical beer-drinking party guy, and only met her because we went to school together. I just don't know what to do from here.
2007-07-10 17:50:22 · 20 answers · asked by sfef_a1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Eight months with a girl that dashes away just like that. That's typical of how most chicks view a relationship. As long as they are getting their jollies things are cool but they get bored easy and are always looking for the next thrill.
She would be on my "I never knew her" list. Don't even look at her. She's not worth the pain or bother.
Now, lets get on with life.
First, don't get locked into a relationship with a girl that you have been talking with for less than a year. You need lots of time to see if they are worth your while and to see how they treat others. That's always a very good indication of how they will treat you. You don't need to find out the hard way that they are the goddess of pain.
Second, get out and do some things. Occupy your mind. Change your routine. Don't think about her. Put her out of your mind as soon as she enters it.
Third, the best way to get over someone is to find a new someone. There are girls you see everyday. Some of them are kinda nice to look at too. Strike up a friendly conversation with some of them just to develope new friendships. Slow and steady. Take your time. You need to expand your circle of friends and being nice to girls is a good way to get them to be your friend. Make it a point to meet one new girl a week. Before you know it, if your a decent guy, you will have a date whenever you wish and you know who will just be a distant bad memory.
Best Wishes
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2007-07-10 18:16:51 · answer #1 · answered by Fade To Black 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep busy. The hardest part is the beginning. Trust me... It gets better with time and friends. There is no pill you can take to make the pain stop instantly. If there were, the world would be a better place.
Just keep telling yourself that this isn't the end of the world, even if it seems like it is for the time being.
Don't sit and dwell.... live
Remember who you were before her and do the things that made you happy before your relationship.
Friends can help a lot right now.
Call an old friend or someone you talk to all the time. Go out... Not to a bar or to get drunk. that won't solve anything. Just remember all the good things there are in life and know that you will get through this.
I know it's tough, but time heals all wounds.
2007-07-10 18:01:30 · answer #2 · answered by .:?U keEp mE sMiLiNg?:. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard right now, your trying to understand something, that just doesnt make sense. And you probably arent ever going to get answers that will satisfy your confusion. Well your a nice guy and it's not your fault that this girl you really liked played with your heart. She's hurt you, she probably doesnt really care about your feelings, otherwise she wouldnt have gone ahead and done what she has done. Don't put yourself through torture of reliving the happy times. Just find comfort in that you did have some great times, but she really hurt you and it's probably healthier for you to move on and not dwell. I know that's hard, but in time it'll just happen. At least she was honest enough to say that she has feelings for someone else and didnt string you along. Now's a good time to catch up with old friends, get a hobby, join a sports team, keep yourself busy, have fun to fill in that time that spare time you use to share together. Everyone get's their heart broken.
2007-07-10 18:00:00 · answer #3 · answered by pinksandbeach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. I think every man has gone through this before. You have to just take it and get on with your life. It may help to also realize that she was not the one for you, and you are better off without her. Keep in mind, months from now, when you have moved on and have a woman that deserves you in your life, she will still be chasing guys that she will regret being with, and will likely end up having 5 kids with 6 "Babys Daddys". When you see her on Jerry Springer or Judge Mathis, you will feel vindicated.
2007-07-10 18:25:48 · answer #4 · answered by lonepanther2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously doesnt deserve someone like you..you sound like a really good guy and a girl who hurts u and make u cry is not worth it at all. For now, every advice that people will give you will not really help you because your heart is broken, but with time u will learn to cope with it and ull realise it will get better. But if i can tell u one thing, u must stay around your friends and family and people who love will always love you because ull realise with time that they are the only people who really matter, and they will be able to give you strengh..
Ive been through this and i know its very hard, but know how to love yourself and not to allow ANYONE to ever hurt u!! When u will meet the girl that will deserve u, u wont even be thinking about that loser of ur ex!!
Good luck :)
2007-07-10 17:59:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since its over, you shouldn't think about her that much. Try to take her off of your mind by trying something new. Whatever you're interested in. I know you're sad but the less you think about it, the less you will feel heart-broken. If you can't get her off ya mind, maybe you should suggest another cutie? I mean you don't wanna be stuck on the girl who broke your heart, right? So go look for someone special who you know will stick wit ya. Plus, you can always through a huge bash at your place and invite a whole lotta cuties and you might hit it off. So wipe those tears away, take a deep breath, and enjoy whats in front of you right now.
2007-07-10 17:58:02 · answer #6 · answered by ☼ Lanée. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go ahead and grieve... break-ups are rarely easy.....and usually one party hurts now while the other party has regets at a later date.. many fall is love so quickly but then the idea of being so much in love dies and the parties begin to see things that they didn't when they first got together... this is the true test of their love if both parties can live with these things then that is when unconditional love begins.... if one or both parties are now irratated by the same things that were once so cute.... then the love dies.... just do your best to cope.... in the mean time write your self a list of characteristics that you want in a mate and if you meet someone again make sure they are at least 80% of these things..... don't let yourself be blinded by the idea of just having anybody to love... and remember you deserve the best.... good luck
2007-07-10 18:00:41 · answer #7 · answered by trish m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eat. Watch a movie. Try to think of the good, the bad and the ugliest memories. Then weigh. Is there love left? If there is, try to find ways for reconcilation. If none, sleep all day. Cry the next day. But on the third day, wake up a brand new person, ready to face and world and willing to fall in love again.
2007-07-10 17:55:02 · answer #8 · answered by Raul, Jr. N 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awwww you are such a sweet guy. Trust me, girls die for guys like yourself! The problem with guys today is that they don't care enough for girls and when they do the girls end up leaving them for other guys, just like what happend to you as you described. You're not alone. I've heard tons of stories from my guy friends with the same scenario. Listen, you're a mature and serious guy. You really cared for her and liked her. She simply took you for granted, she will never realize what she had until she goes out with other guys. Obviously there is no point in talking to her because she will just brush you away.
No breakup is easy, try hanging out with your friends, it always helps. Slowly you never know, she may just approach you and tell you that she really didnt realize how much you cared for her. Oh yes, good guys always finish last. It's good that you are getting your feelings out and being truthful. Time heals all wounds. Best of luck! I hope your princess comes soon :)
2007-07-10 17:57:22 · answer #9 · answered by PaLi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will be your best friend. Everyday will get easier for you and more quickly as you meet more people. Don't obligate yourself to just one person until you feel ready. There is someone perfect out there for you. One year from now, your head will be cleared and you'll think back and wonder why you were so upset in the first place.
2007-07-10 17:57:46 · answer #10 · answered by nurse68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋