My sister sent me an email this morning about some kids she is teaching this week in Vacation Bilble School.These children are from 3 to 6 years of age.she said there were 2 little girls wrote her a note and told her to go to hell,and while they were having class they were disrupted and told her she was not their boss they could do what they wanted.
After class she told their parents and they acted like they were not concerned about it.What should she do ? my sister is a very loving person and this hurt her very much.She asked me for advice and I would bust their butts or grab them by the ears and drag them to their parents,not the kind of thing she needs to hear.
(Many blessings)
2007-07-10 17:45:12 · 13 answers · asked by margaret moon 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If the parents cannot or will not discipline their children then your sister needs to go to whoever is in charge of her ministry and tell them of the problem. Then the parents need to be called in and told that if their children cannot behave then they also cannot attend.
I teach Sunday school and we give kids a break because they are just kids after all, but we don't put up with open rebellion and we do warn parents that continued disobedience will lead to dismissal.
2007-07-10 17:49:47 · answer #1 · answered by Martin S 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, some people use VBS as a cheap means for 'day care'.
The parents may not care, just want their children out of their hair for the week.
Your sister should talk to the pastor and let him know what happened. The pastor should tell the parents that if their kids do not behave nor want to be there, then they will have to leave.
This is an optional event and your sister should not have to be the 'heavy' here. That's what the staff is paid for, not a volunteer.
As much as I feel for her (me being a Children's minister for 8 yrs) there's been countless times that I've had to tell parents that the children were not allowed back in to children's service because they are disruptive. They would have to sit in the main sanctuary with their parents.
My goal as a children's minister was not to teach basic manners, but to teach the gospel.
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2007-07-11 00:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As much as we would like to, we really can't discipline other people's children. We especially can't lay a hand on them. If speaking to them, and their parents doesn't work, then you need to think of the example they are setting for the other children, and asked that they be kept from class a time or two, and see what that does. Don't be angry at children that small for the way they act. They only behave in the same way they see their parents acting. Children are very impressionable. And there is no such thing as a bad child, just one who misbehaves. That behavior could be changed very easily with the right role models. If your sister is kind and caring, maybe she's what they need. Not being taken out of class permanently.
2007-07-11 00:55:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Children need to read from the bible, she needs to open it up and read a passage. Kids are not to young to hear these stories, the holy spirit guides each of us helping us understand what is in that book. Mark is a great place to start reading, I know vacation bible school is all about fun, but a small reading will settle the kids down before the activites. Your sister should feel bad for these children, obviously they need the bible if this is the way they are acting.
2007-07-11 00:55:54 · answer #4 · answered by Peng-you 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow. What I suggest is if they do something again to hurt your sister, have the kids and their parents have a little talk with the pastor. Make them understand that their actions aren't going to be put up with. Tell them they are welcome to come to church and get to know God, but telling the sunday school teacher to go to Hell is clearly a sign they aren't learning. If things don't improve after that, see if they can talk to a counselor about their hatred.
God Bless.
2007-07-11 01:00:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should talk to the person in charge of running the Bible school. Perhaps the kids can be kicked out because people pay for their kids to go to this and if their kids are going to get nothing but a negative experience then there will be some angry parents.
I would, if I were her, leave it to the person in charge to handle so, she won't be looked badly upon.
2007-07-11 01:04:32 · answer #6 · answered by SDC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is popular to hear kids are cruel, and it is becasue they say what they think.
I think those kids need to learn what is to give love and to take care of someone. I knew that pets are showing to kids that part, like taking care of a little cat or little dog, and to see they are not the center of the world. it may help.
Also talk to the parents and ask them to say love words to the kids, becasue usually kids repeat what they hear, it is very important. Maybe they also need more attention and care than the rest of the class. Good luck to her.
2007-07-11 14:40:13 · answer #7 · answered by Robo-Hearth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a little boy once who always acted up in class, I decided instead of paying attention to his bad behavior to show him love and tell him Jesus loved him no matter what.
His whole countance changed and was the sweetest little boy for me. He was acting up to get attention, I don't know what his family life was at home, but he needed to know that he was loved.
2007-07-11 00:51:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't know... I would speak with the Pastor, I would pray.
I would possibly see how the Children react to being barred for a week or two.. although then you also want them to hear God's word...
Talk to the Children see what is happening for them...
I am not exactly sure as I am not in this situation...
2007-07-11 00:53:02 · answer #9 · answered by Abbasangel 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If the children come back she should turn them over to the pastor and not let them in her class. the Children need to learn to be respectful.
2007-07-11 00:51:10 · answer #10 · answered by Dark Angel 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋