A month ago my step grandma elected me to help her with two younger cousins of mine when they visit. She always has them out here every summer and this time she told me I'd help her take them to a theme park, to the movies, and swimming. Not that I really mind doing any of these things, but the fact she didn't ask has gotten to me. Her son, my step father, couldn't believe she didn't ask. She also hasn't said thank you for the things I've already done. (I'm midweek with it). This weekend I'm in a wedding and the bride has asked me to do last minute things with her and help her out. I really like doing this sort of thing and she's feeling overwhelmed. I'm the only one not working much this week so she asked me to come to her mercy. I told her yes, forgetting about my prior "agreement" to my step grandma. Now I feel horrible about not being able to help the bride after stating I would. My step grandma can definitely handle the girls alone. They are 6 and 8. How do I get out of this?
2007-07-10 17:29:04 · 5 answers · asked by Tiffany 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't know what I can tell her to stay home. She won't believe me if I say I have a headache and can't go. The other thing I'm now thinking of is that I will probably be burned if we're at a theme park for the 5 hours she says we will be. I'm very fair skinned (got burnt in 3 hours at the swimming pool last week with SPF50 on). I need to be presentable for pictures at the wedding this weekend. I keep thinking of new "excuses" not to go with my step grandma. I'd really rather help the bride since she actually needs it. I have a feeling the grandma will be upset with me if I don't go, but the bride is also stressed out. Who do I choose?
2007-07-10 17:32:22 · update #1
The devil chooses your relatives! Instead of thinking of excuses, be upfront and tell her that your are unavailable until after the wedding. Your step-dad should support you. If granny doesn't like it then granny can lump it or devise other activities for the girls. Your friend needs your help to make her special day even more special - help her.
2007-07-10 17:39:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The bride. But tell your step grandmother the truth and tell her now so she can make other plans. Simply tell her politely that you are not available, you have a prior commitment. And you will get back with her to let her know when you are available to help her out.
No one can force you to do anything unless you go along with it. She sounds like she's rude and controlling. Don't let her get away with it.
2007-07-11 00:48:43 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i hate when people don't ask so i'll tell your grandma you can't do it and if she get mad tell her you would have told her this at first but she never asked so it's not your fought she made the wrong assumption that you'll help her. i know this sounds cruel to say to your grandma but she like anyone else should NEVER volunteer you without asking you first. well i don't know what you're going to decide to do but if it was me i'll definitely be helping the bride as i originally planned and my grandma would have to learn the hard way to ask first
2007-07-11 00:38:43 · answer #3 · answered by love doctor 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell be honest with her. Maybe your step father should help out. Your friend will only get married once.
2007-07-11 01:36:22 · answer #4 · answered by flip 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say that your really, really busy
2007-07-11 00:38:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋