How is a girl supposed to know if a guy is asking for sex to use her or because he wants a relationship. At how many days or weeks into meeting a girl does a guy consider her a serious girlfriend and not just using her? I need to know because I can never tell if a guy likes me or not. And what was they usual "first time" length for a girl you have had a previous relationship with in the past?
2007-07-10 15:48:19 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This may surprise you but sometimes you can never tell when a guy is using you. I have experience when i hold out for months and the guy seems heaven sent but after he hit it for a few times he was gone. yet my husband and i made love the first date and we are still together after 14yrs.
The best advise i can give you. Choose the guy that loves you unconditionally. they are the good guys and the ones who goes unnoticed; but if he loves u this much he will not intentionally hurt you and you will have a happy relationship without the fear of been used.
2007-07-10 15:59:11 · answer #1 · answered by kayec25 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First the relationship and then perhaps sex. If he cares about you he would wait for you until whenever. As long as he believes you care about him and that the time will someday arrive. Every guy worth his salt is going to eventually broach the subject of sex with his love interest but if he is worth a hoot he will accept you and respect you for waiting until the relationship matures until both of you find a sexual relationship desirable. There is a lot you can do short of sex to make life interesting.
As for how long? It was a mistake no doubt but not long and in the end it turned into a good marriage. Friends on the other hand said their wife never would until marriage and that is exactly what brought their respect for their girl to the level that made them want to commit for a life time.
2007-07-10 16:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by cold_fearrrr 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If a guy asks for sex soon, then he's probably just using you. If you tell him no and he still stays, then he's serious. No matter what you do if you have sex with him too soon, he will lose alot of respect for you.
2007-07-10 15:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
When he marries you, then you know he's not using you for fun. If you give to him before marriage, you will never really know, till he dumps you for new booty. Don't give till he gives you what you want the most -- a full commitment.
2007-07-10 15:52:27 · answer #4 · answered by Kyle 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
the best way is keep saying no --- its the quickest way to find out --- if he accepts that and does not pester you then he wants more ---- if he leaves you are better off without him --- its not elegant it just works ---- best wishes
2007-07-10 15:53:08 · answer #5 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋