Thank God I paid attention to the older crowd of girls I ran with, they looked out for me and scolded me. I learned from them that even though they slept with men, and they were real pretty, that even they couldn't keep a man. So I just said to myself, hey if you can't get a man even when you sleep with them, then why sleep with them at all? So therefore I have never had sex in my life, but of course, neither I nor them have a man. So if guys don't like either group, how does a girl get a man then?
2007-07-10 15:41:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Depends what your standards are and what your basis for not having sex with your date...your boyfriend...your fiance may be.
If it's based on your beliefs, than that's a great basis to save yourself for marriage, for someone you love and someone who is mature enough to commit to you.
If it's based on anything else, it may not last (get the hottest guy you can imagine and it's hard for ANY ONE HUMAN girl to say no...)
In the end, IT DEPENDS ON THE TYPE OF GUY YOU'RE PURSUING. I've met great guys out there who are not just interested in sex, but the whole person. I've met great guys in college who are virgins,
not for lack of options, but by choice.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that there are great guys out there, so don't give up hope. Do, however, know where to look. The greatest of guys (generally) don't frequent bars and frats. They're your more studius men who know what they want for themselves, their future, and the ones they love.
Get out there, clubs, volunteering, work, research (if that's your thing), college classes, church, etc, etc....you'll find someone-rather, they'll find you-when you least expect it.
BEST OF LUCK TO YOU!! Hope you find happiness :)
2007-07-10 15:49:25 · answer #1 · answered by abby j 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself, and one day some guy will come knocking and you'll know.
I never slept with any guy, however..the one guy I met in college this was 4 years after high school...I thought he was the one to marry and settle down with.
He sodomized me one night on the way back to my folks house from a date. He could not wait for me to tell him yes or no about sex...he took it into his own hands. He did not want me pregnant or take my virginity.
My parents made me marry the SOB, and the ONE time on our wedding night he took it...but went back to anal sex...
All I can say is be careful...and keep your eyes open..life is a journey..and sometimes...the journey can be painful or sweet...It can only be what you make it.
Blessings
2007-07-10 15:50:34 · answer #2 · answered by Midnight Winter WOLF 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it's not about sleeping. Men have feeling and emotions just like women. It's not different at all. They want to feel special, be complimented, told they are loved, etc. Having sex makes a loving relationship stronger but without that as one of my friends said, "its just excersise."
2007-07-10 15:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by xpuremanx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know how old you are, but sex and a boyfriend do not have to go hand-in-hand. People have sex with people they never intend to see again. People date and wait til marriage to have sex.
So, make up your own mind first when the right time will be (hopefully not til you're 18 and then, not until it's someone you're in love with who loves you and treats you like a queen). Then, don't compromise your position. If someone doesn't want to date you based on when you feel ready for sex, they're not worth your time. Tell them to save their breath for their blow-up date. :)
By the way, you don't need a boyfriend to be happy. Enjoy being young and unattached. Hang out with your girlfriends and don't try to grow up too fast. You have a whole lifetime ahead of you to be adult... time doesn't reverse, unfortunately.
2007-07-10 15:48:20 · answer #4 · answered by Laura 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There are decent guys in the world, they're just harder to find than the jerks. Good for you not caving in to pressure and just doing it. Change how and where you look for men and maybe change the type of guy you go for. The "bad boys" are just that, they don't have a heart of gold just waiting for some woman to love them enough.
2007-07-10 15:46:41 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are guys that are looking for more than sex (of course they want sex as well) --- they want to know the person more than they feel the need for sex and will not run away if and when you have sex because they know that getting closer makes everything better ---- keep an open mind because you never know what is going to happen ------- best wishes
2007-07-10 15:47:30 · answer #6 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You finding the wrong men. The good ones want to be with you for you not for sex.
2007-07-10 15:45:40 · answer #7 · answered by deniver2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you find a man who just loves spending his time with you because you make each other smile, then you have found the boyfriend type.....
2007-07-10 15:50:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they might be choosing the wrong "type" of man or they are doing something wrong like moving too fast or something. Way to go on staying a virgin.
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2007-07-10 15:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by ALI 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have got to choose the right man - be aware of yourself and have respect for yourself & hopefully you will be able to distinguish the good from the bad - also if he cares he will not pressure you - it's up to you to set the pace & pu ton the brakes if you do not feel rite about things.
2007-07-10 15:46:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋