im 15 and my mom is a drunk. i live with her. my parents are divorced. i have two brothers. we hate it when my mom drinks. she is not a good mom. i tried talking to her and that didnt help. so anyways i spend a lot of time with my grandma who is 56. my mom gets jealous when i hang out with my grandma because she feels that i like her better. i kinda do. so i talked to her. i said "can i go with grandma?" she said " today is not the day to be going anywhere." i said "but i have to." she said "why?" i said " i miss her. whenever i try to depend on you, you act like a lunitic." she walked away and said "oh starla!" she was crying as she walked to her room. i followed her. she faced the wall and wouldnt face me. " im sorry." I said. "so i guess im a bad mother?" she said crying. "no your not, you need to stop drinking." i said. then she went on and on about how i shouldnt be spending so much time with my grandma. help! i miss grandma not my mother! i hate her!
2007-07-10 15:39:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well if you miss your grandma and hate your mom than you should go live with your grandma.
2007-07-10 15:49:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if you can legally go live with your grandma. You are in at a sensitive age, seek out Al-Anon, as your mom needs help. If she won't let you go to your grandma's where you like it and are safe, then she is trouble, and will be trouble for you.
Get some legal advice from Al-Anon, and maybe some suggestions as to how you can spend more time with your grandma. Ask your grandma if she is willing to let you move in.
They may send your mom for rehabilitation for alcoholics, if you have younger brothers. She can't carry on crying, and upsetting you about the type of woman she is. She isn't a good role model for you, which is the thing you are seeking and deserve.
2007-07-10 23:04:51 · answer #2 · answered by Marissa Di 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By your description, it sounds like you were honest and still respectful with your mother.
Your most important priority should be to build a healthy life for yourself.
I guess living with your father isn't a good option? If he's decent and doesn't drink to excess, it might be better.
Maybe your grandma can't take you? At your age, you could go with her if you want to.
I'd recommend talking to a school counselor and going to a few alateen meetings; it might help you sort things out.
2007-07-10 22:49:43 · answer #3 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok i have been in this situation once myself, i felt so desperate and the guilt trips will continue to pile on becuase your mother knows they work, so explain how u feel about her and your grandma, and explain what u consider to be spending quality time. Explain this in person and if this doesn't work try writing a letter. But get through to her before you give up and the guilt trips add up. My friend be very patient and she will crack it worked for me!!! Keep telling yourself patience is a virtue!!! You can do it!!! make her see how much you love her!!!!
2007-07-10 23:30:50 · answer #4 · answered by Juicy Jellybean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now u must care 2 ur mother, she know if u more like grandma than her.u're wrong.. ur mother was pregnant u, until 9month 10 days,he make u come in this world..what can u do is u put the drunk and take to the rubbish, everyday..slow but sure,certainly ur mother know if u very care to her..u don't always go to ur grandma, sometimes lunch together with her or other...trust me! all of mother in this world very-very love to her children
2007-07-10 22:52:46 · answer #5 · answered by dhila p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi -- i wanted to let you know there is an organization called Alateen and i've posted the link below.
hon, your mother doesn't hate you, she has a lot of problems, including an illness called alcoholism.
please visit the site if you want some help and support.
the best thing you can do right now is take care of YOU. i'm glad you have your grandmother for love and support, too.
hugs
2007-07-10 22:53:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother does not hate you.She has a drinking problem that only she can if she wants to to be able stop. You need counselling to help you cope with your mother and her drinking.Ask your grandma for help.
2007-07-10 23:07:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, your mother does not hate you. you already said she is a drunk. this is a sickness.. she needs help. unfortunately you can not do it for her. if you believe in god. pray... and talk to your grandmother. Your mother has to want help and when she is drunk she does not mean what she says or does. this is a disease and can not be controlled alone w/ o help.. an addiction is deadly.. try to talk to your mother when she is sober and see if that helps. no need to talk to her w hen drunk she does not hear you. Ask your grandmother for help. and if its too bad get involved with a school counselor... and see if they can suggest other alternatives
good luck.. i wish you and your siblings well.... Mo.
2007-07-10 22:51:46 · answer #8 · answered by u97e16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I wish I lived next door to you, you need a big hug. Its hard living with an alcholic especially your mother. You are trying to be your mothers mom. Please do not feel bad about going to spend time with your grandmother. Tell your mother you have to help yourself get help and that it is really bothering you and your brothers. Try to get some counselling for yourself in order to cope with the problems you have with her. Good luck with it.
2007-07-10 22:44:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you hate her then why do you care if she cries? go move to your grandmas house!
2007-07-10 22:43:16 · answer #10 · answered by John G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋