Do you find this unattractive?

Question

I'm a girl in my early 20's and i'm discovering that i'm growing up differently than my girl friends. While everyone's getting their A S S drunk and going out to clubs, I just want to keep it simple...stay home, watch a movie, go eat somwhere with a friend..besides, monoey is TIGHT and i don't wanna spend it on anything i won't really need. Being with the girls sometimes gives me drama...all they do is gossip and i'm sooo over it..no offense, but i really don't care for other people's personal life but my own and my loved ones.

I feel that I can't fully "party hearty" 'til i i feel like i'm doing constructuve in my life...i think like a guy...my goal or "mentality" in life is to "hunt" and my hunt is to getting that degree and a nice career - that's when i'll party

i don't go clubbin but i'm a fun girl full of self respect and yes, i like sports and video games...

is this unattractive?

okay i'll admitt it, sometimes i get insecure because i'm afraid guys will think i'm not as attractive because i don't go clubbing and i'm not like those other shallow girls my age...

PS: No offense to girls that go clubbin...you're not bad at all...it's just girls that i usually know that go clubbin are soo shallow and all they think about is "transparent" stuff like who's doing who and what they're gonna wear...that's ewww

Answer 1

You seem to be what I call an original. You have self respect and are hungry for a good career. Someone who is inteulectual or also wants to make something of themselves would like you.

Answer 2

No I find that very attractive, you are goal oriented and know that going to clubs and bars are just not your thing. That's great. You are right that going out to a movie or dinner is much more fun. You should however every now and then let your hair down and party some. I don't mean go get drunk, I mean go out with a friend or two for dinner and maybe a couple drinks. You sound like you have things together that a lot better than girls you age I know. Heck that's better than most boys your age I know, I was one at one time about 7 to 6 years ago. I think you are just what a man should be looking for and not all then one night flings in clubs or some crazy chick that parties all the time. Way to go!!!!

Answer 3

I'm with you hon... I was like that in my early 20s. Once I hit of age (drinking that is..) I wanted NOTHING to do with going into the city and clubbing and messing around. I was really content just staying in. Of course I wasn't exactly a hermit. I did go club hoppin' from time to time and made an @$$ out of myself in good ol' Beantown...but, home was were I was happiest and still am.AND that was also when I started realizing that life is meant to be enjoyed to its fullest. I have beautiful kids and a sweet man who is just hot in every way imaginable...Life is good. But...I did have insecurities as well...thinking something was wrong with me. I too can't stand drama...not that I haven't had drama in my life...a little drama is sometimes fun...what I learned is: you just gotta mix it up! A little of both. I, in my prime, kept a really low profile and I do regret that because I missed out on TOO much. I really should have learned to enjoy myself a LITTLE better. I wouldn't change any part of my life...I might wish I did a few more things...but I wouldn't be where I'm at today. Youre not weird, youre not unattractive either. ALot of men can't stand the drama. My husband HATES the whole drama, high maintanence types...their too full of themselves and too much of a worry. Don't worry, you are fine and you'll have a great life. PLus...you'll save some money in the mean time. Just remember to not skip over this time all together....because once its gone...its just that...gone! Enjoy yourself!!

Answer 4

I did the party and drink thing in my early twenties and then got over it. Some people never do.
If that is what you like to do, then do it.
I am thinking you are more mature than your friends and are thinking in long term as opposed to short term. Which is very smart.
I wouldn't worry about. Most are in bars to get laid and drink. It's not exactly a great place to men men to have relationships with.
I know alot of men who would love a woman into sports and video games.

Answer 5

No, this is quite sensible I think. Kudos to you for being this way. You are quite mature for your age and if you keep this perspective on track you will achieve all of your goals. All those other things will be easily achievable once you've surpassed this primary and important objective. You will be the one that those party hearty friends will seek out for help later on when you're successful and all. Hold your head high and keep going girl!!!

Answer 6

That's definitely not unattractive. I think there is a 'lifestyle' that a lot of young people believe they have to engage in otherwise they'll be uncool, nerdy or unattractive, etc. It appears to me that you certainly have your priorities right and I applaud you for that!

You seem like a very lovely girl and I have no doubt will be a wonderful partner to whomever you fall in love with!

Answer 7

hell no, that is attractive, if i was single i'd ask you out for a pizza, movie and a few rounds of your favorite ps2 games,

p.s. most guys know that the clubbing girls are shallow, which is why guys only see them as potential one nighters

Answer 8

It sounds like you've grown up.

That's more attractive to serious men, rather than the pretty boy jocks that hang out in clubs.

Answer 9

You are not shallow and you know what you want ...I'm 20 and I know how you feel...believe me...guys appreciate that kind of behavior more( i mean your behavior).
Take it easy and good luck in your life!

Answer 10

erm I'm not a guy.......but something tells me i'll be the same way... well minus the video games part.

I know there are guys who don't like sleazy/dramatic girls... 2 of my best friends are like that.

I'll be waiting for the answer too.