A woman and I have been doing a lot of flirting at work... I'm black, she's white. I've been trying to hook up with her but she's resisted my advances so far. Lately though, she's hinted that she might be interested in hooking up.Then, the other day, she admitted that one of the main reasons she's considering it is because she's never been with a black man before and she's curious. Part of me finds that a little offensive. However, another part of me really, really wants to hook up with this woman, no matter what her motives may be. Is her admission offensive, or should I give her credit for simply being honest, and go ahead and do what I gotta do?
2007-07-10 14:45:36 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let me clear something up... we're not talking about dating or a relationship, we're just talking about a hook-up... I think some of the answerers might have been confused.
2007-07-10 15:01:32 · update #1
You ain't gotta take that offensively, I don't think she ment to offens you by saying that, she's just saying the color she's never been with and would like to see with hooking up with one is like it's not that bad. If you wanna hook up with her and if she wants to hook up with you, then do so, she's being honest anyways.
Good luck!! =)
Bye bye!! =)
2007-07-10 14:56:23 · answer #1 · answered by Animal-luva4242 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is this offensive? You described her as being white so what's the difference in her telling you she's curious about being with a black man? If neither one of you are married, go for it. Just be careful since you two work together that if things don't work out, you still have to see each other.
2007-07-10 21:50:07 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was honest in her reply, now its really up to you and how you feel about it.. Could you really hook up with a lady just because she wants to try you out?? Hmmmmm I don't know about that one.. I would have been offended.. even though she probably meant no harm..
But actually if its only for a one night stand etc.. do you really think its wise.. working in the same office and all?
What if things go way wrong? Could you handle the outcome?
I would think twice before going forward on this one..
Whatever you decide.. its really up to you..
Just be ready for the downslide.. and good luck...
2007-07-10 21:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by Rebel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Brian J! As I see it, you can do one of two things here, and I am pretty sure on witch I`d take. If you like her, give her a chance, I mean to take it like you are being offended, just take all the fun and maybe the chance for you to be the gentleman you are and give her the best day/evening/night/morning of her life so far!!! Just a thought, good luck pal, peace and love from Norway
2007-07-10 21:58:35 · answer #4 · answered by thefallen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please. Don't take this offensive. I'm white as well. I lost my virginity to a black man. But, I was kind of afarid to do it for the fact he was black. Not because of me afarid of getting any disease it was just because I had never been w/ a black man before. But, just let her think about it. I thought maybe a black man would treat me diffrently than a white man did. And sadly, that man did. Not all blacks are like that but, he was. But, I now have someone speacil. Although, he is white. Just be good to her that way if you guys ever spilt apart maybe she'll still think about dating a black man again.
Good-Luck!
2007-07-10 21:51:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better go for it or you will never forgive yourself...these chances don't come around that often...it doesn't have to be a one time thing, she may subscribe to the old saying that "Once you go Black, you don't go back" (no offense)
Now you have to also consider that it might get weird at work if it doesn't go well...if you can deal with that issue, jump her bones!
2007-07-10 21:53:06 · answer #6 · answered by Perky_gurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesnt mean thats the only thing she is interested in, could just be the surface feelings at the time. Also women are known for running their mouth without realising what the implications of speach are.
2007-07-10 21:49:38 · answer #7 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what did u want to do?? actually get involved in a serious relationship?? she's just being honest about the reason shes accepting u!! any other woman would have just done it, but because this one told u her real motives it offends u??
2007-07-10 21:50:25 · answer #8 · answered by janie rey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's using you to see what its like to be with a black man..I don't think you should do it...but if you want to just hit it then after act like nothing ever happened. that will show her using behind...but once you go black you never go back! black men are the best! she might be chasing you after this!
2007-07-10 21:59:28 · answer #9 · answered by ms ambitious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't say "hit it" that just sounds immature. I wouldnt hook up with her, seems like she just wants to see what sex with a black man is like...like just give it a try kind of thing. Sounds stupid, I wouldnt do it.
2007-07-10 21:49:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋