This question is not for me or about me. One of my friends that is a girl is very confused about what she should do in this situation.
So she went to a church-related conference at a local college last week, and she met this guy there. Apparently they got to kind of know each other, and she likes him pretty much only as a friend. After they got back from the conference, he asked her out on a date, where they watched a movie at one of his friends' houses. He kept trying to hold her hand and stuff by doing all the stupid typical stuff we guys try to do, such as scooting closer, putting your hand on the couch near her, examining her bracelet to get your hand inside hers, and trying to pry her hand off of her knee. Eventually he gave up and put his hand on her leg. I was with them today and he had his hand on her leg and she looked uncomfortable with it. She wants to tell him to leave her alone, but in a nice way. How should she go about this?
2007-07-10 13:02:56 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She told me and another girl today that when she's with him, she doesn't like him. But when she's away from him, she starts to think he's not so bad. She doesn't want to hurt his feelings at all, and she feels REALLY bad whenever she has to turn down a guy for a date even when she's already scheduled an activity with her family.
2007-07-10 13:09:14 · update #1
How about all of you P&S retards get out of this section. We're looking for real answers here.
To clarify a little, it is not me that continues to try to hold this girl's hand. I didn't know this girl very well until today. She had been in my English class last year and I was very attracted to her. Now I am not so much liking this guy because I'm starting to like this girl too. I want to help her out in order to help myself. Get it?
2007-07-11 03:37:52 · update #2
Tell her that if he can not accept her boundaries then he is not worth it. Have her tell him how she feels.....if it ends badly be there for her.....tell her that he was not worth it....that she will find someone else.
good luck with all of that.
2007-07-10 13:10:50 · answer #1 · answered by thatonegirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she doesn't know what she wants... What she SHOULD do is be honest with him.
I wouldn't run up in his face and tell him she likes him better when he's not around but I would certainly tell him that they're missing that special spark. Maybe she should let him know that holding hands is a bit intimate to her and not something she's comfortable with yet. And if she's not holding his hand, he shouldn't be holding her knee, that's worse and implies a lot more!
She should just tell him to take it easy and give her space, get to know her and take it day by day.
2007-07-10 13:20:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she should tell him that she is interested in another man whom she likes a lot. And she doesn't feel like having a romance with any other man now.
If she wants to reject the guy nicely. Then she should tell the guy that she likes him well enough. But she simply is not available for a romantic relationship with him now.
2007-07-10 13:22:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
poor guy likes her...but i think if she wasn't giving off signals he shouldn't have tried to be so touchy like that, not on the first date! for some reason i'm leaning towards honesty here...i think she should tell him she only really likes him as a friend. if he has any cop-on he should be picking up on the fact that she's not responding to him.
ok i just read your added details. that was exactly what i was like with my ex, not liking him so much when i was with him but liking him when i was away from him. it had me really really confused at the time. it all worked out though, i eventually loved him when i was with him! maybe you should get her to actually work out how she feels. even if she's not crushing on him when she's with him, does she really enjoy spending time with him?
2007-07-10 13:13:26 · answer #4 · answered by Chasey Lane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is probably leading him on by being too nice. she should just tell him, something in passing like.. I'm glad i met such a great new FRIEND and hopefully he'll get the hint.
2007-07-10 13:07:52 · answer #5 · answered by arsenic sauce 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
possibly say, stop? or move away from him or she could tell him that she isnt into him, or she likes someone esle?. another thing she could do is try avoid him for a while. the guy will get a hint sooner or later.
2007-07-10 13:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by kkkatiie; 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just simply tell her to tell him she just wants to be friends. shes not intrested at this time. The one i used once was sorry but i am just looking for friends im not ready for a relationship at this time. she has to relalize if she lets this keep up he will keep doing that.
2007-07-10 13:17:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do know she is really a girl? You may want to make sure before you get your heart broken.
2007-07-10 13:09:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be honest tell him that is making her feel uncomfortable. If he can't handle that tough.
2007-07-10 13:06:35 · answer #9 · answered by Jethro M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every one who starts a ? like that is asking about themselves, face up to it! Or smell like ham!!
2007-07-10 13:09:39 · answer #10 · answered by Miss T 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋