He says he never loved me?

Question

I was deeply in love with my boyfriend and I'm not the type of person to use the word love lightly. We were together every day. We were planning marriage, kids, the whole nine yards. He was the one to really talk about that too. He was perfect and always said he loved me and was amazing. Then, all of the sudden one day he just stopped caring. We tried to work it out for 2 months and I told him love lasts forever, you can't give up. But he gave up. Yesterday, I met him at his lunch break, he ignored me. Then I said, hey what's up? and he went back to sleep in his car. Then I said why are you acting like this? He looked me in the eye and said I don't love you I don't like you.. i never even did. So I told him to go to h*e*l*l and threw a bag of crunched up doritos over his head! When I looked in his eyes, it looked like a sharks eye. There was no emotion. The scariest thing Iv'e ever seen. How can someone love someone so much, and suddenly have absolutely no feelings?

He just stopped calling me, saying he had no time and was always working or working out. In reality he was always with his friends and ditching our plans.

Answer 1

I know this must be a hurtful time for you. not only that but really shocking. but this is the reason he has flipped from one instance to another. if you are not ready to hear this, then stop reading now.


ok, still with me? well, I belive that for a while he may have been seeing another girl. Do not rationlize. think about the times he was late. or did not return the calls. think about his not intrest in sex with you or change in attitude postivive or negative. some men are just too nice to tell a woman that it is over. maybe he thought you would get the hint. but out of frustration. he lashed out at you cause he thought you didnt.

I'm sure you are a pretty, intelligent woman. and it is hard to let go of somthing you have known so long. but sweety let him go. you cannot make somone love you that simply does not anymore. as a man, he will hate you if you percede. but he will respect you if you leave with dignity.

somtimes we are afraid to walk out the door, when we do not know what is on the other side. I have been there. I left a man I was with for 9 years. and at first it was hard, being alone. it seemed like everyone had somone but me. but I went back to school, make more friends. now I have so many men calling me. I have no idea who to date now. you will go through this too. it does make you stronger. you can do it. and you will. good luck.

Answer 2

Hello young woman! Yeah, you had a rude awakening girl! First of I wanna say forget that dork, because that is was he is. Be very happy that you found out now, and not later with dept, a new house and 3 kids. etc etc.
You might say you are in fact lucky , because you are still young and this have learned you to be more aware. You see, young boys are not very bright, when they are young OK, most men learn, some faster, some actually never. But now you know what they might be like! sorry, What I mean is, they get more caring when they have learned a little bit more. Some must feel the pain of loosing some they love them self you know, and even then they might not understand the system which is to give and to get back one way or other, that is still a big ? for a great deal of them young and as I said, a little stupid as yet. I am getting popular among young men now I guess, but hey, I do excuse them don`t I? sorry again. Take this lesson as a bitter medicine, and forget the jerk and look for someone that gives you the respect and love you deserves OK! Don`t even give him one more tear or anything. Just overlook him complete, where ever you meet, ever. And dear young and I hope smart woman, don`t take him back when he comes and beg for a second chance, he is not worth it! forget him, now move on and find one of the many great guys who actually are there! Don`t worry, be happy! good luck, peace and love from Norway

Answer 3

Gah, another lovesick puppy. For starters you have the wrong perseption of love, love is a feeling its the people that have that feeling that works things out, love is the medium not the mind control device.

Love is also blinding which is why this breakup was so "sudden". He clearly hasnt been blind for whatever reason.

Also its natural for a guy who has broken up with his gf to act that way, he needs to convince himself he has no feelings for you so he can move on. Also he probally feels resentment for letting his guard down and loving you so that contributes to it.

Words can lie, acting can reinforce the lies and following actions can all be forged but the feeling of love is probally suppressed under all that hate.

Give the guy some time to miss you first

Answer 4

He's a child - emotions are fleeting - especially for males. The most important thing is that you know you can go on without him. That's important for you. When he can see that, then you have won the victory that allows you to carry on with your life and not care at all about him. If he sees that you are hurting, then he will only feel empowered. Don't give him that satisfaction.
You need a strong family support system to have the ability to turn your back and go forward with your life.
Mom's are pretty good at making that happen.

Answer 5

First rule of thumb, NEVER waste a good bag of Doritos! Second, young love is so fickle. I believe he did love you once, so don't let go of those good memories, ok? His being "sharked eyed" and saying mean things was his way of moving on. It seemed easier to p**s you off than any way else. So, now you must move on...there's LOTS of guys out there and I want you to start flirting with as many as possible. And along the way, another handsome prince will come along!!

Answer 6

What a mean way for him to act! I know it's hard right now,especially the way he handled it. But, he's probably done you a huge,huge favor.Wonder if you'd gotten married and had a kid.Then all of a sudden ,he starts acting like that.Give yourself time to get over him.And if later, he comes back and gives you (what he thinks is any valid reason).Just say "Look I forgive you,but I closed that door and moved on". And do just that! Real love,at least wants to talk something over! He's the one that has lost out! Square your shoulders,keep your chin up~Lady!

Answer 7

Ok - theories ....

1. You did something to hurt him but he isnt telling you what it is.
2. He heard you slept with someone or something similar and now doesn't trust you.
3. He has psychiatric problems.

I think you should ask about 1 and 2 and if you dont get a proper answer (I don't think you will) start the moving on process. Your heart will find another more worthy....it might not seem like it but it will.

Answer 8

Maybe you did something that you are unaware of that made him angry or maybe he just does what every other guy does. Use women until they feel like they don't want them anymore.
If he infact is telling the truth then move on to someone who truly loves you. Just do whats best for you, you'll know what it is even if it can't come to you right now. As for him , who cares. He sounds like a real jerk.

Answer 9

Honey people change, issues change people. Maybe he is going through something and can't handle a relationship too.
Best to give him some space and see what happens. Do not get in touch with him. Leave him alone now. If your relationship were meant to be, he'll come around again. Just give him time.

Answer 10

ok this guy is ****** retarded. ok so let me get this straight this ***** told u that he loved u and he was planning the rest of his future with u and then he all of a sudden just stops caring and break up with u....thats real gay just tell him **** him he's probably gay to tell u the truth. and also he wouldnt have stayed with u for so long and hung out with u everyday if he didnt love u so dont belive him when he says that he's just trying to hurt u just try to forget about him if u can and if u cant then have a deep conversation with him and ask him if he really didnt love u and see what he says and if he says that he just never loved u then say u kno what **** u i dont even care and thats it.