I have a boyfriend, we are very serious about each other and live together. We go to the gym together and I find myself really attracted to this guy that works there. I usually don't notice other guys but for some reason this one stood out to me in particular & I always notice him there now. What's this all about...any ideas? And is this normal to notice or be attracted to other people while in a committed relationship?
2007-07-10 12:55:24 · 11 answers · asked by sweetienat123 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is but normal to be attracted to another person even if you
have somebody already. However this attraction may be physical only because of this man's physical attributes.
You admitted that you are serious about your relationship
with your boyfriend, so I advice you not to take this attraction
too far in a way that will lead to a problem with your boyfriend.
Admiration will pass, but commitment to somebody will not.
2007-07-10 17:45:09 · answer #1 · answered by Orlando M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly normal to notice other people of the opposite sex even while in a committed relationship. The trick is to maintain the right balance.There is nothing in your letter to indicate that there are problems in your current romance; quite the opposite. Since this is a gym, a social atmosphere, there is nothing wrong in saying hello to this guy and then introducing him to your boyfriend.As long as your motives are innocent and remain so ; and your boyfriend doesn't start feeling left out , jealous, and resentful, you can even maybe train together.However, the moment the dynamics begin to change , then it is time to put a brake on things and back off.Meanwhile, be upfront with your man at all times and don't be tempted to become evasive or sneaky. That usually is the beginning of the end. Remember the saying: a bird in hand is worth two in the bush.
2007-07-10 20:15:36 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it is normal to be attracted to other people but you shouldn't act on it. you may just be getting scared about the relationship your in. Maybe it is getting more serious and you need to evaluate how your feeling in your relationship. Good Luck
2007-07-10 20:02:37 · answer #3 · answered by Big Mamma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its normal to look. The point in which you draw back is when you find it a point to reach out and talk to this person. In life we will always be looking at the opposite sex, it isn't until we make it a point to persue that person when its considered cheating.
If you stare its okay... but make it a point to "get to know" this person is when you need to be worried!
2007-07-10 20:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by Mo' Sigg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. Don't act on it. It's just that little red devil testing you. I've had those too. Almost acted, but now glad I didn't. Most time, they turn out to have a issue you don't care for or simply aren't what you thought they were. Be faithful, be good, have fun! HUGS
2007-07-10 19:58:32 · answer #5 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We are human...it's one thing to be attracted to someone and just move on...and another thing to interact with that person you are attracted to while being in a relationship.
YOU decide...
2007-07-10 19:59:15 · answer #6 · answered by lotsofluv007 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it like a high school crush type feeling. If so then thats alright.
2007-07-10 19:59:45 · answer #7 · answered by robin love 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course its normal
2007-07-10 19:59:04 · answer #8 · answered by s.a. girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its ok, he is cute, so you like to look. We all do it, your boyfriend too. Lol, but your heart is with him so no worries.
2007-07-10 19:58:29 · answer #9 · answered by mkb2000bkm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's perfectly normal... but dont take any action on it.
2007-07-10 19:59:23 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ [cindy] 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋