I am getting married in a few months and my fiances adult son is going to be the best man. I am trying to figure out a way my two son's can be in the wedding besides walking me down the aisle.
We will be getting married in a small outdoor ceremony.
2007-07-10 12:47:58 · 10 answers · asked by kbdjmc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
They should be attired approximately the same (tux, etc.) as your fiance's son. They could both be at the "entry", meeting and greeting, and maybe even ushering, your guests to their seats.
When the minister asks who gives this woman in marriage, they should be right there and say something together like, "Her family and I." , or "We do.". Then they should each stop and take time to kiss you on the cheek before you actually step forward toward the groom.
Also, there is absolutely nothing wrong with having them be in the wedding and stand with you on your side where bridesmaids are. The number of attendants do NOT have to match on each side -- when it comes to "his son and your sons" - well, etiquette doesn't matter, PEOPLE matter. It would probably mean a lot to your sons (if not now, then in the future). I've seen this several times. It is quite touching.
Because the wedding is outdoors, that loosens up a little on all the "musts" and "shoulds". Not that it is any less formal or elegant, it's just that the freedom of the outdoors allows and calls for freedom in the way you want to do it all.
2007-07-10 13:18:56 · answer #1 · answered by sheek Txn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We wanted to get our kids (I'm talking adult kids here) involved when my husband and I got married, too. I had my maid of honor, and he had his son-in-law as his best man. We had his 2 daughters and my son come up and stand on either side of the minister while we said our vows. The minister called them up after he said a few words at the beginning of the ceremony. After we said our vows and exchanged our rings, the kids were asked to return to their seats. The minister then continued with the ceremony. It all worked out real well. My son stood next to the minister on the groom's side and his two daughters stood next to the minister on the bride's side. We had them stand next to the minister facing us so they wouldn't block the view for everyone else attending.
I hope this helps.
2007-07-10 20:34:25 · answer #2 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
After the honor of walking you down the aisle and giving you away, at the reception ask them to be the toastmasters, but together, could be interesting and gives them the head position at the reception
2007-07-10 19:52:48 · answer #3 · answered by Pengy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having your sons walk you down the aisle would be the best and most memorable to them in giving their mother to her new husband.
2007-07-10 19:56:51 · answer #4 · answered by Patty G 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that having them be your "maids of honor" would be awsome. Its becoming more accepted to have men in on the brides side as well.
2007-07-10 21:00:46 · answer #5 · answered by beachgirl111982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have them be your best men, too you know. Or if your new hubby wouldn't mind letting them stand on his side as well, that would be a nice gesture.
2007-07-10 19:51:23 · answer #6 · answered by mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ushers, bouncer, readings, prayers, poems
2007-07-14 14:31:11 · answer #7 · answered by kystarlyte_kystarlight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't they be your bridesmen? Have them wear tuxedos and stand on your side in all the pictures.
2007-07-10 20:29:14 · answer #8 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They could each do a reading.
2007-07-11 10:06:38 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they can be ushers - or they can do a reading
2007-07-10 20:31:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋