Why do women assume all men are jerks?

Question

How can they come to this conclusion? Have they met every man on Earth?

If they would stop pursuing the bad boys, they could spare themselves a lot of heartbreak.

Am I being unreasonable?

For the guy who said I contradicted myself, fine. Forgive me. But I have lost count of the women who have made this comment on here.

Doesn't the bad boy obsession help them make this obversation?

I meant to say observation.

Answer 1

It's the flip side of guys who think that "all women are bitches/sluts/cheaters, etc."

Generalizations never get people into a good place mentally.

Most likely the women who do come off with that attitude are ones who have been abused or taken advantage of by a father (figure) and/or ex-boyfriend.

It's a defense mechanism to assume that because the current guy is an ***, the next one will be as well. I've had my share of bad guys, and it's been hard to trust again. However, I keep my optimism up and take each guy as a separate incident. Innocent until shown to be guilty, as it were.

There is a fine line in being cautious with your heart, mind, and body - and a neo nazi feminist out to destroy male egos everywhere ;). Hehe.

Answer 2

In my heart I truly KNOW all men are not this way. I try to treat people like people, no catorgarizing. Its so hard, I'm sorry, when you have guys going around saying things that girls are primiscuous, out for money? I have never done or been any of these thing. Guys can get away with so much and girls are left in the dirt. We have grown to hold back because of criticism. I definantly DO NOT pursue "bad boys", I steer clear of them. At the first sign I walk. My dream is the nice guy with the optimistic personality who can put a smile on my face. I think you are wrong about alot of girls then. Good guys get all my attention and the so called "bad boys" are kicked to the curb. they are only compensating for the personality they lack.

Answer 3

I am not sure why some women think that the 'bad boys' are better. Some women think that all men are jerks because they are afraid of commitment. You are not being unreasonable. They need to just suck it up and live their lives not in the corner but out in the open...taking some chances.
Not every woman is like that.

Answer 4

Yes and no. From my observations of the female species what they say and what they mean tend to be verry different.

Second of all how are they going to find you when you dont make yourself found. Trying to find a needle in a haystack when the needle is the same colour as the hay is impossible, so imagine girls trying to find you?

Agreed with the badboys comment, why they fall in love with guys who end up destroying them is beyond me. The ones that do, well no use crying over spilt milk :P Just fight the battles you can win.

I just realised you contridicted yourself as well. You speak of generalising in the first sentance then you generalise about girls persuing the bad boys huh. Nice little double standard you hold there :P

Answer 5

Have you heard the saying nice guys finish last? Its true! I use to be a very nice guy, still anice guy but draw a line at a certain limit. You see, I did all i could to please my girl, then she cheated. F that, kicked her to the curb real fast! Next girl, i was as nice as can be, she f me, then left me for another dude. I felt used, it was cool that a chic only wanted to F.

Now, I am a nice guy that doesnt take any **** from anyone. I still know how to treat a lady, but I dont give them 100 % anymore. So, to answer your question, who gets the girl you or the jerk?

I'm 35, and my girlfriend is 24. She likes to ride on the back of my Harley and rub on my tatted arms and chest.

Bad Boys Club!!!!

Answer 6

Well..... maybe because everytime a guy comes along, they end up being complete jerks... and have never found that one guy who proves us wrong....

Naturally, if the same thing happens over and over again, we feel that it's just going to keep happening. It's a vicious cycle. It's hard to actually believe one person when every other person out there has broken our heart.

Do ya really blame us?


I was with a guy for over a year. I thought he was finally the one who proved me wrong in my theory that all guys are the same. Well, he was just the one who kept the good work up the longest. He ended up neglecting me and cheating on me. The one I thought was the best guy ended up being the worst.

Answer 7

yes and no you even have to admit that the jerks out weigh the nice guys. i don't assume every guy is bad but they force the opinion on themselves by the way most treat women as easy sex and nothing else, scared of committment some have good reasons to be others don't, disrespectful not all are this but i've seen to many that are

Answer 8

I think you are being a tad unreasonable, but as life goes on you learn from experience (hopefully) .

as well as there being not so people on the planet, there are some the opposite.

i dated 2 not so nice women, rest of my girlfiends were a lot better. theres always signs to look for , as you get older, you learn to know what they are.

Generalisation is not a good thing, regardless of ONE person, there are idiots of all genders / races on this planet, but more people who aren't.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

No..your aren't unreasonable..but may I please say....not all women assume all men are jerks...like myself. A little advice...maybe it isn't workin out with you and women because you assume that you think you know us. I am sorry it itsn't workin out, but man, "slow your roll". Not all women like bad boys either. Just be yourself and the right one will come along. Good luck man..hope you learned something. ^-^