well, i broke up with my first love 2 months ago. it was all butterflies and rainbows and "i want to marry him" at the time...but then when all the heartache clears up i start to realise love is kind of blind. (can i just throw in that i'm 21 by the way).
i know i'm supposed to look at this relationship and take the things i liked about my ex and look for them in a future boyfriend. and look to avoid the things i didn't like.
parents tell you that you have different needs when you're older from when you're younger, and you have to look at that when choosing a life partner.
so i guess i've realised i need someone a little more stable, less of a social drinker, more motivated...someone with similar life goals to me.
at what point in your life did you realise what you needed in a partner? and did this make it harder to find people, because you became more picky? or did it make it easier, because you could see what you wanted?
2007-07-10 12:21:56 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well of course in high school when ure mind is mature as milk your probally thinking, "oohh i would like a guy with a six pack that is in the medium-popular group".
But as you grow up you learn that those types are losers, and the keepers are in the nerdie group (hehe kidding). You sure do change your tone when you need someone more relyable/mature also your hormones arnt totally in control as well so it makes it easier.
2007-07-10 12:26:39 · answer #1 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I'm 25 and i'v had alot of 'loves'. I thought I was in love a couple times, but sweetheart, when you find it, you'll know. that person will be able to piss you off to the max and know how and when to push buttons and vise versa, and you'll still be able to forive em. Don't go out looking to hook up and find love, it'll find you and yes it is blind. its easier when you know what you want out of life and in someone, but that doesnt mean make your standards impossible to reach. I've been with my bf for the last 6 yrs, we recently got into a fight and didnt talk for 3 weeks, it was as if i lost part of me, i didnt feel complete. I'm not an expert by far on relationships, but believe me, when you find em, you'll know... and its gonna be scary and exciting at the same time.
2007-07-10 19:32:25 · answer #2 · answered by sunsyne_666 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I realized what I needed in a partner when I found him. I didn't LOOK for a relationship and it just found us. That is the best you can do, understand what you would like, but don't turn a guy down because he doesn't fit every aspect. I found that if you truely love someone and want to be with them, you both adapt to fit the relationship and where it is going.
2007-07-10 19:30:00 · answer #3 · answered by Trixie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
growing up isnt without pain dear. when you start thinking about resposibilities and where you want to go in life, then your on your way of growing up.if your parents told you that, then you can believe them. you see dear, when your young, you have different need, then when you get older. if your feeling that now, then its a indication that your growing up. ill tell you dear, iam a man of 58 and when you get lonely for the oppisite sex, then thats when you feel you need a partner in life. age has no limit on how a person feels about feelings. i wont go around the bush, i have desires as same as a young guy, but i look at it this way, sex is great, but it should be on the back burner, and trust, and communication is far more important. iam sorry for rambling on like this, but i wanted you to know what it is like to be grown up. i hope i did you some good.
2007-07-10 19:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know because it always changes. You will kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince and there is nothing wrong with that. It is the negatives in relationships that you will find you can live without. The drinking, lack of motivation, these are definitely bad qualities in a man. Figure out what you want out of your life and find someone who complements that.
2007-07-10 19:27:19 · answer #5 · answered by Rockstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it made it easier for you because even though he was your first love, you now know what to find in a guy. You be able to spot out the guy that you know you'll come to love for his personality and not just his looks. Plus that being your first love most guys like girls that haven't dated a lot of guys because it means they have a better chance at getting more. Hahahah.
I hope this helps you.
Mollie
2007-07-10 19:29:36 · answer #6 · answered by iloveyouriotgurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is what im gonna tell you when the time comes you will find the one you love..at different points of ppls lives ppl find out what they want in a guy or the man of their dreams u kno...the only answer to your uestion si every body is differnt..for example maybe a gurl wen she was 7 years old or 10 yeasr old will say i want this in the guy i marry and will make a list and keep the list..u kno..everybody is different soya..
2007-07-10 19:26:54 · answer #7 · answered by Prettyvio7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are more mature then others. I met the perfect guy to marry really young and it's been 3 years since I last saw him.. In my mind, I know who he is, and he is everything I want... -I'm 15- I know it sounds crazy, or maybe sounds like puppy love, but our familys are best friends, and I have went with them on trips and I in love with him still... Even if we are now 1,00s of miles away.
2007-07-10 19:29:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heres a good quote that is relevant to your question:
"Men are like lottery tickets, You have to rub a lot of losers
before you get a winner"
Im 24 yrs old and still havent found the right one ... but ive definatly found what I dont like in men...
2007-07-10 19:26:52 · answer #9 · answered by Cherry Darling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too many complications and hence why there should be match-makers in the society and parents should decide and arrange their childrens' marriage.
2007-07-10 19:28:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋