I just got married 07-07-07 and I wanted to send out my thank you notes this week, is it rude not to send thank you notes to the freeloaders who came to eat, drink and party and didn't even show up with a gift?!
2007-07-10 12:05:29 · 34 answers · asked by TwinMomma 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I know it's tempting to send a note saying "thanks for nothing!" to the freeloaders but don't do it. Remember, technically people have one year from the date of your wedding to send a gift so they still might send you one. Don't send a card until you've received a gift from them, I believe that is proper etiquette.
** Here's a link to Emily Post's Wedding Ettiquette as it relates to Thank You Notes. You do not send them a card! http://weddings.emilypost.com/etiquette/postings/wedding_thankyous.htm **
2007-07-10 12:09:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I think it's appalling that someone would EXPECT a gift for their wedding and call someone who didn't give one a "freeloader." Weddings are about sharing your joy with your guests, not about receiving gifts.
Also, as someone pointed out, they may have sent a gift you haven't received yet or which had a wrong address or something. They may not be able to afford a gift.
I suggest waiting a few weeks, and seeing if a gift shows up, before sending a thank you note. I'm not sure what the ettiquette is on sending a note thanking one for attending--I suggest looking that up. BUT, you don't seem happy they attended, so the note would be a total lie.
2007-07-10 13:44:02 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Before you do anything drastic, be careful. They may have had a gift sent to you but since it's only been a week give it time. If after a month you still didn't receive anything, you can send them a note thanking them for sharing in the occasion. When they get the thank you they may ask you if you got their gift, then you can tell them you didn't. If there was a problem in the delivery it will then give them a chance to sort it out. Mistakes happen, and mixed up deliveries happen, so give them the benefit of the doubt.
2007-07-10 12:17:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
MAJOR FAUX PAS on your part NOT to send a thank you note for attending your special day. This is a no brainer and I cannot believe how many people are greedy and WRONG WRONG WRONG! Whoever wrote Ms. Manners would agree to not send a thank you is NUTS. The point to inviting people to your wedding IS NOT TO GET GIFTS it is to share the celebration of you and your new mate with the people you love and cherish. Even if you want a present, do not come across like a greedy bridezilla and not send the note.
2007-07-10 16:10:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think etiquette requires you to send a physical thank you to each and every person who attended... but the next time you talk to or see them, mention how much you appreciated them coming.
Also, people have a year to give/send wedding gifts.... so the "freeloaders" may not be as inconsiderate as you think. Perhaps the gift will appear in a few weeks/months.
2007-07-10 12:47:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Did you seriously just call them "freeloaders"? A gift is not mandatory to attend a wedding! You're inviting these people to take part in your special day, NOT so you can get gifts.
Send them a note to thank them for attending.
2007-07-11 04:04:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
the gift should be that of them being there to support your marriage. The gift should be that they felt you were so important to put off other plans to come to your special day.
So what if they came to eat and drink and party and CELEBRATE WITH YOU AND YOUR NEW HUSBAND. Now pull your prissy little head out of you wedding vail and be polite to those who came and gave the gift of love and support. Gifts are materials that will be gone tomorrow the love and support will be here long past those.
Congrats on the wedding party. Now go and enjoy the marriage that has started.
2007-07-10 12:29:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well you might want to be careful how you word them. There are some people that came that may not have been able to buy you a gift , because they just didn't have the money, and still they wanted to share your happiness, at your wedding. If that is trully how you feel about the people that attended, why did you invite them ?? For a gift??
2007-07-10 12:13:12 · answer #8 · answered by fuzzykitty 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Well aren't you special. Guests are not obligated to bring a gift to a wedding. You don't need to send a thank you note.
2007-07-10 13:37:56 · answer #9 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No. However, it's rude that you have this attitude. Gifts are NOT required for guests to give at a wedding, but however most do. You were to have hosted family and friends to witness your ceremony, and celebrate with you at the reception.
2007-07-11 03:11:05 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋