I'm the Matron of Honor in my best friend's wedding. I'm on a very tight budget but am responsible for hosting a shower. I also live 3 hours away so renting a place and paying for food gets a little pricey. Is it ok to ask the other bridesmaids to pitch in for the cost?
2007-07-10 11:38:07 · 16 answers · asked by HMJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Not only is it okay, it's TRADITIONAL for them to help host the bridal shower. Shame of them if they haven't already spoken up. If not, you can call them and just plain say that since it's traditional that the bridesmaids get together and give the bride a shower, you just wanted to start everything out by touching base with everyone and see when a good date would be for everyone. That's a very valid question, and a good way to introduce the subject. If they are the kind of friends they should be, they'll get involved and everyone will do her share. If not, feel free to call the bride's mom and ask if she thinks any of the bride's aunts, or cousins, etc. would be interested in helping host the shower. It should be considered an honor, not a chore. There will be people out there who want to help.
And, about renting a place -- this may or may not be a feasible suggestion: If there is a hostess, or someone close who lives in a nice large home in a nice neighborhood, she might like to have the shower at her home. Many people build their homes with entertaining in mind, and it is what they enjoy. It's worth checking into. (Those gals also usually have lots of good ideas, recipes, and serving dishes, etc. too!)
Oh, and if you live 3 hours away -- DELEGATE, DELEGATE, DELEGATE!!
2007-07-10 12:33:27 · answer #1 · answered by sheek Txn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with that - being involved in weddings can be pricey and I'd be surprised if no one else offered actually. I would send out an email to see if anyone would mind chipping in/helping to throw your mutual friend a super shower! I think a lot of times people assume if someone is married (since I saw matron of honor?) that they have plenty of money and spending isn't an issue.
2007-07-10 11:43:05 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's how it's normally done. I've always been involved in planning the showers for the weddings I've been in, wether I was MOH or just a maid. Also, no need to rent a place, doesn't someone have a house big enough? I've never liked showers where you rent a hall and caterer. The ones at home are much better. You can have it at the mother of the bride's house if she's willing and able.
2007-07-10 11:47:10 · answer #3 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may certainly ask the other bridesmaids for help, in which case they are co-hosts of the event. On the other hand, it's also possible to hold a lovely shower very simply on a small budget.
My wedding shower was held in my matron of honor's living room...and a few years earlier I held a similar one for her in my parents' living room. In both cases we used family china, served homemade goodies, and just spent the afternoon in good company having pleasant conversation.
2007-07-10 11:44:52 · answer #4 · answered by gileswench 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as she will not be embarrsssed cause her lovely mom, aunt, and grandma were invited!!! What I would recommend is a bridal shower with friends, other church friends, and family like aunt and grandma if they are close to her. For this, a gift is expected instead of money but you should do as you feel! Personally I would announce that gifts are welcomed, but stress that money is most preferred. On another night, have the bachelorette party with her girlfriends, bridesmaids, and sisters when you can bring on the naughty in a fun environemnt with no embarrassment. And it is all fine to ask for monetary gifts instead of packaged gifts...it is becoming more widely accepted these days. Besides, most brides-to-be WOULD prefer the money...I know I would!!! (What am I gonna do with 38 new lingerie??? -- I prefer to sleep in the nude!!!!) <-- and I am SURE my future husband will too!! :)
2016-05-18 23:08:51 · answer #5 · answered by keisha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can ask. However, the best showers are those held at someone's home, then everyone pitches in with bringing food, and they are a blast!
2007-07-11 03:13:38 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! While it's your job to make sure this gets done, it's not necessarily your responsibility to do it on your own. The bridesmaids, as well as the MOB and MOG are good candidates for contributions.
2007-07-10 11:51:25 · answer #7 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that it would be okay to ask the other girls to help out! The more that help out, the less the cost would be obviously and they would probably feel honored to help out and add their ideas! I know I would! Good luck with the planning! :)
2007-07-10 12:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, absolutely appropriate to ask them to help host with you. If not them, check with one of the extended family members, aunts, cousins, and such may be willing to help. Good luck!
2007-07-11 08:42:18 · answer #9 · answered by LoveWithNoBoundaries 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely OK. You can organize the other ladies together and make a great shower!
2007-07-10 12:02:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋