She shouldn't even have any babies. Her mom stays in & out of jail for prostituting for drugs, & she & I share the same dad, who just died earlier this year. She is very spoiled & terrorizes people when she doesn't get what she wants. She's 17-yrs. old with behavior problems & ADHD. & I'm 28, & she sleeps with every boyfriend I get, & we have to end the relationship.
She has a 10-month old daughter who she doesn't even take good care of, & yesterday we were in WalMart & she left the baby in the bathroom, playing in the toilet water, & when she was confronted about it by the cops, she blamed it on me & lied & said it was my child. & I almost got arrested & she thought this was funny. But the police was so dumb that they did nothing because we kept "pointing the finger". & this girl is on probation, & her officer & the judge keeps giving her too many chances. She keeps abusing this baby. How can I go about getting legal custody of this baby before she winds up dead?
2007-07-10 11:35:40 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Get child protective services involved. They are the best equipped to deal with this sister of yours. Good luck and bless you for trying to help this baby.
2007-07-10 11:54:06 · answer #1 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just my 2 cents....realize that once you call child protective services that the state's machinery goes into motion and you cannot stop it...there will be an investagion....BUT if the child is in danger you need to do something.....just taking care of it is not enough, though your sister may give her to you, she could at anytime come and take her back.......but it does sound as if there is great concern...for the child and for your sister....seems she needs as much help, if not more.....the child must be cared for, that's a no-brainer.....and you don't need the problems associated with being draggged into lies, deceit and more.......if you cannot get your sis to realize she is in need of help, then you may have no choice but to call Social Services or Child Protective Services......don't let your neice be a victim......it may be possible the state/county would give you legal temporary custody.....and an attorney may be needed if you decide to try for permanent...but remember, your sister will always be a part of the "picture" and may hold all this against you.....it's a tough situation......but as most have said here....the child needs to be protected no matter what else happens....and you deserve to have your own life as well...whether as your niece's guardian or not......don't let your sister dictate anything.....
2007-07-10 11:54:27 · answer #2 · answered by 3jK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is 17 and living with you, she is still a minor and you are her guardian. You are going to have to take charge and get her some help whether she likes it or not.
As far as the baby, document everything about her and the baby, then share it with your local Child Protective Services or similar agency. But you are going to have to show that you can be trusted with raising a child as well which gets back to the issue above.
With regard to your boyfriends, if they are jumping in bed with at 17 year old single mother, you are better off without them. Up your standards a bit.
2007-07-10 11:44:05 · answer #3 · answered by Rob B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As funny as this story sounds, I'm not going to say anything rude about it. If you feel the baby is in danger, then you should report all these incidents to SOCIAL SERVICES. Ask your sister if she's willing to let you take care of her child & have legal custody of her? Let Social Services know your interested in mothering this child so they don't take her away & put her in a foster home. GOOD LUCK & i hope things go well with you & the baby. That baby deserves a good mother & someone who will guide her & make sure she has a good future, if you know you can be the mother, then go for it!
2007-07-10 11:49:29 · answer #4 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to get an attorney. And call Children's Services. And stay the hell away from her when you don't have to be around her. Hell, ASK her if you can have the baby; she probably would be happier without the responsibility. And once I got custody, I'd move FAR away and not tell her where I was going.
On the one hand you can't imagine that a kid raised like this would be absolutely normal, but on the other hand......that child is the one who needs help immediately.
2007-07-10 11:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would immediaatley report her to the childrens aid and to the police. fI f she cant take care of herself she , sure wont be able to take care of a child
In a world of injustice , war and hate you could be the only person standing between this baby and a chance at a healthy , loving and caring life
I think you may have asked this question to confirm what you already know , you sister and her child are in need of some serious help
2007-07-10 12:02:15 · answer #6 · answered by miss_brittanychantal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do need to separate yourself from your sister as soon as possible. Start keeping a written record of unacceptable behavior you observe regarding the baby(not when your sister is around, not where she might read it). Look in the telephone book for family services. Try to find some help. I wish you the best of luck in a difficult situation.
2007-07-10 11:44:33 · answer #7 · answered by rationallady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
adopt her baby, tell her that che cant even take care of her own baby and it would be better for the child if you had her. it seems like you really care for the child anyway. or else, tell her if she wont take care of her baby properly, she will report her. get evidence. bring a video camera when you are with her if you have to.
2007-07-10 11:42:08 · answer #8 · answered by Candy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer and explain the situation. If there's anything you can do, they'll know. Your sister is defintely not a fit mother, and it doesn't sound like she even wants to be one. If and when you get custody, I would say stay away from her, and don't even let the guys you date meet her.
2007-07-10 11:40:55 · answer #9 · answered by IndiHippi 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Report her to child services as sooon as possible.Also have you tried telling your sister that you will take care of her baby,She might just give her to you.
2007-07-10 11:40:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋