When i found yahoo answers i was like wow maybe i can get some great parenting advice from other parents. I have found that everytime i ask a question and i am really seeking advice or opinions. I get bombarded with YOU ARE whats wrong and you need to be a better mom. and its YOUR fault . I realize no matter where you chat online you are going to run into so childish people but what bothers me is how old some of these people are that are judging me. Being a young mother the last thing i want to hear is how bad of a mother i am and what a lousy job im doing. Maybe this is what causes young parents to just give up all this criticism instead of just the occasional booster or hint of advice I want to know what gives you ( these horrible people) the right to be so hateful and mean?
2007-07-10 11:00:03 · 22 answers · asked by Ashley 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
that's because they don't want to admit they are lousy parents too. Not everyone is perfect and everyone has different ideas about parenting. You should look for advice and ignore the criticism. That's the way it is in life. Unfortunately when you solicit for advice, you will always find criticism in there.
2007-07-10 11:03:22 · answer #1 · answered by Malina 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I totally agree with you. You are going to run into mean and hateful people everywhere you go, whether it is online or in the grocery store. I was 18 and just out of high school when I had my first child, and to add insult to injury, I wasn't married. There were alot of times where the comments from people would really get to me and I would end up crying somewhere. My advise to you is to ignore those people and be the best parent you can be. Yes, you may be young, and yes, you may have made mistakes, but that doesn't mean you can't be a good parent. Give your child all the time and love you can. You will definately reap the benifits. Good luck!
2007-07-10 13:33:23 · answer #2 · answered by amber_rain1995 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow sorry people were so rude to you. I try to be respectful and just share what I know. Every now and then I get on my little soap box so I guess I'm guilty too. I'm a younger mom also, first baby at 21 and I didn't know a lot either, don't beat yourself up. I am part of an awesome parenting site that have a lot of wonderful and understanding women. I have learned so much from them. I put the link below if you would like to look around.
2007-07-10 11:07:26 · answer #3 · answered by Janielle M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart people are just mean. I am a 28 year old mother and people love to be critical of the things I do. Raising a child isn't easy and we all make mistakes. I am sure you are doing a great job raising your child. A lot of people on here just want to get points (so lame) and so they just write a bunch of BS. Just keep your head held high and you will be fine!
2007-07-10 11:09:58 · answer #4 · answered by lcplyr7 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I recommend you check out the message boards on www.ivillage.com. The people there are much more supportive, and they also have to abide by community rules (in other words, they aren't allowed to post anything directly abusive or insulting).
But besides that, there is almost no more controversial issue than that of motherhood. No matter what you do, there will be people out there who agree with you, and others who think you are practically murdering your child. You just have to learn to sort out the useful advice from the sarcasm and ignorance.
2007-07-10 11:10:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really wouldnt let other peoples negative comments affect you. This forum is great for quick questions, but your right it doesnt give anyone the right to tear you down as a parent, your obviously asking for a reason and want some guidance as a parent... no one is perfect, and we all make mistakes with our kids. Really if someone can't give advise and only gives negative reactions, all they are doing is making a situation worse and your right, it makes young parents want to give up. Why do people always have to tear eachother apart?
2007-07-10 11:08:29 · answer #6 · answered by missrazzy21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree usually it's just the kind of people who have NO life at all and get lots of enjoyment by making people feel bad and its not your fault that you wanted to ask a questions sometimes people are judgemental before they ever know what your question means they read like one line and they've allready written there response
2007-07-10 17:29:04 · answer #7 · answered by Princess_Somebody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you ask a question is a place like this there are going to be some idiots around. Just try to ignore them. I give you a lot of credit for asking. It shows you want to be a good parent.
2007-07-10 11:09:24 · answer #8 · answered by claire 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing gives these people the right to judge you. they do not know you or your precise parenting styles. They're just getting a big chest because they have the internet to hide behind. I would just ignore, because it happens to everybody on every different level. Sorry that they're giving you a rough time about parenting though, especially if you're asking for advice to make yourself a better parent.
2007-07-10 11:04:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anthony P 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Its easy for people to be negative online because they don't have to face a person, and it gives them a false sense of power.
People who insult others over the internet are usually socially undeveloped, immature, and emotionally weak. They fill this void by using the internet for not good, but to fight and berate others....it gives them a false meaning to their already meaningless lives.
I'm sorry you encounter this, they are obviously not parents and have not gone through what you have.
2007-07-10 11:05:40 · answer #10 · answered by Randolph 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋