My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half and we love each other. Two weeks ago she left for Europe and will be there for 5 weeks. I needed to get an email address from her contact list on her email so she gave me her password. While getting the email address I noticed an email from one of her friends asking if she has met any guys. She responded that she has "fallen for two guys" and that she "likes" one of them. These two guys are coming to the town she is in this weekend. I continue to get emails and phone calls from her saying that she loves me and misses me. But is she going to cheat on me while the two guys are in town?
2007-07-10 10:52:49 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, that was stupid of her.
I would meet this head on and ask her what's going on.
Tell her what you told us - that while you were grabbing the email address you accidently saw the email from her friend. Apologize for the snooping and then ask if something is going on that she needs to tell you.
Perhaps opening up the conversation with her will help her to realize that "what happens in Europe" doesn't necessarily mean it will STAY in Europe.... Plus it will be less of an abstract part of her vacation, and will add a reality check she may be needing.
Good luck and best wishes.
2007-07-10 10:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by Pandamay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would assume after 18 months of dating, you know something about your girlfriend; and one of the things you know concerns this very issue of trust.While I understand the reasons for your doubts and suspicions, I want you also to not forget that she trusted you when she gave you her password. I am not sure if you betrayed that trust in getting the information in her emails,however; if you did , then you see the irony. In the interim, she professes her continued love for you.My suggestion is to trust that she will continue to be true to you during her stay in Europe.On her return, and if she admits to wrongdoing, then deal with it at that time. Remember, if you raise the issue now, you might have to explain how you found out what was in her emails.Please, I am not unsympathetic to the well of conflicting emotion within you but feel this is your best option for now.I Wish you the best.
2007-07-10 11:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can we possibly answer that question? I don't know how you found out how she responded to her friends e-mail, but having given you her e-mail pasword she must have known you would see her e-mail from her friend. So either she is careless in not deleting the messages and maybe she has cheated already and her friend is aware of it, hence the question from her, or it is innocent. Why not ask her the same question. Have you met anyone? See how she responds. If she doesn't mention the guys, then you've got to make up your mind what to do about it and quick.
2007-07-10 11:13:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do right now is trust her. Realtionships are built on trust. If she is going to cheat on you, theres absolutely nothing you can do about it. When a girl cheats its not the guys fault. It has to do with her and her issues. Trust her for now. If she does cheat you'll know very quickly by the way she acts twords you.
David Sexton., PHd Human Relationships/Author
2007-07-10 10:59:01 · answer #4 · answered by Captain Obvious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's kinda hard to say without knowing your girlfriend. just because she likes a guy doesnt mean she will necessarily cheat but on the other hand it seems unlikely that you will find out if she does cheat. maybe you should take a little break in your relationship while she is away. then she can do her thing and you can do yours and still potentially get back together when she returns.
2007-07-10 10:57:15 · answer #5 · answered by asg_is_chillin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you're not there, so don't confront her about it yet. When she gets back from Europe, ask her if she met any guys there that were cute (in a joking matter). If she looks guilty then you know she cheated on you. For now, trust her.
2007-07-10 10:57:35 · answer #6 · answered by Nadeen S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should confront her about it. Tell her that you read her e-mails and was just wondering about it.If she asks why you were reading her e-mails,remind her that she gave you her password.You may have abused it, but you did it out of concern.Let her know that this troubled you.She will probably be mad but if she is, then she probably is guilty.She may not physically be cheating on you, but she is emotionally cheating on you for sure.Sometimes that can be just as harsh.
2007-07-10 11:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by B.J.Anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOAH! you better get your a*s on a plane and go to Europe, now!! Catch her in the act. Those emails are not a good sign.
2007-07-10 10:56:30 · answer #8 · answered by dohnnyjepp 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You want us to predict the future of your girlfriends romance? Can't be done. I would confront her on the email you found immediately. It will ease your mind.
2007-07-10 10:58:00 · answer #9 · answered by Granny 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like she does want to meet the guys but maybe u need to tell her you got in her email. If she was gonna cheat she why would she give you her assword..Think about it...
2007-07-10 10:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋