LDS.... any suggestions on how to help keep your husband as active as yourself?

Question

my husbands job prevents him from attending sunday meetings.. and he never seems to have time to go to the temple.

recently...
i've been making the time myself...i still need to be more diligetn with prayer and scripture study.. but any idea how to kick my hubby in gear?

*sigh* YES he does still believe in the church..

kia.. you didn't read that question correctly. i have had gfs in the past, but have now settled down with a man.. that was my pre-mormon days.. i think you misunderstood the question

Answer 1

You just set the example. Ask him why he does not want to go to the temple with you. Maybe he feels unworthy since he never attends church. We all know that there are exceptions to that rule and I think work is one of those exceptions. Counsel with your bishop- he may have some ideas. You should still continue to attend and pray for him while you are there. Also put his name in the temple when you go through. That will help him as well.

Are you reading the scriptures and saying your prayers together as a couple and as a family? Are you holding Family Home Evening? Those things can help as well.



Edit***

Sorry about that Misunderstanding.

Answer 2

i know that feeling..military has NO regard for my religion and I have worked SEVERAL Sundays...but to be honest...every man has to remind himself..that he is not ONLY accountable to himself...but he is accountable to the success of the family and his priesthood will grow everyday weaker....ok..hon I know you are NOT into sports..or maybe you are...

a baseball player who hits a lot of home runs or a basketball player who makes a lot of shots...have a momentum or enrgy that carries them through that game or through that season...

husbands and their church activity plus temple frequency are VERY much the same...if you go into a slump...you need to find out why and dig yourself out...don't be manic...as in..in waves where there are ups and downs...like a rollercoaster...but be consistent...may be he goes 3-4 times a month or maybe even 3-4 in two months..but is he consistent? is that his confort zone...it is UP TO HIM..to improve on that as he is able...but..if he doesn't go at all...then he NEEDS to improve on the NOTHING that he brings to his family as a result on the spiritual level.

keep in mind that you need to keep praying for your hsuband and NOT nag...but support him..ask him how you can help...if he says there is nothing you cqn do..he is looking for space at the moment..not for the long haul...so don't just clam up...

if he served a mission...read about the commitment pattern...HE'LL know what that means...and DO IT...follow up on him...see if he is getting his goals met...ARE there goals?

to not go to Church means he has to double his efforts as well. Scripture reading and family prayer MUST occur...and sometimes you might need to offer your hand and ask him...yes HE SHOULD be proactive...but sometimes...US guys...we have a hard time initiating that one..just like FHE ...or home teaching...we agree with those things and their importance...and if we feel that lessons are being taught..to "teach or criticize the spouse' then it becomes manipulative and without the spirit" ..when that happens the desire to HAVE FHE...goes down..for fear of having contention every time..nobody needs nagging when the Spirit is supposed to be directing the spiritual level of the meeting. go offline (in the bedroom after the meeting) and discuss those things away from the kids.

remember the splinter and the mote...I am NOT saying that you just sit around complaining about what he hasn't accomplished..I know that isn't the case...if it is..fix that..

both he and YOU need to show empathy and compassion for the role that the other serves.

so that HE sees with his spiritual eyes what YOU have to put up with...and vice versa...

Answer 3

As long as you stay active, and then tell him about your experiences (being as positive as you can), he will hopefully decide to go with you.

I read this story once; General Dwight Eisenhower was asked what made a good leader. Gen. Eisenhower took a piece of string and put it on the desk in front of him. He said People are like this piece of string. He took one end and tried to push the string, which just got all bunched up and wouldn't go anywhere.
He said, if you push them, they won't go anywhere and they will get all confused.
He then took the other end, and started to pull the string. And the string went where ever he pulled it. He said, if you pull them along, they will go anywhere you want.

Pull your husband, don't push.

Hope that helps.

Answer 4

My wife and I have been married just over a year. We haven't had any troubles yet about church or temple attendance, so I can't speak from experience. Have you talked to him about it. I have learned early that communication is essential to a marriage. Also, maybe have Family Home Evening and plan a week or a month ahead to go to the temple. That way you both now the plan and can stick to it. I've noticed if we don't plan to go to the temple in advance, it doesn't usually happen.

Answer 5

You can't change him or make him do anything, BUT you can change yourself.

You read and pray everyday, go to the temple, lovingly suggest family prayer, couple prayer and FHE.

This will give you the best environment for him to make good decisions if he chooses too.

Answer 6

Sounds severe. visit the Bishop. that's sturdy to understand what God's anointed servant right here in the international has to declare with regard to the problem. the 1st step is to talk to the Bishop. tell him that's an emergency and you will possibly be able to desire to talk appropriate away. do not problem, the Church will help you financially, if that's what needs to take place, in case you will possibly be able to desire to break up along with your husband. Jesus Christ mentioned a guy or woman might desire to in basic terms break up if the different guy or woman in the marriage has committed adultery, particularly having intercourse outdoors of marriage. If I understand what you're speaking your husband is abusing alcohol and now he's bodily abusing you. Is he additionally committing adultery? you will possibly desire to to call for that he take a lie detector, and is derived sparkling on whether or not he slept with somebody outdoors of Marriage. it is been my adventure that somebody who lives the the alcohol life type, this often mutates into the adultery life type, it quite is likewise continuously accompanied by utilising adultery, by utilising the abuser. there is something that happens to the spirit of the adulterer. They become recommend, and abusive. whilst they arrive sparkling, and repent of their adultery, they become plenty nicer. basically because of the fact your husband has committed sexual sin outdoors the bonds of marriage, does not recommend which you will possibly be able to desire to divorce him. besides the indisputable fact that it does recommend which you have basically reason, and you're harmless formerly God, in case you do come to a determination to dissolve the marriage, and circulate on. if your husband should be excommunicated, for him to get it jointly, than that's what might desire to take place. now and back the basically right concern is to get all the puss out of the wound, after which you would be able to sparkling the air, and then a pair can stay jointly. in case you have on no account prayed formerly, that's a time to choose, and that in actual fact. that's a time once you're quite going to might desire to place self belief in God, with actual humility. So try this. And understand, that when issues are complicated that's Jesus Christ who will carry you, even whilst it sort of feels like the full international is against you. visit the Bishop. in case you opt for to shop what's left of your marriage, that's what you will do. The awareness of one of God's inspired and Holy servants is strictly the drugs which you and your marriage desires appropriate now.

Answer 7

First you need to understand that men, in general, don't have the passion for your religion that Women do. Maybe some of them act like it, but most of them just go along for the ride. Second, why do you think you have to change him? He probably found out the truth about mormonism and has managed to work his schedule so he has a valid excuse to miss those activities that provides no confrontation about the subject matter. It's sometimes easier than having to face it and your criticism head on. What you need to do is find out if that is really what has happened, and then pay attention to what he teaches you about the church that you have never been told by LDS leaders.

Answer 8

He probably stopped believing in the LDS Church, just like many (if not most) sensible LDS people.

Most of my LDS friends stopped believing in the Church long ago, but just keep going in order to keep peace at home.

You should ask him if he's having difficulties with his testimony, then ask him which ones and why. Until you resolve those problems, even if he were financially independent and retired, he still wouldn't make more time for the Temple and Church meetings.

Answer 9

Try fasting for him. But remember that it is still his decision, and it may take a while.

Answer 10

You should go ,Obviously he is gaining intelligence and no longer feels the need to worship " AIR"!!!