there is a guy i met that is in a band and i went to one of his shows and totally fell for him! well, then i didn't see him for 2 months. then i just saw him last weekend and all those feelings came back up! i had already told him over text and online that i was head over heels for him and yea so when i saw him i just flirted my little head off. when i told him he said things like "dont' worry, i ain't complaining" and so i thought he liked me to but he doesn't comment me back on myspace and rarely texts me back. i told him we should go on a date sometime and then when ever i ask him to go he either says he has work or he has another date! am i just over reacting or does he not like me????? gah! PLEASE HELP!! <3~..alex..
2007-07-10 09:48:27 · 34 answers · asked by ..alexandra_kelsey.. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by the way, he is in a local band that really hardly ever has shows and isn't too popular yet, so he isn't like travling the country!!
2007-07-10 10:05:54 · update #1
Well, he's in a band and probably has a lot of girlys liking him. You know bar band groupies. I'm sure he isn't complaining that you are boosting his ego. but you are giving and not receiving. if he were interested he would be the one initiating things also, but he's not, in fact he is sort of blowing you off. I'm not trying to be mean, but only trying to help you. You'd be better off moving on, guys like him, like the chase, and also he sounds like he is in a popular position in his life right now, ie, band , girls. He is looking for a good time and ego boosting. Don't give him the time of day, you don't want to be just another notch on his belt. You are probably attracted to the whole band instrument thing. is it really him personally, because if all he does is absorb your compliments, how much do you really know him other than what your eyes see.
2007-07-10 09:57:13 · answer #1 · answered by Maalru3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys in bands usually have many fans to pick from. Just leave him alone for awhile & if he is interested, he will let you know. Of course he isn't complaining, he likes the attention but too much attention and you might get hurt. Just keep reality on your side and know he may always be on the road and dating lots of other girls. Is that the kind of man you really want? Good luck to you.
2007-07-10 09:53:26 · answer #2 · answered by heavymetal_luv69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, lets say he could very much like the concept of a One Night Stand....
I mean of course he could very much B BZ with what he is BZ with, but there should always B time 4 some ME TIME OR FREE TIME...Shouldn't there??
U also said it yourself...(HE HAS ANOTHER DATE)...So what more do u need for an answer...
Just ignore him....HE IS NOT WORTH the attention u gave him...
U could give half of that attention to another FINE GENTLEMAN, and u will find him AT YOUR DISPOSAL...
Take it EZ, and look ahead...Make him of your past...
You do not necessarily sound like OVER REACTING more than actually SHOWING your Real Feelings...
U R Honest, but sorry, HE DOES NOT SEEM 2B ME RIGHT 4 U MY DEAR...
Take it EZ, u r so gorgeous to us all...
2007-07-10 10:05:10 · answer #3 · answered by FOREVER AUTUMN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALEX___Forget it--you asked once and got a negative answer--why waste any more time?? it is not going to happen--get a clue. A band guy??? You know he doesn't want one girl--band guys like all the attention---you just DO NOT fit in with that guy---find a nice respectful young man who is interested in you and has the time to build a real relationship. Good luck
2007-07-10 09:54:57 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's not at all interested in you. I mean, read the signs. You tell him you like him and flirt and all he can say is "I aint complainin" Plus you text him and comment him on myspace and he rarely replies or doesn't reply at all...he's yet to make time to go on a date with you and it always busy--he doesn't like you. I suggest you keep it moving and stop acting like a total stalker. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
2007-07-10 09:55:08 · answer #5 · answered by monkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your not over reacting because people get like that at times. I think that he might keep avoiding dates with you is because your probably coming off "desperate" to him. I think you might want to cut down on the myspace comments and texts and get to know him before you start suggesting dates. But remember....Guys USUALLY want what they can't have. If he knows he can have you..he'll keep you around till he needs you. Make him desire you. {ha yaaahhh i'm cheesy but i hope i helped you :) ]
2007-07-10 10:02:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying not to have to tell you no. Maybe even keeping you around in case someone he's with now doesn't work out. It's also a distraction from you making yourself happy by finding someone else you can't get enough of.
Forget this guy if he was interested he'd act like it.
Don't tolerate people being careless with your heart.
2007-07-10 09:54:46 · answer #7 · answered by jedi46300 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly it sounds like he's just not that in to you. You should act like your not head over heels for him to make him wonder...and if he tells you he has another date then that means he doesnt care that you know that hes interested in somone else. Totally ignore him and play hard to get! if he wants to come around then he will. Or show up at one of his shows with a hottie. It will make him wonder!!! good luck to you!
2007-07-10 09:53:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, chances are he's got more groupies than you can shake a stick at. Don't get your hopes up here...he's used to women throwing themselves at him.
He may find you attractive, but he finds other women that way too...if he's too busy working or dating others to make time for you, let it go. Why be one of the many women he's dating or sleeping with?
2007-07-10 09:52:42 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he doesn't mind if you are making a fool out of yourself for his benefit. No reason to complain when a girl throws herself at his feet. But why should he treat you with any kind of respect or WANT to spend time with you when you seem to be completely obsessed and falling all over yourself for him? He doesn't have to try to get you, you are begging for him. He obviously doesn't care for you. Just forget it. Besides, you can't totally fall in love with someone who you know nothing about. It's just a crush or some serious lust. Get over it and move on to someone who cares about you -- or at least responds to you.
2007-07-10 09:58:10 · answer #10 · answered by Manda B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋