...Very often she says "yes", then cancels or at the very least seems anxious when I ask her out...She has a hard time trusting people and she tends to be a loner anyway, but I am starting to take it personally...
What should I do?...
Just stay "friends" with her- as I do value her as one?...
Or should I cut loose because its painful to be around her and want more- which she does not seem to give?..
2007-07-10 09:47:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her that you know it's hard for her to trust people, but you won't hurt her. Tell her you really like her, and you want to actually go on a date with her.
2007-07-10 09:51:38 · answer #1 · answered by Sara Bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls are quirky that way. If she hasn't responce well to your proposition then 90% of the time it means that she is not interested. Girls have this "oh I just like you as a friend" category.
Platonic relationships betwen a man and a woman usually do not work well. You can be work peers but friendship is different. Look at it this way. Lets say you get married one day and on a saturday morning you tell your wife "honey I'm going fishing with Mary". This kind of thing never happens. A female is not and will never be your best friend unless she is your girlfriend or wife. It just doesn't work.
My advice is that if she doesn't respond to your affection then look somewhere else. Other wise you will go about trying to obtain the un obtainable. In other worst you are just wasting your time. You can still be friendly to her. Talk to her and what not but know that if you want to go out with a girl you may want to start looking somewhere else. The funny part is that if you succeed somewhere else then she will start paying more attention to you. Like I said, girls are quirky that way.
2007-07-10 09:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by mr_gees100_peas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I'd say to talk to her about it, and tell her how you feel about her. If she's the type of person who can understand your feelings and know where you're coming from, then you can pull this off without ruining the friendship.
However, if you are too nervous about losing her as a "friend", then I'd just back off for a little while and let her regain some ground before approaching her with a date again.
Sometimes, the whole "nervous" act she gets is just nerves, or the flattery getting to her that you're actually asking her out.
But the asking her about what's going on will definitely add a positive note: it would show that you are sensitive enough and you care.
Hope it works out!
2007-07-10 09:52:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just stay friends with her for now, in time she will end up trusting you.
If she has been hurt in the past, it is going to take her a while to open up and trust people, even you, just be there, and give her the love and support that she needs you as a friend.
She wants you as a friend, just be patient with her, the last thing she ever wants is to not have you as a friend, think how alone she will feel if she did not have you as a friend.
Just be patient, and be her friend, and if it is ment to be that you guys are to be more than friends, it will happen!
2007-07-10 09:53:41 · answer #4 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she's just mad about the fact that you even suggested being friends with benefits, but to some extent she is a tease. For someone who doesn't want to play games, she shouldn't be giving you the lead on. You should explain that her actions make you think differently, maybe she thinks she's just being nice but if you tell her that she's giving you the wrong idea perhaps you guys can acutally solve it and move on.
2016-05-18 22:18:45 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come out and ask her how she feels about the situation. You will never know until you do. If she does not want anything more than a friendship, then it is up to you to decide if you can be friends with her and push those feelings aside.
2007-07-10 09:51:01 · answer #6 · answered by ☆Zestee☆ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably knows you want more, so you should back off of her for a min., and see if she see things your way. If she does not then, you will have a good Friend in her I'm sure. I am sure there is a women out there worthy of your charm and love.
2007-07-10 10:01:51 · answer #7 · answered by carmel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look
maybe she's been in a bad relationship before maybe thats why she is feeling anxious or something..if you want to be in a relationship with her ask her out nd telll her she means alot to you but if you just want to be friends tell her you wouldn't want to risk your relationship with her so you think its best if use stay good friends. ;)
2007-07-10 09:55:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever your heart tells you. i guess it depends on how much it would hurt you to just stay friends with her. take it slow and soon enough she will slip a hint to let you know if shes just a flirt or just wants you to be her friend. good luck and hope everything works out for you!
2007-07-10 09:51:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don´t you try being a little bit more specific like telling her that you would like to know her a little better and see if you can be more than friends and if she doesn´t want to ,that would be o.k. also. i hope this helps in some way.
good luck.
2007-07-10 09:56:34 · answer #10 · answered by carmin 8a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋