Anyone ever been bullied in school?

Question

My sister is being bullied in school and doesn't want us to get involved in resolving the problem. We feel its growing out of hand and its on a daily basis so doing nothing is not an option now. were you ever bullied how did you deal with it?

Answer 1

1] talk to the Teacher, today, now! This needs to stop, because it is progressive, and they will also find other victims.
2] schedule a conference with Teacher, Counselor, and Principal. Review all school policies ahead of time.
3] talk to bus driver as well, if applicable.
4] talk to other parents who may have experiences with this problem, or experienced school teachers.
5] are there any witnesses? any injuries? Take pictures, and write down notes.
My younger son got teased so much in elementary scholl [ he was very introverted ] that he decked one of his bulliers in sixth grade, and didn't even get punished! Another, sensible kid, restrained him from jumping on the boy after he knocked him down. [ the school knew these kids were pestering him, and had disciplined him, but the kids didn't notice my boy had gotten bigger and stronger! ] My son has never hit anyone before that or since - and he just graduated high school!
Tell your sister there is life after bullying - I got teased daily from seventh to tenth grade, when I figured out I was smarter than most of them, so who cared what they thought? I also got good at one liners they couldn't figure out until I was gone.
There were no rules against bullying then.

Answer 2

What you need to do is find out the name of the bullie then start posting stuff about the bullie all over the place than if this don't help then you need to get your sister into some self defense classes then when the bullie starts his stuff she will wip the bullies but if this don't work then tell the principal at the school and tell him or her that this has been going on for awhile and also tell your parents so that they know what is going on.Have them go to see the principal as well and have your sister be there.I know she don't want anything done but something has got to change.

Answer 3

Canadian schools have a zero tolerance regarding bullies. The child is suspended for a period of two days if caught no ifs or butts. The second time, the parents will have to arrange home schooling or a alternate school.
Not many years ago here, the strap was applied to each hand of a child that bullied others. Sometimes I think it should be brought back for bullies.
BUT again you have to look at the over all picture here. Most bullies are made, they come from dis-functional families. They act this way to try to get the attention, they never have in their home life. We need more children's clubs and adults to take notice of these children.
Children are now brought up to never talk to anyone. If they cant communicate at home, then they find other ways of expressing their exasperation's in life.

Answer 4

I was bullied a couple of times in school. The smart thing to do is to report it. Schools are liable for the safety of the children, and bullying has been shown to have severe psychological effects, and the physical safety of a bullied child could be at stake as well. Bullies are at their best when they can get away with it. You show the bully that there are consequences to their actions, and most of them will back down. That few that don't can find themselves in jail. So your child should report to a teacher or the principal the bullying every single time it happens. If the child will not, then the parents should do it. Persist until the school resolves the problem. It is their responsibility and obligation to do so.

p.s. Today's bullied child who does nothing to protect themselves is tomorrow's dysfunctional adult. Nip it in the bud!

Answer 5

Some schools have a no bullying code/policy. Students have to attend conflict resolution classes if they bully or get bullied so most kids don't report it.
I was bullied by 2 goons because I played the violin (ultimate nerd-girl)
As a parent, I had to step in last year because my son was being bullied. The principal was very supportive. The teacher didn't even know that it was happening.

On a happy note, I had a teacher help me with my situation. She gave me some coping mechanisms to deal with the goons. It was hard, but it worked.
I live happily ever after with my violin and one of the 2 goons now sits in Prison and the other envies me. He tells me everytime I play how he wishes he could play like me.

Answer 6

I was bullied; that was about 28 years ago though. I attended a private school and several girls in my class started teasing me about the clothes I wore. My parents didn't have a lot of money so they bought my clothes at a second hand store or I wore hand-me-downs. It affected my grades. My mother knew something was up and I was forced to tell her. She went to the principal and it was dealt with immediately. Those girls never said anything mean to me again. They were very apolegetic and asked me to join their "club". I Knew better. Several years ago, I heard one of them was in jail for drugs, the other was unmarried with three kids, and the other was still at home living with her mother.
Who's laughing now?
If this is happening to your sister, tell your parents. The school district where I teach has a zero tolerance policy against bullying.

Answer 7

This may sound silly, but when I was little I thought my mom intervening in the bully issue would be embarassing, and I asked her not to do it. Now I wish I had kept my yap shut and let her intervene. I think you probably *should* intervene. Your sister probably has low self-esteem issues only being made worse by the bullies, and she may feel she isn't "worth the trouble." Trust me: ENROLL HER IN MARTIAL ARTS. Of any kind--whatever she connects with. There is nothing like growing confident and trusting your own boundaries to wake you up in terms of dealing with these issues. But for now, while she still can't take that step for herself, she needs asssitance! If she doesn't get it, self-esteem issues will continue to plague her for the rest of her life until she can come to terms with them.

Answer 8

aye I was bullied in school mate. The bully was named Gareth If I remember correctly he used to verbally harass me on a daily basis so much that at one point I lost the will to live.
But on a cold December morn I found out a surefire way to eliminate any bulling threat Gypsies
you see gypsies are very poor so you can hire them to do pretty much anything and another good thing about the Gypsiess extreme poorness is that you don't even have to pay them money they happily take bottle caps or food scraps as payment. So tell your sister to hire your local gypsie gang to steal the bully's bike or spray paint something offensive on his wall and her problems will be over

Answer 9

I didn't have many friend in school. I was super quiet, and I got picked on alot for it. I never wanted my parents to step in because I thought it would make it worse. The the kids would have made fun of me for being a Mommy's Girl or something. I just kept to myself, and the few friends I had. I never felt the need to be popular. I was happy the way I was. I wasn't rude to anyone, but I didn't wear myself out trying to get other people to like me.

Answer 10

I tried to deal with it myself. One day it got too much and I changed schools. 15 years later it still effects my life. Get involved. Your child does not need to know. Go to the principal and talk with him. Let him know your child does not know you are there and you want it kept that way