am i doomed because of my outward appearance?

Question

let's face it: I'm ugly; i have pesky facial hair; i'm chubby; and my breasts are large and sag (i'm only 18).
The only thing in this world that's going for me is that I'm smart, mature, and goal-oriented. That's great for my academic and career ambitions, but in terms of a love-life, I am stuck with men even WORSE than me. Who, in their right mind, would go for me? These problems get worst since my family and friends think I'm someone worth it and would be devasted to find out that only equally ugly trolls would reluctantly go for this pre-maturely sagging hag.
Everyone around me is happy and in relationships, and I feel as if this is not a posibility for me, ever. This is a case where great personalities could never overcome a horrid outside appearance.

also, are breasts everything to men??

Answer 1

Hi there! When I read this, I thought I am reading a question that I, myself wrote, but it's not. I, too, am 18 and never had a boyfriend. Lately though, the fact hasn't bothered me too much. I have been realizing that I must learn to love myself for who I am, sagging breasts and all, before any guy will love me. I also am realizing that people in high school are really shallow, and that is why I am really excited about moving away and going to college. There you get to meet new and more accepting people. Basically, you get to make a brand new first impression of yourself and this fact gives me hope. College students want to meet new people, they want to meet you and me. So no, I do not believe that either of us are doomed, we are only doomed if we let ourselves be doomed. We either can go out there with our chins held high telling the world this is who we are, or we can go down lonely and unhappy. I know what I would rather chose. I hope this gives you inspiration, for there is someone out there for all of the world's "ugly trolls" but you will not find them by protecting yourself at home. You must take risks, you must face getting rejected, but you also must bounce back because you are worth it. Because you know that you deserve to be happy too.

Answer 2

Ok, so you think you're ugly. Well, let me be the first to tell you, all of the things that you consider ugly are things that can be "corrected". I put that word in parentheses because you are fine the way you are. If you feel that you have to change to get a man, you are doing it for the wrong reasons. You said some great things about yourself so there is some confidence there. Girlfriend, don't allow yourself to be your worst enemy and end up fighting a losing battle. If people around you are in your corner, then you should be too. You need to change the way you think about yourself or no one else ever will. Go to a dermatologist for the hair, at your age you can lose weight quickly if you committ to an exercise plan, and get a good bra! Be happy with yourself and you will never go wrong. Keep your head up girl because chances are your inner beauty can capture any man in this world!

Answer 3

Trust me, outward appearance isn't everything. I've been told that I'm beautiful, yet I've never had a boyfriend or been on a date. And I'm 19. I've seen less than average girls get with guys. Just be confident with yourself. And remember everyone has their "ugly, insecure" days. When I feel like I'm ugly, worthless, and hopeless (and I'm going to be by myself forever) I just take a good look in the mirror and say to myself, "I've got potential." And so do you. As Paris Hilton (I can't stand her but at least she got this right) has said walk like you're wearing a tiara...or something to that effect. Some of the most amazing and attractive people I've met were uh...ugly, but their personalities were so amazing I didn't even have time to notice what they looked like.

Answer 4

The biggest thing you can do to attract someone is have self confidence- sometimes you need to do things to help boost your self confidence. There are things you can do about your facial hair- like wax or creams or plucking. That is something I have to battle all the time. You can wear a better supporting bra. I can't really talk about the weight- but I've noticed I feel so much better when I'm exercising and eating right. Just remember- you've got to love yourself and others will love you too.

Answer 5

No , you are not doomed, but something stood out in your profile . You said that you were chubby, had facial hair and droopy breasts at 18. All symptoms of a hormonal inmbalance that can be helped with medication. Go see your family doctor and get a referal to an endocrinologist. It may be the key to making a lot of things better.

Answer 6

Being a man... i can say that no breasts arn't everything. As for the rest of your question...
I honestly believe there is someone out there who you will fall madly in love with for who they are and not what others see them and vice versa. So often do people worry about what others think and forget about the things that truly matter in life. To me you sound like a very beautiful person inside and i know for a fact that there is someone out there for you. Never give up on yourself. It is by far the quickest route to defeat.

Answer 7

There is no such thing as plain laziness - Its always a symptom of something not quite ok with the person - Teenaged boys are often labelled this way but would any of us take their place with those hormones trying to sort themselves out? however they do need good boundaries. Depression can remain dormant in those that already have had an episode.

Answer 8

You can have the facial hair bleached. But honestly, there are plenty of men out there who aren't concerned with looks as much as a good personality. I am overweight also but I can assure you if you take care of yourself and present yourself in a classy fashion you will find a man trust me no man wants a slob wether she is skinny and pretty or not.

Answer 9

No you are not domed. Do not ever think that you are doomed. You sound like a real smart gal. You should be yourself, good personality, dress smart and not to worry so much about meeting Mr. Right. Another thing don't compare yourself to others. They might not be as happy in their relationships as you think. Hope this helps.

Answer 10

girl get some self esteem. If you do not feel good about yourself then do something about it. you say you have facial hairs, remove them sports bar works wonders if you tend to sag or a supportive bra they make them to pussh up also start exercising. If you don't think good of yourself how do you expect someone else to either. Start now to improve yourself make yourself feel good treat yourself out to eat. Buy yourself a sexy little dress and with a good attitude about yourself you can find the kind of man you want.