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my daughter live with my mom, she has been around them more than she has been around me. she live there cause i have lost several jobs, and they can afford to take care of her. but the thin is, is that she wont listen to me. she only listens to them, and they wont let me dicipline her the way i want to. then my mom told me that i dont give a crap about her. what do i do.

2007-07-10 08:38:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting Toddler & Preschooler

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The longer the child is with a person. The more attached they grow to that person. I understand you don't have luck with jobs. But if you continue to let your child live with grand parents. She will most likely not care for you or respect you. That's the price payed. When you choose the easy way out. Also as you see they are already commenting like you have no right. In a sort of way they feel and think her theirs. Go on public assistance and take your daughter to live with you. Now if the current situation is a long term thing as in many months. Might as well sign your rights over to them.

2007-07-10 08:53:34 · answer #1 · answered by Sunset 7 · 0 0

Wow. Listen, you need to respect yourself first. Why do you keep losing jobs? That's probably why your parents don't respect you. You have a responsibility now. That means you keep your job through all the BS. You have a daughter and mouth to feed. You go to work on time everyday sick or not. You do the best dang job you can. You bring home that paycheck and ensure that your daughter is well taken care of.

Then you get your daughter and you raise her. Even if things are hard, why aren't you living with your mom and your daughter? There is no way a 2-year-old should be around anyone more than her mother and father. Things might be hard, but now is when your child gets connected and attached to her family. If you aren't in the picture now, you can forget about it later. You need to make the sacrifices necessary to be with your daughter.

2007-07-10 08:48:49 · answer #2 · answered by Blade_III 4 · 2 0

You will never gain her respect while you are living with your parents and your parents aren't respecting your role as a parent.

It is true that they are around her more than you, but that isn't the reason that she doesn't respect you it is because your parents don't respect you and she is learning from them.

You need to sit down with them when she is not around and explain that they are making it difficult for you by not respecting you. If they can't or wont show you any respect then your only option left is to leave. Live in your car, do what you have to but if you stay in a place where you are treated like a second rate human your kid will treat you that way too.

Change now or resign yourself to being a disrespected mother the rest of your life, and when your daughter gets to be a teenager that is the last thing you need to have to worry about.

2007-07-10 09:07:15 · answer #3 · answered by IG64 5 · 0 0

The best way for a young child to learn respect is to get it from others and see others treat each other with respect. If she has been with her grandparents and has learned to love and respect them, she will not respect you if she hears you talk to them in anything but a loving tone. I don't know how you have been trying to discipline her or what you are trying to discipline her for, but praising a child when they do things right will cause them to repeat that behavior. Ignoring bad behavior or just casually mentioning something like "hitting makes me sad" often will cause them to not do it again. Love and praise are the best ways to train a young child. Yelling and spanking usually just make things worse.

2007-07-10 08:47:48 · answer #4 · answered by Bud B 7 · 0 0

Get a job, your own place and remove your daughter from your mother's home A.S.A.P.
If you can't afford this - then you need to sit down with your mother and have a good long conversation about your daughter. Your mother needs to teach your daughter to respect both of you - NOT just her!

2007-07-10 09:20:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

i am 27 years old i hate my job. I go there every day with a good atidude. And work my but off. Why do i do this becuse i am a single dad. You need to hold down a job. for your kid. She dos not lisien to you becuse you don't take care of her. The child know how it is that feeds them and clouthes them.. They know how plays with them and how is there to kiss there ouchies. . My kid lives with me ido all of the work. Yes my mom is there to baby sit. when i work. But i am always there for my kid wen she helthy and sick. and when she is bad. Thats why my kid recpects me becuse i am always there. I can't anser your qweshtion. I can only tell you what makes me a baetter parent..

2007-07-10 08:58:08 · answer #6 · answered by peterson_c_r 3 · 0 0

Maybe you should live with them, too. Make yourself a part of your daughter's DAILY life.

Don't take her actions personally. She's 2. My 2 1/2 year old son has always preferred me to my husband...and we all live together in the same house.

2007-07-10 08:57:00 · answer #7 · answered by Lissa 3 · 0 0

Shes 2. thats your answer.
she doesnt see you much to listen to you. therefore her standard accountability is to her mother.
Also. at 2... theres no away around anything, just play with her,be her daddy. Make her laugh. You cant punish a 2 year old for disrespect. They dont know any better.

2007-07-10 08:49:41 · answer #8 · answered by ~Jamie K 3 · 1 0

The fact she's with your mom makes her see her grandma as the authoritative figure. She has to work together with u to let her know that u are in charge. Your mom should give u the opportunity to correct/discipline her when u're around.

2007-07-10 08:52:25 · answer #9 · answered by jaleeljoseph 2 · 0 0

I don't know what a good technique would be BUT if I eever disrespected my mother or father or any elders for that matter...I would get a smack or a spank and look I RESPECT PEOPLE...=)

2007-07-10 08:46:42 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ mocha-baby 4 · 0 0

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