i have been dating this guy for over a month now and we still haven't had sex i try everything on him all the time but he just brushes me away is it me or is there something wrong with him im lost
2007-07-10 08:13:05 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because unlike you, he has morals and dignity for himself.
2007-07-10 08:57:13 · answer #1 · answered by tres_leches_33 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's a nice decent guy who respects you and wants to get to know you first (a month isn't that long). I was pretty much in the same situation as you a few weeks ago; whenever i invited him back to mine made excuses etc but he made the move finally (after 4 1/2 months together - and no he wasn't a virgin) and i asked him why he waited so long and he just didn't want to scare me away and wanted to show that he wanted a relationship not sex! I'm sure your boyfriend is doing the same so just hold off until he makes the first move next time, it'll be worth the wait and anticipation.
2007-07-10 15:53:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not you...yet. But if you keep pushing him when it's clear he doesn't want it, then it *will* be you that's the problem.
This is one of those things you really have to be up-front about. "Hi, I'm Pamla and I really like having sex with guys, so yeah, I'm going to be crawling into your lap at every opportunity now that we're dating." And then give him a chance to tell you his thoughts on the matter. And if you decide that his reasons for not having sex with you aren't good enough, then you should probably end it, 'cause if you haven't ground him down in a month, you probably won't at all.
2007-07-10 15:25:40 · answer #3 · answered by Katie S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not having sex with someone after being with them a month is not a problem. You should be thankful that he is not pushing you for sex right now. Meantime you two can get to know each other a little better. Maybe that is what his intentions are, to get to know YOU! and you might not be sending the desired message by coming on to him so strong.
2007-07-10 15:19:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe cuz only one month into a relationship is way too soon for sex? Why don't you try just waiting. Maybe your guy has morals and wants to wait for sex. So, instead of getting upset about it, you should respect it.
2007-07-10 15:21:08 · answer #5 · answered by StarlightRedemption 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Relationships should be about more than sex, unless that's what you both agreed on before hand. Hes your bf not a man hoe. If you want sex tell him so and stop beating around the bush about it. If he doesn't want it and you still do, go get a new bf to do the nasty with.
2007-07-10 15:26:31 · answer #6 · answered by Becca24 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just wants to get to know you better before taking your relationship to that level!? A month is not that long to wait to have sex with someone. You should be glad you have a guy with morals, unlike you!
2007-07-10 15:19:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Most likely, he is a very smart person and wants to wait for the most perfect woman and marry her and then make love. If you were smart and wanted love in your life, not just sex, then you would wait too.
2007-07-10 15:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by Linzi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he's bruching u away or blowing off the subject then he's just not that into u!....please do not try to force sex on him again because in his mind it is making u look like a slut and a big turn off. im not calling u a slut either, i said in his mind. unless he says he's a virgin and saven it for maarriage......he's not that into u.
2007-07-10 16:17:44 · answer #9 · answered by Ma Baby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You too need to talk about it. There may be a reason he could be waiting for more. Commitment is still important to some people.
2007-07-10 15:18:28 · answer #10 · answered by Steven M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's only been a little over a month. He's likely not ready for it yet and your pressuring him doesn't help matters.
Go take a cold shower and masturbate.
2007-07-10 15:19:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋