What should I do...???

Question

My father is emotionally, verbally, and just recently, physically abuvie to me. He also is emotionally and verbally abusive to my little sister and my mom. He called the police and 2 officers came and a sergant and they didn't do anything to him.
I called my teacher and I told her some of the stuff that went on but she was still confused about the whole situation because I left out some stuff because I was scared to tell her everything. I REALLY want to talk to her and tell her what is goign on but I'm scared on the outcome.
I also have another teacher that I called but I don't want to tell her about it because she'll have to file a report. I trust her a lot too. Earlier in the year, about December, I told this teacher some of the stuff that goes on and she filed a report. When the Social Worker came, we were scared and we denied it; so needless to say, nothing happened. She knows though, as do all my other teachers, what he's done and what he still does.
What should I do?

I reallly want to tell them what's going on but I'm scared that I'm going to be taken out of the house along w/ my younger sister. He makes most of the money, my mom works but doesn't make as much as he does. I don't want to go to foster care yet I don't want a custody battle to occur because I DO NOT want him to have custody of either my sister or myself. I also don't want to leave my mom, becuase she's done SO much to help me and she's a VERY strong women.
Help me please, best answer gets 10 points!

Thanks everyone for the great advice but now my 'father' thinks that I'm the one that has the problem and he doesn't understand why I'm mad at him. He called my doctor and schedualed an appoitment for me to meet with her! He thinks that I'm crazy and that I need proffessional help. I'm so sick and tired of him. He threatens to callt he cops on my mom and I if we don't do EXACTLY what he says when he says it.
It makes me sick to see the way he treats my mom, he treats her like a little kid. When he says "Jump!" we have to say "How high?" It's ridicoulous, he's super controling too! Please help me.

Answer 1

All you can do is pull your mom to the side and talk with her. If the state already has reports on your dad. They will not give your dad custody...Your mom might not make as much money and things might be tight but, your dad will have to pay child support for you and your sister which will help. There is no reason for you to live in fear or your mom and sister.
Maybe you need to let your mom know that you all will be alright without your dad maybe she is afraid to leave him cause of you kids.......Talking to your teacher is a good thing but, yes they will have to report it and if you keep saying no then the teacher might quit trying to help when you really need them. Good luck to you be praying for ya.

Answer 2

You need to tell the whole story to your teacher and have her file a report, so when the police or social worker comes to you, you tell them the truth, tell them that is true. Your dad can't have custody over you, by law, your mom is the first one to have custody over both of you unless you decided you wanted to be with your dad, but if it's proven that he is abusive then you can stay with your mom. I don't know if you guys will have to stay at a foster home for a while before this all gets straighten out, but you need to make a decision because staying there is not healthy for your mom, you or your sister...why don't you talk to your mom about this? why don't you ask her what she thinks of doing? Is she going to take action? Ask her what's going on in her mind...
The best thing to do would be to talk with your teacher and then tell the truth, things will get better eventually, you will see. Don't be scared.

Answer 3

The road to getting attention in a situation that requires it many times is long. Don't get discouraged and don't continue to be a victim. You have told teachers, just as you have posted it here, start writing letters, to police departments, churches, child care services, abuse centers, any and every elected official in your area, you continue to reach out and someone will take notice. Do not idle, for the safety of you and the ones you love, press on and I will keep you and yours in prayer. My father also was abusive, so I know what you are going through. It was a tough time in my life, but know that this will not last always and joy does come in the morning. God Bless.

Answer 4

whoa girl!! if your fathter gets pick up by the cops theya re going to take you and your sis away from your mom. she hasnt done anything wrong. they might most likely take your dad. investigate the situation. they will social services and they wil come out and talk toyou and see waht is going on. no with you holding back is not good for you your actually helping him. yea i know somotimes its good to keepsecrets but in a long run when someone does find out something or have a theory about your secret do you think they will believe you 100% no they wont.just because you tell them your were scared they will always have a doubt. so you need to do something before something worse happens. like you said it was just emotionally and verbally and recently abusive. one after the other what do think will come next. well i would tell talk to your mom and figure something out. and tell someone please you have a good head on your shoulders i can tell that just by hearing you asking for help. good luck !!

Answer 5

Baby girl if you don't think your mom will do the right thing for you and your sisters, then you need to take action and ask that teacher that wants to help to help you and this time go all the way. If your mom wont help you try and get the help of your sisters for support. Do something though if your mother is unfit to take care of you in the long run maybe it would be best for you guys to be in foster care. I wouldnt recommend it but you guys need some shelter. If she is in stable condition then you guys will be for sure placed in her custody. And he will have to pay childsupport. Good luck though on whatever you and your family decide to do.

Answer 6

Dont give up!!! Don't be afraid, if he had done it in the past, he will not stop! Be afraid of what can happen to your family if you do not speak up! Dont leave anything out!!! Tell the truth. He wont win custody over you or your sister, if he is the way that he is. Your mom can win you 2, and the govt. will force your dad to give your mom some money for you 2. Dont ever think you're alone.

Answer 7

You are very brave and courageous. Reconsider talk to the social worker about getting help for your family. The first step is the hardest, but clearly change needs to happen. The social worker's job is to help maintain the family. That will be 1st, before taking the kids away from the parents. Good luck

Answer 8

Hun, I put up with twelves years of controlling abuse and one day I woke up and decided life was to short and the abuse he was putting me and my children through would be more detrimental to us all then us just leaving him. We left him, with only a suit case and box of clothes and went to another family member. I eventually found work and slowly began to take care of us. Your mom just needs to do the same. She needs to leave the state. When you guys arrive at your new state and if there is no family, there are programs out there to help U. Do not stay there, it will slowly kill your spirit. You must convince you mom to leave, if she can not do it for herself she has to do it for you and sister. As long as you all show fear he is in control. We also got in to counseling and we all were diagnosed with Post Traumatic Syndrome. That is what soldiers R diagnosed with when they come back from the war.

Answer 9

dont be too much concerned in giving us 10 points for best answer or is this just a power-game for you??? you dont wanna act like dad wont you.Seriously is it all true?If your dad hits you or is sexually harrassing you and your sister then incest is a very serious offence and he should be arrested now and forever, you have to file a report ...with school or just at policestation.Why did he call the police,to give himself in,sounds a bit funny to me though...what is so scared about outcome,you do want your dad to move out right,didnt you know in case of divorce or semi-divorce your mum can sue him for atleast childsupport...so your mum can take care of you girls and maybe work less and you can start leading your life without stress,worries and insults.Your dad just thinks he is in control but you,your sister and your mum have TRUE POWER here,use it well.

Answer 10

You poor bugger!!!!
If you can prove all of this to your teacher, they have to report it, but that is a good thing.
Your father is using emotional blackmail against you and your mum because he knows your are both scared of him.

Try and video him or record him abusing you and your mum on a mobile for example.
You need to put a stop to this before omebody gets hurt.