i been chatting with this girl for about 3 months now online... i havent met her but i've been seeing her online really often. And we talk about almost everything! ... i think im in love. I dunno.. is it even possible to fall inlove online ? Any one with an opinion or experience pleasee......
2007-07-10 07:43:25 · 23 answers · asked by Undo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been in your shoes years ago with a student at Notre Dame. I lived 2 hours away in Michigan. The beauty of internet is if they are being their true selves, you fall in love with a person for who they are, and not what they look like. So if they are beautiful, it is just that much more to appreciate and love.
I had the guts to ask this lady on a date, and timed it so we would celebrate my birthday together. I fell for her hard. We had a wonderful relationship for 11 months, but i messed it up because i wanted my ex back more. I still kick myself for this.
The downside however is if she isnt being herself, but being what you or other people want. You are in love with someone she is portraying. Overall, if a relationship happens it is more by personality than looks, which is a critical basis for love.
I tend to follow the 2 hour rule. If mapquest says that it takes 2 or less hours, I will give it a shot. No further than a 2 and a half hour drive though.
I hope this helps. Its a matter of if they are being themselves, and how far away they really are.
2007-07-10 07:56:19 · answer #1 · answered by dyke-a-licious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The beautiful thing with meeting someone online is that (if you haven't seen their pictures) you know that you're falling in love and not in lust. If physical appearances are not the key factor in here, then that's just a positive sign. Too many people think of that hot chick they're sleeping with. What happens when they're married and fifty years later when they're wrinkly and old? Not exactly "hot chick" material.
The reason people think online love is so taboo is that you can't be sure of who you are talking to. They can say they're a man but could really be a woman, or be a teenage girl and really be a 50 year old guy.
The second reason online things are considered bad is because people can say anything they want. They can say they're the captain of their varsity football team, when they're actually some overweight kid with a face full of acne.
If this girl is who she says she is, and so are you, then there's really nothing wrong with it. Just keep an open mind and remember that, at first, because of your distance, you can't be touchy feely. That is, of course, assuming that you aren't both groping your computer monitors simultaneously.
2007-07-10 07:51:27 · answer #2 · answered by Cleo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is very possible to fall in love online. When someone seems friendly and nice and you talk a lot, it is actually quite easy to fall in love online. My friend fell in love with this guy from England, online, and they were "going out'' and she was actually quite content, though she had never met him in person or anything. It was so cute to hear about all the things they said to eachother, and they really seemed to care for eachother! So, yes indeed it's possible to fall in love online.
2007-07-10 07:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by DaNi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY!! I have been going out with a guy online for about 3 yrs. We are waiting to meet when I turn 18 this next summer. I love him more than anything. Its hard to be in love with someone online because after a while it gets to you. You realise just how far away you are and wonder how much truth is actually there. It hurts until you put your life online into reality. I would do anything for this man of mine. I would walk all the way there if I had to. He means everything to me. Our feelings for eachother are untouchable by the people who disagree with our relationship, unchangable by our arguments and disagreements, and unforgettable throughout the day and times you arent talking. Loving someone on the internet can be the hardest, but easiest thing you ever do. Its the hardest when you realise distance and trusting their truth. Its easy when it comes to picturing them in the way you want to. The wonderful thing about online dating is, if theyre being theirself, then you see whats truely on the inside without them being shy or looks. Its all about personality. Love is about personality and accepting someone by that and their faults. Youve got to love it all. You have got to be careful, but I wish you all the luck in the world to find what I have.
2007-07-10 07:57:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fell in love with 2 girls. The first girl i was with for 8 months, she hardly talked with me but kept saying she loves me. Later i found out ...by love she means a guy is cute sigh!!!!! But the 2nd girl, now i am with her 1 year and we promised to get married, Yes we met online and still are online and deeply in love, we do not miss a day unless someone get s very busy. Her mom made us promise that we wont get married in next 3 years so we both are being patient. I love her so much..she means the world to me and she is blindly crazy about me. Yes sometimes love is found in places which are hard to believe. Go for it man...see how far you can go with your girl. Keep the honor to her.
2007-07-10 07:57:07 · answer #5 · answered by s2a_s3z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did! We're engaged, been together two years and it was the best thing I ever did! lol We too fell in love totally unexpected... BUT we didnt listen to what others were saying "Oh you only know him through a computer... he could be an ax murderer" (that shi* cracks me up... too many people have seen that movie!!!) We followed our hearts, took the risk and talk everyday about how glad we are that we did. I couldnt picture my life without him... that is my BABY... my teddy bear.
Sometimes a little risk can take you a LONG way.
2007-07-10 07:49:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's possible. But, you will not know for sure if it is real until you actually meet the person. There is no delete key in real life. What I mean is this -- we can carefully judge what we are saying. If we don't want to say something, we can delete it before we press send. In real life, we have no delete button. We say what we mean and we may say something the other person didn't know was true about us. You won't really know everything until you see how you act in real life with one another. But, yes, it's possible. I met my boyfriend on eharmony.com. It's wonderful. I couldn't ask for a better person. He's my soulmate.
2007-07-10 08:01:59 · answer #7 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible. By experience, alot of people aren't what they act up to be online. Don't forget to talk on the phone to hear each others voice, view each other in pictures too (make sure they aren't fake pics) and if possible, via webcam and talk via e-mail too.
When you actually meet the person in person, first impressions count alot and there just has to be that "chemistry" feeling. Take "in love" from there.
G'luck.
2007-07-10 08:01:10 · answer #8 · answered by ♥~♥devilwithbleudress♥~♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you can,...it happened to me and now we are engaged to be married! The great thing about the online thing is that you get to know the person from the inside w/o any awkward first dates and stuff like that....but you will know for sure when u both start spending some time together.
2007-07-10 07:48:04 · answer #9 · answered by Nicole H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom and my step father met online and they have been married now for 5 years....but they met and had a connection offline also...so you will need to see if there is the same spark in person as you have online.
2007-07-10 07:47:12 · answer #10 · answered by Andrea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋