My siblings despise me - each for different reasons. We all live in the same town. I'm very close to my parents and see them regularly. My siblings see them on occasion. My folks are about to celebrate a major anniversary and are very sad that the family has been disrupted, as we were close in the past. I want to make my folks happy and they would love to have us all back together. But my siblings have made it clear they don't want to see me. Should I try again and ask if they could put aside their hatred for one evening for dinner to celebrate - or would it be too awkward if they agreed? If I dont reach out will I regret it? Most important, what is the right thing to do for my parents? This is particularly hard on my mom.
2007-07-10 07:35:28 · 4 answers · asked by kndrlamb 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'd contact your siblings and say something along the lines of: I know we've had our differences but do you think we can put that aside for one day for mom and dad? I know it'll mean a ton to them if we are all there."
Yes, the event will probably be awkward but put on a happy face, suck it up for a few hours, and then go on with your lives after that. Who knows, maybe it might act as a family ice breaker....
2007-07-10 07:44:44 · answer #1 · answered by JC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can know if you need to apologize and mend the fences. If you are not responsible for the drama, then you probably can't fix them. I know your mom would like to see one big happy family but it isn't the truth. She raised kids who would rather cut people out of their life than act like grown ups. Its too late to fix that now.
I would hold a dinner, invite family and friends. Invite your siblings as guest, and leave it up to them. How silly to miss something that will never happen again, but that's on them.
Another option is to host the dinner but don't attend. If you really want to do this for your folks and you really want your siblings to celebrate it with them and you are the person holding them back, then make it known that you will not be there (privately to the siblings) but you would like them to come and honor their parents.
Good luck.
2007-07-10 14:45:40 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should put aside differences for your mom. if they haven't reached out then you should. even if they said no, at least you tried. Be the bigger person. Don't know what you did, but you can't expect someone to just turn it off and all of a sudden like you. Just tell them they don't need to talk to you but your mom would lke them to be there.
2007-07-10 14:42:52 · answer #3 · answered by brk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you feel is the right thing to do. at the end of the day you know that you have done your part. rest is up to them !
2007-07-10 14:40:39 · answer #4 · answered by aunt_webby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋