Because of my mom (please visit Is this Grounds for a divorce and you'll get an idea of way this is so)
2007-07-10 07:15:28 · 13 answers · asked by forever and ever babe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
To understand this problem, I will give an example which i have experienced. My brother is alcoholic. In his 30's, I have noticed that his hands shivers which shows that he is not in the healthy state of mind. These kind of people are bound to be violent. Nothing can be done about them unless they themselves decide to change themselves through pranayam, exercise, meditation.
My brother would fight with anyone whatever be the issue. He just needed a trigger to bring his madness to the fore.
I and my brother live seperately. It so happened that my father decided to buy a television. The process of buying took many days. Looking at this delay, my brother was frustrated (Please note he is not living with us) and began to throw abuses at my father for delaying. My father was pretty upset but I WAS LAUGHING ALL THE WAY. Because I was expecting this kind of reaction from my brother. I know that he is not in the healthy state of mind. So then why worry?
Ask your father to act in a manner that will please your mom. Inside your father knows that he was acting. The madness in your mom is just a phase. It will come and go.
2007-07-10 07:53:55 · answer #1 · answered by HITS_ON_TARGET 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. He needs professional intervention. Have you a pastor who's competent to talk to him about his issues, or a knowledgeable and understanding uncle or grandpa? They need to know how down he is. One of those can possibly steer him towards some professional counseling - I'm afraid he would be very reluctant to accept help in this regard from his child - yeah, I know, we men/fathers can be so bloody unreasonable - but that's the way we are.
One thing you can do to help is to distract him by asking for his help - say with homework (even if you know more about the topic than he does, asking for his input can let him know there are others to whom he matters and can at least partially blunt his feelings of self-pity and self-destruction. But by all means, don't try to take on his burden by yourself - it's an impossible task for one your age and that's unfair to both of you.
2007-07-10 08:02:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs help bad.usually if a person talks about taking their life they are crying out for help.I don't understand why he would talk about it in front of you.Tell him how much that hurts you.Also killing your self is the cowards way out.Tell him to stand up and face what ever it is that drive these thoughts to his mind.I sure hope he gets help before it's to late.Children need both a Father & Mother. God Bless you
2007-07-10 07:27:48 · answer #3 · answered by I'm Jerry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you can't control his mental state, and I'm truly sorry you've been put in the position of feeling you have to. Talk to some older relatives, trusted people at school or organizations you're involved in, or a suicide prevention hotline and see if they can help you. Good luck.
2007-07-10 07:19:35 · answer #4 · answered by MM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make a list of everything that he does thats good, and things that other people cant do as well as he can, and then remind him of a different one in a subtle way every day. ask him for advice or help on how to do things. makes him feel needed and important. most of all, DON'T pity him, or give him sympathy. It'll keep him in the depression state, and maybe even make him feel guilty for making his children pity him.
2007-07-10 07:19:38 · answer #5 · answered by Prokizzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't, no one has that kind of power. You could point out that killing himself doesn't help you and it leaves you with out a father. Get him to a doctor for treatment.
2007-07-10 07:22:54 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who talks about suicide is reaching out to get help for their problems. You cannot stop him, but you can call a hotline to see if you can get help, because it seems that you need help dealing with this, and dad needs help dealing with his problem.
All you have to do is call 411 and ask for the national hotline for teens and you ask them where you can call to get dad the help he needs. Good luck....
2007-07-10 07:22:49 · answer #7 · answered by What Will The Spill Kill? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer think of he will die. i've got no longer heard something concerning the actor who performs him leaving. in spite of the undeniable fact that, i be attentive to that the actress who performs Sarah Louise would be leaving Coronation street. i will certainly be gazing the marriage and then right here week i think of it is going to likely be Stacey and Bradley's wedding ceremony in Eastenders. a great month for cleansing soap weddings!
2016-10-01 07:42:50 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this is a very very serious problem, and he definitly needs professional help. Try taking him to a therapist or somthing and if that doesn't help put him on medicine.
and try talking to him about why is he depressed etc;
i wish you the best!!
i hope you don't lose your dad!! :]
2007-07-10 07:32:41 · answer #9 · answered by **a bay bay!!** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SEE IF THERE IS A LOCAL CHAPTER THAT HELPS MENTAL ILLNESS. I DONT KNOW WHAT STATE YOU LIVE IN BUT IN OKLAHOMA YOU CAN TURN SOMEONE OVER IF YOU THINK THEY MIGHT HURT THEMSELVES. THEY WILL HELP. CALL THE POLICE IF YOU DONT KNOW WHO TO CALL AND ASK THEM IF THEY KNOW ANY PLACE IN TOWN THAT HELPS WITH MENTAL ILLNESS. YOUR DAD IS VERY DEPRESSED AND HE NEEDS YOU MORE THAN YOU WILL EVER KNOW. BELIEVE ME I HAVE BEEN DEPRESSED AND NO ONE WOULD HELP OR COULD UNDERSTAND ME.
2007-07-10 07:24:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋