I was in a relationship with my fiance (now my ex) for over 5 years. We were supposed to be getting married in 2 months. 6 weeks ago, he called off our wedding due to the fact that he has been seeing a married woman for the past 2 months and "is in love with her". I have cancelled everything (caterer, reception hall, dj, etc), however many of these places will not return my deposits. Also, the cost of my bridal gown and the bridesmaid dresses which I had to pay for because they were ordered months ago. I paid for the majority of the items myself, although he did pay a few hundred dollars. My question is, is there a way that I can make him pay me back for the money that I have lost due to his cancelling the wedding?
2007-07-10 06:46:47 · 18 answers · asked by Ann 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Your only chance here would be to take to him small claims court. How successful you will be in this is another story.
Im no expert but i would think you would need to PROVE his infidelity and the fact that you wanted to marry and prove he changed his mind.
I hate lawyers.. but you may want to atleast consult one for this.
2007-07-10 06:50:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 0⤋
Well it's going to cost you a few dollars but you can contact an attorney and tell him/her your story and ask for their advice.
But before you contact an attorney, you need to look at the contracts that you signed for the various wedding services. Did you sign them or did both of you sign them? Or did your parents sign the contracts?
True story . . two weeks before a wedding the Bride changed her mind. The couple had just purchased a brand new home and both of their names were on all the financial contracts and mortgage. The contracts for the caterer, the live band, the hotel banquet room, the officiant, the wedding cake baker, and the floral designer were all signed by different people (the bride's parents, the groom's parents, the bride, or the groom). Because each contract had a "cancellation" clause each person either lost their deposit OR had to pay the balance of the bill IN FULL because of the "cancellation" notice (two weeks). And it's tough paying for a band that you will not hear or see!
If any of your contracts state "Nonrefundable deposit" then you are not going to get your deposit back. When you sign a contract with a band or a floral designer or a wedding cake baker you are conducting "a business transaction" with them, and asking them "to hold that day and time" for you.
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
2007-07-10 17:53:30 · answer #2 · answered by Avis B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on where you live...you can be compensated. I would check with a local attorney that deals with civil issues and divorces. See if in your state if an engagement is considered a contract. Based on the fact that he strayed and gave you such short notice you may be entitled to some of the costs. However, in some states they say you are out of luck because it is okay to realize you are not ready to be in the lawful commited relationship at any point in time. I hope you find some answers soon. As for getting the money back from the actual retailers you can forget it. They take the depoists just for this reason. Many times they have to say no to other brides and special events because you booked them already. If you cancel, they lost all the other business you contracted them to do.
2007-07-10 13:59:46 · answer #3 · answered by plutarian04 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way you can get money back from him is to take him to those small court. And bring all your paperwork of all the places that you have paid for. And let the judge know that all this cancellation of the wedding a couple months before the wedding is all his fault and tell the judge what he has been doing.
2007-07-10 14:36:02 · answer #4 · answered by TJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a cheater. I doubt that you have much chance to get him to pay unless he is on the contracts also. You should probably be thankful that you found out know instead of later that he is a louse. You could have been married with a couple of kids. Just cut your losses and run. He is a loser big time.
2007-07-10 14:07:07 · answer #5 · answered by bluebird 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Small clainms court make sure you have receipts. You wont get any of your deposits back. It is not their fault that your wedding was cancelled. So now you have to fit the bill unless you sue him.
And Im sure you guys will split the costs 50/50 unless you get a judge that thimks its totally his fault and makes him make up for it.
2007-07-10 14:16:26 · answer #6 · answered by chattergurl1986 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'd say be calm-cool- and collectedaround him, as hard as it may be (since he's a bastard for doing what he did!!) and just try to be semi-polite to the jerk and say, hey considering how things ended w/ me and how I paid for the majority of the wedding, could you find it in your heart to pay me some money back for the expenses loss due to your infedelity.
It's TOTALLY not fair to you that he cheats, you pay for most of it, and you lose everthing. he should have to pay something back!
if this doesn't work threaten to sue! :P never know, that may scare him enough to pay :p
sorry about this misfortune
2007-07-10 13:54:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Consider the fact that you are not going to be stuck married to a cheater and loser for the rest of your life payment enough! My ex husband owes me tons of money that I am not persuing because it is worth the loss of the money to not ever have to deal with him again :)
2007-07-10 14:56:16 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I would let it be. I know you lost a great deal of money but it could've been alot worse. You could've MARRIED a CHEATER! And had the wedding of happened you would've been out a heck of alot more money with someone that wasn't ready for the commitment you obviously are.
I'm so sorry! There is obviously someone alot better for you out there. KARMA!! ;)
2007-07-10 14:13:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunetly, no, unless his name was in some of the contracts for the catering etc. in which case, he owes you 50%. If yoru parents or you were paying for the wedding, it will be your loss, sorry.
You can try ebay to resell some items to try to get back at least some.
I'm very sorry
2007-07-10 13:52:43 · answer #10 · answered by Blunt 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It depends whos name it is all in, if both, fine bill him for half, see a solicitor. You will lose most of it anyway, check any contracts you have. The likes of the dress , which is probally ready you will lose the lot. Sue him for it, if he wont obligingingly help out with his mess
2007-07-10 13:52:45 · answer #11 · answered by leigha 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋